On the topic of "dating." Whether it is your wife, girlfriend or plate, there is one simple thing you need to get across.

I found myself sitting at the bar in a Shreveport, LA this weekend with "Mandy" whom I met on Bumble less than 14 days ago. As we sat there eating our lunch of beans and rice and gumbo, with her hand in my lap she looks and me and tells me that the most attractive thing about me, is the fact that "I do not need her."

I do not need her....let that sink in for a minute.....

When she told me that, I looked at her, and gave her a nice kiss on the lips. In a fun/cocky way I affirmed what she said, "Yes, I do not need you, but I choose to spend my time with you, and like you say choice is far more attractive than need."

One way or another, she gets it. She understands why she is there, sitting with me having lunch at a restaurant I chose to go to after spending the weekend with me going to a wedding she was invited to. A wedding where she was grinning ear to ear introducing me to her friends and extended family.

She savored the looks on their faces when I was able to carry on a conversation, fit into her circle with seamless effort. When I took the 80 year old grandma to the dance floor for a dance. When I danced with flower girl, the bride and most importantly when I spun her around on the floor like a little girl. She knew that she had the most high value man at that wedding. I would argue I worked that room harder than she did. She had to come and find me, and pull me back.

She loved how I already knew what club we were going to after the reception was over. There was no discussion, just hop in the truck and lets go. We are both dressed up, the night is young and we are on vacation, so lets go build a memory.

She knew two things going into this weekend.

  1. I love wedding cake and never pass it up.
  2. I love LA Gumbo.

So for me, beyond the fact I fucked her brains out before and after the wedding. Beyond the fact she gave me road head for 20 mins on the drive back to Dallas. Beyond the fact that she did not wear underwear all weekend under that short dress she wore to the wedding....

All that aside....

I got what I wanted...Wedding cake and Gumbo.

Everything else was a bonus.