How deal with these 2 certain things afterwards?

TheSteveSteward · 2026-05-26T20:26:22+00:00

The answer to both questions is you have to feel those feelings to move through them. Distractions help temporarily but you gotta get those feelings out to feel anything better.

ToughPill · 2026-05-26T20:12:57+00:00

You’re going through an identity shift as you have to think of yourself as something other than a provider. Recognize that and get new stuff as you see fit. For me I took everything that was her “taste” and tossed it in the barn.

RunPeaceRun · 2026-05-26T18:32:39+00:00

I changed the position of furniture and got carpet, paintings, installed new lamps. This way I see her ghost really less. Removed every photo at home, threw to trash whatever left from her. Put some stuffs to internet to sell.

about second thing I don’t know. She also indirectly made me feel like weak, lazy, fat and so on. I go gym, go to swim naked, read book, plan my career and so on. I can’t think or know how to date / sleep yet as tinder was not even launched when I got in relationship. I don’t feel comfortable yet to use them

Maximum-Molasses-143 · 2026-05-26T14:48:54+00:00

Date/sleep with other women and ignore your ex at all costs. Women are petty and she’s just trying to get to you. Simply ignore and enjoy the fact you kept your house

HOllowEdOwL · 2026-05-26T14:16:25+00:00

I recently rewatched Fight Club. There's a scene where Tyler is driving and he's saying stop trying to control everything and let go. It really resonated with me. I was worried about rumors and what people would think but Ive come to realize I cant control it and I just let go. Reject nihilism and embrace absurdism. You're going to be just fine.

LaCathedrale · 2026-05-26T14:00:29+00:00

You can't force yourself to stop thinking about her. It will naturally get less and less over time. Short term - close your eyes, take three slow deep belly breaths, wiggle your toes and then another three slow deep breaths. Mid term - give yourself the grace of 5-10 minutes in a day to feel these feelings and then commit to doing something else after that time. Long term - make sure you are doing things with your spare time that don't involve sitting on reddit/doomscrolling: get involved with clubs, hobbies, etc.
Ignore the rumours, there's nothing you can do about it and anyone who believes that rubbish from a clearly spited ex probably isn't worth your consideration.

Title	How deal with these 2 certain things afterwards?
Author	invetiablebig
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Date	May 26, 2026 1:56 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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