Let's talk leveling up

Sage_Planter · 2020-08-21T01:05:18+00:00

I'm extremely active, and my advice is always the same: the best fitness plan and nutrition plan are the ones that you actually want to stick to. What's a fitness routine that excites you? What activity will get your butt out of bed in the morning? What are healthy snacks that fulfill you? I'm a huge fan of daily walks (in addition to other daily activity), but if you find it boring, you're never going to stick to it.

I'm also a huge fan of trying everything. You might like yoga. You might hate it. You might enjoy YouTube Zumba classes. You might hate kayaking. There's so many ways to be active, and I highly encourage you to find the ones that make you happy.

Mountain_Nectarine_6 · 2020-08-21T01:06:26+00:00

I gained 50 pounds in 2 years after I broke my arm and ended a toxic relationship with a LVM. My self esteem was still high (or so I thought) but I could tell the men I was going on dates with weren’t as excited as before my weight gain, and were equally or more obese than me and I wasn’t attracted to them and they weren’t that attracted to me either but we both were going on these dates because we had no other options, and because I was obese, they weren’t putting out full stops as I was used to.

So, I upgraded myself and lost the weight through daily walking and intermittent fasting. I counted my calories and used a food scale to weigh all my food. I walk every day for at least 30 minutes even if I don’t want to. By the end of my walk, I feel glad and happy I did. I lost 50 pounds in half a year (this year), and not eating takeout every day (only once or twice a week).

I’m still overweight by 10 pounds and will keep losing weight slowly (because those six months were through religious tracking and effort and dedication) but I feel much better and it’s easier now and I notice men treat me better and I attract more attractive men.

The first few months are the hardest. I cried myself to sleep every night for the first month because I was hungry but I knew I had to do it for myself to be more confident and feel better about myself and attract men who care about their health.

Figure out your TDEE based on your height, age, and weight. Then eat at 500 calories minus that. Don’t eat back your exercise calories. Weigh ALL your food. If you can’t weight it, don’t eat it. Try not to eat packaged food because the chemicals will make you crave it even more. I cut out bread, rice, and processed sugar. Sugar is a real addiction and breaking it is hard. You can allow yourself these things once in a while once you get to an okay weight.

r/LoseIt is a good sub to follow for motivation. Just know the beginning is the hardest but YOU WILL lose weight and you’ll feel better and it’ll get easier once you’re already on a roll.

Intermittent fasting (paired with daily walking) is the best sustainable option for me and hopefully this works for you too.

Btw I tried diet pills, prolonged fasting like a week of not eating and I ended up gaining the weight back and more. You don’t need to be too hard on yourself. You didn’t gain the weight overnight! You’ll lose 1-3 pounds, possibly more, a week just doing this I promise.

I currently walk a minimum of 3 miles a day but typically 10 miles. I was formerly obese and couldn’t even walk a mile without blisters and feeling sore but I kept walking 30 minutes a day and eventually I’m where I’m at now, and I know I will only keep improving.

Also, disclaimer- I started my weight loss journey because I was tired of being treated like shit by men AND women. But after the initial first couple weeks, I started doing it for myself because I genuinely felt better from the endorphins and not eating like shit- and that’s what really makes this all sustainable— because I actually like eating healthy now and having daily exercise.

oldncranky1982 · 2020-08-21T01:17:58+00:00

If you have a thyroid issue then you need to address that first. That's a serious health issue. You also need to stop beating the hell out of yourself. You can't lose weight through shame. It's just not sustainable.

StarSweeper86 · 2020-08-21T01:12:13+00:00

I have been counting calories (frequently referred to as CICO/calories in, calories out on reddit subs) for the last year and I have lost 90lbs. I track my meals and water using MyFitnessPal. I try to eat nutrient-dense (think lots of veggies and protein) meals that have a lot of volume so that I will feel full and satiated.

Reddit subs (r/loseit, r/CICO, and r/progresspics) have been great motivators for me. Seeing other people's progress is super inspiring!

I also do intermittent fasting. There is some debate as to how much it actually aids in weight loss, but overall I like it because it helps keep me on a regular meal schedule and keeps me from late night snacking.

I was exercising at the gym from last July all the way through March of this year. However once we went into lockdown and my gym closed temporarily, I had a hard time getting motivated to exercise and to be honest I haven't exercised at all since March. Despite that, I have still managed to lose 45lbs since then just strictly counting calories.

If you have the motivation and the discipline, you can be unstoppable. I wish you the best of luck!

Edit: I also wanted to add that I too have struggled in the last with long-term weight loss success. This time around, I feel differently about it though. I have had a complete mindset shift about my nutrition and lifestyle when it comes to my diet and I won't be going back to my old ways once I reach my goal and I think that is the key. Realizing that it is a life long change and commitment.

You have to figure out a nutrition plan that works for you long-term. Something that doesn't leave you feeling deprived, or you'll inevitably end up caving at some point. I don't know your current diet, but if it's something that you struggle with, seeing a nutritionist could also be a huge help if you find the change too overwhelming.

AbundantOverflow · 2020-08-21T01:12:55+00:00

I lift weights 5 days a week and do 15 mins of HIIT cardio 2x/week. I have achieved my dream body, and I have better health than ever before. Like a previous poster mentioned, the right thing is whatever you will do consistently. However, I will say that like most things worth having, wellness and fitness require DISCIPLINE. You will not always feel like it. Do it anyway. This is why having a strong “why” is important. You need something to push you forward when motivation runs thin.

I generally eat clean and have healthy versions of indulgences along with treats here and there. I drink roughly 100 oz of water a day. No fast food. I don’t keep junk in my home. I cook often. I don’t count calories, but I watch my protein intake because I need to avoid losing too much weight.

Lean into the adventure of it by being curious and trying things. Your body is a marvelous machine, and it deserves your care. You’ll discover all kinds of interesting new things along the way.

I don’t believe in dieting. I eat to nourish my body. (I strongly recommend reading Food Rules by Michael Pollan if you struggle in this area). Also check out FoundMyFitness for great science-backed info on optimizing health and physical performance.

I suggest the XXFitness sub if you’re looking for inspo/support on the journey. I also have a ton of fitness guides I’d be happy to share if you want to DM me with specifics on your goals.

GlobalDynamicsEureka · 2020-08-21T01:20:58+00:00

Do not for any reason go hard. At the beginning, you have all this motivation to lose the weight, but if you overdo it, you will fail. Make small goals and slowly increase them. Make a plan on a calendar. Use multiple calendars if you need to. Do a long walk around the neighborhood every day at first. Park farther away. Throw out all your unhealthy snacks. Always eat breakfast. Drink only water. My friends and I all bought those cheap Starbucks refill cups and only use them for water all day. Hot black tea works, too. If you drink coffee, only black. Do not put sugar or cream in anything. Don't weigh yourself every day. Every week at the most. It will be a slow process, but it will be healthier and likely last longer. Dropping weight too fast often ends up yo-yoing. I left my husband in November. One of the reasons was because he kept calling me fat. I had gained about 50 lbs in 2 years. Happy to say that I am back down to my natural weight. I didn't get too crazy about any kind of diet or workout routine. I just ate fewer snacks, drank mostly water, took the stairs, etc. I just found ways to move more every day and eat better. Never spend the whole day sedentary. Always get up and do something for 15 mins ever hour or so. This is important if you are working from home right now.

KetoKittenAround · 2020-08-21T03:29:46+00:00

Talk to your Dr and such but from my name you can tell that I’m a believer in the keto diet. I have never seen such total and complete changes in myself.

I actually did the diet to prove it was bullshit because my friend wouldn’t shut up about it. So i was like fine I’ll do it .... I followed it all and I swear I had great results and I didn’t need anything magic or expensive.

Lately log what you actually eat and be brutally honest about it. It helps open your eyes

Mulkvistee · 2020-08-21T03:52:48+00:00

I have thyroid issues too, it really sucked getting that diagnosed! I take a thyroid pill daily now, but before getting that an insane amount of my hair fell out. It was waist length too, and because of my thyroid lost so much it was alarming.

Which brings me to the book! I got a 4.99 eBook called 'Rehabilitating Damaged Hair Naturally' by Melissa Lynn Herold, I'll see if I can find the Amazon link. My hair is BACK. That book teaches how to microtrim, diagnosing hydration vs protein hair issues, and targeted ways to address them. It's all very holistic which I was into because I didn't want to damage my hair on top of the massive thyroid shed. I love all the masks and oils mentioned in it, and had fun doing them with friends or my mom and sisters.

Found the link https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01L9U3G4Q/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_Rv0pFb5TYX8WF

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2020-08-21T04:36:52+00:00

Meditation, yoga, and walking. This combo reduced my stressed, which reduced my munching and snacking, and also side benefit totally cleared up my skin too. I also work out for strength and cardio, but I think the meditation / yoga / walking combo made a bigger difference.

Title	Let's talk leveling up
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