1000 Foot Rope

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May 22, 2018
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If you're here, I hope you know of the Captain/first mate relationship dynamic. To adequately pilot a ship, someone has to be Captain. As a man, that's YOUR job. You can listen to suggestions if you have a proven first mate, but the ultimate decisions are up to you. You can't co-captain a relationship any more than a ship or a plane.

So, your boat is chugging along nicely, why not go down to the cabin for a few drinks? You've been mostly keeping it on the designated heading, despite the busted compass and clocked rudder. The first mate is capable at the wheel for a few hours. She can keep it on course. Damn it's nice down here. Big screen, lots of snacks. Can't even hear the kids. Start getting more and more comfortable, letting the responsibilities of life slip away and not really caring where the ship is headed. Shit I drank too much.

But the first mate never wanted to be captain. That's why she chose you all those years ago. She resents how she has to pick up your slack, resents how you felt somehow ok just being a couch potato all day, resents how your mutual hopes and plans have somehow faded away without a whimper. Doing a job she hates because somebody has to keep the whole thing afloat. Where the fuck is this thing even headed?

You've become a fat, lazy, whiny drunk. She sees you as one of her children, just another need she needs to fulfill. She's your mommy, your cheerleader, your babysitter, your co-captain. No respect, no sex. You're just not an attractive person. So she gives up. Finally stops the boat and jumps ship into her own little life raft. You're still tied together by this long line, 1000 feet of rope coiled between you, but you're essentially on separate vessels.

As you awaken from your stupor, hangover pounding, low angle sun streaming painfully in, you realize the engines are silent. You are alone. But nobody delivered breakfast! You come up on deck. Dead in the water. First mate nowhere to be found. You're drifting towards the rocks. Shit. How did it get to this?

You have to do something. Where are the damn keys? Fuckfuckfuck....Under the visor, stupid. Ok, started. Choose a direction leading away from the rocks, apply a little gas. You remember how to drive this thing?

If you freak out and push the throttles to their stops, the propwash will rock the life raft, and the first mate will wake up, get up and grab the keys away. Rightly so, you've been a fuckup for years, why should she suddenly start trusting you, Captain Rambo? Your balls haven't grown back yet, so you'll let her regain/retain control. Back to your rum. You have no business wearing that ridiculous hat. Mommy is so mean!

You have to ease it away, slowly, gradually picking up speed. Be gentle. Don't tell the fucking first mate anything. She won't believe you anyway. Takes discipline and patience and most importantly, SILENCE. STFU. SSSHHH!

As you continue to get up on plane, speed rising, you start to realize how cool it is to be captain of your own vessel again. You're enjoying life again. Holy shit! I don't need a first mate at all! Engines humming, buzzing the hot houseboat hotties, getting a tan in the hot sun, like is good. I'm on a boat!

The first mate has been left behind, still slowly drifting towards the shore. The 1000 feet of rope is paying out, faster and faster. She hasn't noticed any difference from her perspective. Matter of fact, the removal of the burden of taking care of your lazy ass is a bonus. She can sleep in, as long as you don't chop the throttles when you see a log floating in front of you. Made a decision, steer around it smoothly. You don't need to check in with her for a second opinion. You're relearning mastery of your trajectory.

Eventually the rope gets taut, starts to tug. By this point you're so far ahead, jumping wakes, enjoying your cruise, that whether she comes along for a fun ride or not is up to her. You've rediscovered your passion, your drive. You are outcome independent. Almost forgot she was still tied on back there.

She may accept you as her new captain and decide to come along, or not believe you and simply cut the line. Either way you'll keep on doing what you choose to do as captain of your own ship. You can even cut the line yourself if the drag gets too bad or if you decide you'd rather tow that inflatable hot tub full of spring breakers. You get to decide where you pilot your own damn ship.

But be very aware of the 1000 foot distance between you. It takes a long time for something on the end of such a long lead to respond to changes at the front. Give it a minute.


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Title 1000 Foot Rope
Author RogerNorvell
Upvotes 80
Comments 27
Date 22 May 2018 09:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit MarriedRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/197950
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8ldqo2/1000_foot_rope/
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[–]Itstinksoutthere12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

To show that his grasp of the 1000ft metaphor is better than most of the new rp retards hanging out around here. Just an assumption.

[–]AlemayehuEfe3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Simple, Effective, Wise. This is very nicely done

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a pretty good allegory for my first marriage. I definitely got comfortable, and let her take the wheel most of the time. She said she felt like she was raising two toddlers and a teenager. It reminded me of my mother; needless to say it was brutal, and there was some truth to her words. Needless to say our divorce was the start of a long and overdue education in where my deficits were and how to be a better man.

[–]theycallmeshiv4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the 1000 ft rope hooked on phonics. Basic storytelling for those suffering from Ramboitis. Good stuff OP.

[–]Madpuffin4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post, really appreciate it. Was exactly what I needed to see tonight. Thanks for pointing the way!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The time comes when you stop pulling and controlling it. You lose all attachment to what others choices are.

That is when you like the freedom that the rope has play in it, and, is 1000 feet or more.

[–]InChargeManMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is this a screenplay you're working on?

[–]boom_bostic1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t have much to offer with this comment however, I really enjoyed reading this post. So keep up the good work.

[–]AgreeableTool1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

THANK YOU. I'm a long-time lurker, first-time poster. Created an account just so I could leave a comment. I've read about this metaphor a lot, but I think you've stated it with great eloquence. I've copied large sections of your post longhand in my journal. Bravo, sir!

[–]deplorable-bastard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I liked it! Good job op, sometimes it’s nice to see the basics told in a different way. As for people saying it clogs this sub, wtf are you talking about this sub is slow as hell and can use all the posts it can get.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (7 children) | Copy

am i crazy or has this exact thing been posted like 3 times before

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

Repetition is the key to learning. Guaranteed half the guys who read all of these won't get it right away and some won't get it ever.

[–]Random_Name_Dave2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also, the newbies. First time Ive seen it and it didnt use 50 terms I havent learned yet.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

sounds like church

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Kneel!

[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

genuflect bitch

[–]ReddJiveMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

perspective. I think of red pill like the parable of the elephant.

[–]Alphaphux-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm with you

[–]benmarvin 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I was with you till about halfway through.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What went wrong halfway through?

[–]Alphaphux-4 points-3 points  (8 children) | Copy

What the fuck?

[–]Itstinksoutthere2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

He’s using metaphors to say don’t go fuckin Rambo out the gate.

[–]Alphaphux-3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy

I got that... why?

[–]AncientDragons0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If you freak out and push the throttles to their stops, the propwash will rock the life raft, and the first mate will wake up, get up and grab the keys away.

[–]Alphaphux-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

Cool if we're playing let's turn every small piece of advice from a massive list of resources into a long winded rain man metaphor I'll start working on a metaphoric STFU piece.

My point is that the 1000ft rope analogy has been detailed numerous times before, this puff piece just clogs up the sub

[–]AncientDragons5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I enjoyed reading it. But tastes vary. Some people enjoy long-winded metaphors. <shrug>

[–]TheIronHeel2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why'd you fkn click on it then?



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