this guy i'm with is god-awful in bed. I get so dry with him and can't orgasm. Should I tell him?

QualityTrees · 2017-06-05T13:54:45+00:00

Tell him to stop watching so much porn

[deleted] · 2017-06-05T14:00:29+00:00

If he doesn't make you wet, then do him a favour and stop wasting his time. He's got some issues to sort out.

chachaChad · 2017-06-05T14:08:06+00:00

HARD NEXT! You can't fix a broken dick. There is a ocean of rock hard cocks out there for you to sit on. Why waste your time with with Limpy McNoodle?

[deleted] · 2017-06-05T14:54:00+00:00

Why are you trying to have sex with someone who doesn't turn you on?!

DamnDirtyApe87 · 2017-06-05T13:47:33+00:00

Are you a man or a woman? Why are you asking this here anyway?

Frigzy · 2017-06-05T14:30:54+00:00

I don't want to hurt his feelings

Too late. He doesn't make you wet.

Think about your options for a second though. If you tell him, what could be the best possible consequence? He suddenly turns into an attractive stud? Highly unlikely. Even if he doesn't take it personally, probably your best outcome is even more awkwardness due to his conscious effort to remedy the situation.

If you don't tell him, things won't change, for better or worse.

That leaves you with the option of leaving him... From what I can see, you're in a lose lose situation unfortunately.

to_glory_we_steer · 2017-06-05T14:35:34+00:00

Sounds like he watches too much porn, in any case... You don't have to be honest to get what you want, tell him what you like, show him what to do, communication is important at any level.

If he doesn't change then it's down to you whether you next him

epicness · 2017-06-05T15:21:16+00:00

You're on the wrong sub

Juan-San · 2017-06-05T15:48:43+00:00

You're better off asking this at TRP women sub. We're harsh and I think it would be better for you to know how have other women dealt with this situation.

Anyway, fuck his feelings. Tell him and dump him. He might not be completely turned on by you, or he might have any kind of condition that makes it hard for him to get hard. It's not something YOU have to fix, and unless you live in Chubbynerdville, it's not gonna be hard for you to find another guy that won't fail on turning you on.

JackGetsIt · 2017-06-05T15:49:49+00:00

Why are you sleeping with a guy that doesn't turn you on at all? Did you turn you on early in the relationship and now it's dipping or has it always been like this? You should tell him, not in a covert girl way, tell him in a direct, "I'm dry, we need to do a drastic change in the bedroom, please." You'd be surprised how responsive a guy can be when you angle it from the perspective of "let's try fun new sex stuff!!" If he get's offended then yea get out of there.

DadOnDabs · 2017-06-06T20:57:21+00:00

I'll fix your problem OP. I'm sex god certified.

In all seriousness though he's probably just inexperienced and nervous. Dirty talk him and make him want to fuck you. You two have to build that sexual energy together.

refusewool · 2017-06-05T14:07:56+00:00

Become more attractive or fuck more attractive guys

BlackMisc · 2017-06-05T13:52:22+00:00

are you trolling

Title	this guy i'm with is god-awful in bed. I get so dry with him and can't orgasm. Should I tell him?
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Date	June 5, 2017 1:46 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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