invited girl to bar last night. This is what she says. What next?

SkorchZang · 2016-01-17T00:28:56+00:00

This has got nothing to do with your looks man. All about the attitude the girls are reading in you.

They can absolutely smell that vibe on you that you're not getting anywhere with girls, that you're anxious and frustrated. When you become more successful, you will paradoxically find pulling just got a lot easier all of a sudden, for no good reason. It's like they all want you, when you're drowning in pussy, but when you're in that dry spell they know it somehow and you're the untouchable leper to every girl.

So what to do? Can't expect any mercy from the women, so it's up to you to break this cycle by deliberately putting on a false front, i.e. acting as if you're drowning in pussy. Even though you're not.

Women are constantly reading many subtle cues from you that you would probably never think twice about, but to her it's providing excellent information. You can use this to your advantage by deliberately dropping "offhand" cues that you're a man who's always surrounded by women, all of whom want you. It can't be obvious, because then she will instantly see through you. Ideally, you want to drop those hints in ways that appear 100% innocent, and then when she grills/shit tests you about it, act like you're an angel and she needs to get her mind out of the gutter! Be cheeky in response to those grillings, defuse with humour. This builds attraction, because that's exactly the way SHE KNOWS a man who gets a lot of pussy would act. She'll think you can't possibly be faking it, because that's just how you always are.

Getting down to the specific situation with bar girl now, she is not super interested but is not completely disinterested either. Right now you're a "definite maybe" to her. The reason you're in this unenviable maybe-land is that you are acting hungry, which she can see right through, but at the same time you're putting on a fake appearance of "being the nice guy". That is what Beta males always do, she has seen it hundreds of times before. Let me take you out to X, too bad you couldn't stay longer.., let me be your clown all night long I will entertain you so good, girl. The entire tone of these propositions is submissive: you're an unworthy peasant, courting Her Highness' amazing cuntflaps. She can't help but be somewhat bored, because that's what every guy is normally doing. Trying to look like a good guy and thinking entertaining her is his job. Fuck that man, you should be instead going out to have selfish fun - for yourself first. She just tags along to wherever you happened to be going anyways at the time, to enjoy the ride with you. As you're having tons of fun, you're in no way trying to impress her. Make her try to impress you, by acting unimpressed by all her attempts and teasing her like she's your bratty little sister. After a little bit of this treatment, sexy tension starts to build between you. You can feel it, that spark is just in the air. That's where you surprise her by being bold, and "escalating" - i.e. you were just laughing and then bam! all of a sudden you're making out, and your hands are all over each other. Taking her breath away. It can't be forced, you first need to let that sexy tension grow between you on its own, until you feel like you both are drawn and fucking want it. So when you do it, the girl surrenders herself to you, she can't do anything else since she herself wants the same thing as you.

With this specific girl, I'd just give it a week or so, ask her out again, cheery like nothing ever happened. Always ask yourself "what would a guy say/do, who has 3 playboy mansion bunnies waiting for him in the bubble bath back home RIGHT NOW?" - then say and do what that guy would. This is the attitude that will put women's natural interest in you into the stratosphere.

Rojopill1986 · 2016-01-16T23:11:57+00:00

If you switched what you said with she said. That cadence would prolly get you laid. Act like your presence is a present, not the other way around

Str8_Pillin · 2016-01-17T00:12:04+00:00

im freaking tired of all this bullshit

How will i ever freaking meet women?

I can sense your neediness and I can't even physically see you.

"too bad you couldnt stay longer... we had gone for karaoke after." "well other time then... see you soon"

If you throw out a 'too bad you couldn't stay longer', everyone knows that has sexual undertones. All you needed to do was get the positive reaction, which you did, and then you go back to normal. Talk how you talked before you went out with her. And then the next time you go out with her you know that your boundaries are pushed that much further, and now you have something real to work with.

If you were with her you could escalate. This was a message the following morning. And you went right to the eager beaver routine, "ok, when? Can it be now? Can it be tomorrow, this weekend? When? When can I get some ass?"

Go silent, don't contact her first, if she inquires then you still have a shot. If not, sorry dude, hopefully you learned something.

abdada · 2016-01-17T00:06:32+00:00

You stayed at a bar too long. Bad idea.

One drink max per bar then bounce to another bar closer to your house and bounce to your house for a drink.

Amateurs hang out at one place. Did she meet anyone else while you guys stayed in one boring place all night? Friends or anything?

user_none · 2016-01-17T01:07:28+00:00

What next? Stop putting so much of your life's emphasis on women. Improve yourself for...whom? Live your life for...whom?

BeefJesusMaker · 2016-01-17T00:48:47+00:00

If you go out with her and a group of people, that's a friendly atmosphere. There's no chance of you getting her alone and escalating things on a sexual level. If she won't go out with just you, don't waste your time on her.

itsbooming · 2016-01-17T02:06:52+00:00

Ditch her. When a chick is into you , you will know. There will be no mistaking it. If she had the fucking flu she would try to see you one way or another.

She's not interested in sexual relations with you. The only thing to do unless you actually enjoy spending time with her knowing she has no attraction to you is withdrawl. Your time is being wasted if you are looking for sex from her, so spend it better.

There are women out there right now wanting to fuck you , you just aren't noticing them.

Fulp_Piction · 2016-01-17T03:59:02+00:00

A lot of good advice here, things you should understand. But to answer any kind of "does she like me" question, use the Brad Pitt rule (it sounds shitty, I know, but it's spot on): if you were Brad Pitt (or any other famous person), would she have said the same thing? If the answer is no, she's not into you enough.

Also check out Heartiste's maxims.

yolosun · 2016-01-17T13:50:06+00:00

You come off very needy. Fake it (abundance) til you make it and learn how to escalate on your dates.

Title	invited girl to bar last night. This is what she says. What next?
Author	f187
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Date	January 16, 2016 10:36 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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