I've noticed that when I am out, whether with my wife or with my male friends, there is always that one guy that is more fucked up than everyone else. I will tell you, I used to be that guy.

When I was single, my main focus was to get as fucked up as possible. Chugging alcohol, smoking weed etc. I'm not talking about a casual buzz here, I mean the loud, stumbling, incoherent asshole. I didn't care what I looked like, and the only girls that would come around me wanted some weed or some of my liquor. Shit, I couldnt even talk to them if I wanted to.

When you're the drunken idiot, you show that you are not in control of yourself, which makes you look weak. You have to rely on others in order to keep you safe, in line, and out of a police lockup. The last person you want doing this for you is a woman, and as a man, you have to keep that shit in check yourself.

Since I've started using TRP tactics, I have slipped up once. I got shitfaced at an event, and the wife told me the next day I was acting like an idiot, and my own mates were laughing at my stupidity.

I broke frame, lost control of myself, my woman and my friends questioned my locus of control. Not only that, I was angry at myself for breaking frame, but realized it was a learning experience.

Ever since that time, I have learned to use alcohol as a tool. I sip on my drink and sit back, watching people acting like fools. If your girl wants a shot, then let her take it. If people at the party are chugging beer, its not a beta/pussy thing to turn it down, in fact you're going against the grain, which makes you stand out, showing you have control. Alcohol is great for bonding and "breaking the ice" for women, but you have to control yourself.

Don't be the drunken idiot.