I posted a couple days ago that I could only feel anger, well the sadness has hit and it’s so much worse

Particular-Depth-973 · 2026-06-01T00:45:30+00:00

Move back into the marital home. Do not take your anger and sadness out on your child by moving away from him or her.

RoutineHuckleberry82 · 2026-05-31T11:43:37+00:00

I hear you and have been, still kinda am, there. Something I realized for myself at least, is that I am not right back where I started 16 years ago. Everything else I have done and accomplished is still there. My marriage is all that is gone. That’s not to say it is a huge loss, but it isn’t everything. Feel your feelings, because you have every right to each one of them. I spend a lot of time sitting next to a river and starting to journal and therapy were my first big steps forward in my reboot. Time does heal, just make sure you spend it healing and not ignoring your feelings and learning from your experience.

myxyplyxy · 2026-05-30T23:47:05+00:00

I can really empathize buddy. It is a dark spot. Very few things are worse. It is going to be tough as nails, but you will find the strength. But not today, today it is ok to cry and feel despair.

bridge1999 · 2026-05-30T23:36:48+00:00

One foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. Use your free time to get stuff done so it doesn’t have to be done when your kid is with you

Spared-No-Expense · 2026-05-30T23:19:58+00:00

its gonna take a while, but eventually you will realize that while the sweetness of raising kids with their bio mother, and grandchildren with their bio grandma is a loss, it can actually be replaced by something different and perhaps even better.

would you rather babysit your grandkids and raise your child with a bio mom who things were just okay at best with? or raise those kids and go on vacations and stuff with a woman who truly enjoys her time with you and is ride or die. they are out there. they are rare. and maybe u will get lucky. chin up. this isnt the end of the world, just the start of a new one that might even be better.

curiouszm · 2026-05-30T20:16:13+00:00

I also started with anger, then transitioned to sadness and fear of the unknown future. This rollercoaster went on for almost a year. I'm now way better and feel good about splitting, but the sadness still kicks in every now and then. When these emotions are really intense, I take a walk, go swimming, simply just to preoccupy my mind with something else after realizing staying in the house, alone, abroad with no close friends that are frequently available made it worse.
I'm not a parent, so maybe you'll take longer to feel good again but don't give up.

kykoo · 2026-05-30T20:10:06+00:00

You’re hurting. And it’s normal. But as you said it your son needs a dad. It’s ok to be sad, it’s not to take the easy way out. You’re better than this. Make plans. Living at your family must allow you to save some cash. Plan how much you need before being comfortable getting your own place. Plan how can you get your career back on tracks. Plan to become more muscular. It will take time, a lot of time, but it will builds up and you’ll feel better progressively. You’re not alone, we all have been there.

Title	I posted a couple days ago that I could only feel anger, well the sadness has hit and it’s so much worse
Author	SwanInitial7493
Upvotes	13
Comments	7
Date	May 30, 2026 7:54 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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