Explain yes means yes

Gawernator · 2015-12-31T00:12:34+00:00

Means don't f**k with psycho feminists and your chances of having these issues will lower.

BrodinsOats · 2015-12-31T05:47:53+00:00

I like tons of foreplay and talking dirty to a girl as I escalate. "Do you like that?" with a sly grin as I'm pinning her down and grinding against her. Drive her crazy with teasing until she's begging me to fuck her. "Do you want me inside of you?" Etcetera.

I figure this is the best form of "affirmative consent" that you can get without killing the moment.

More importantly, you must not do anything to threaten her reputation. And if you do, you must supply some comfort.

Example: you met her while out drinking and went home with her. She has a boyfriend, and her roommate walked in on the two of you. As soon as you finish, you elect to quickly bounce. No comfort provided to assure her that you might be a viable branch to swing to; she's just been pumped and dumped.

This is a recipe for a false rape allegation. Get the idea?

gainzndamez · 2015-12-30T23:47:44+00:00

In practical terms it means that a woman can withdraw sexual consent after the act is completed. Thus you want to be very careful about fucking women if you're under the jurisdiction of such a thing.

BaconEggsAndSleaze · 2015-12-31T07:07:19+00:00

It's the feministic way of taking all power from men in the bedroom.

Essentially they want you, as the man, to ask her:

Do you want to have sex?

If she does not respond with a clear and confirmed

Yes

You did not receive consent.

This is obviously terrible because it will ruin the immersion, and moment.

blacwidonsfw · 2015-12-31T00:58:43+00:00

I'm going to make a consent form app. A boiler plate template: "I consent to having anal, vaginal, and oral intercourse with xyx", then a spot for the name and date. Then the girl has to sign it with her finger and the phone takes a screenshot of her face as she signs it and emails the confirmation to myself so it's time and dated.

I'm sure even that won't be enough.

Homosapiensized · 2015-12-31T01:35:42+00:00

It means to make sure the girl your fucking actually wants to fuck you.

donit · 2015-12-31T18:35:36+00:00

Yes means yes means you need to make sure you get continual consent from the girl, not just before or during the act of sex. But since you really can't predict how she's going to feel about you, or how she's going to feel about what you did to her- the day after, you really have no control over whether or not she'll continue to give her consent.

Her friends roommates or family might put a lot of pressure on her, causing her to regret it, and even possibly to retroactively withdraw her consent.

So if you want to be safe, you might want to take the girl out once or twice first in order to establish yourself as a safe situation to the people in her life who have a lot of influence over her, so when you finally do the deed, it won't sound to them like something happened to her.
A way to test the situation is to ask yourself: How is this going to look to the people in her life, if they find out later on that night, or the next day? Because they probably will.

merciless_smelliot · 2015-12-31T02:18:31+00:00

It's only rape if she perceives you as beta. period. always film that shit for your own safety. get her permission too and then she has to obey your every fucking word from here to infinity if she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life sucking dick in a vegas truck stop.

Bascome · 2015-12-31T04:58:14+00:00

It means, even if you tape the sex unless she is saying yes yes yes yes yes yes yes non stop you could be fucked.

If you have said video you might be fucked if it can be argued that she was not talking about sex.

Title	Explain yes means yes
Author	vic_rattle18
Upvotes	8
Comments	23
Date	December 30, 2015 11:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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