[FR] Why I need the Lag and Some Extra (6 months in)

MRP: 6 months

Frame: Strong mostly, covering up a huge male hamster

STFU: Huge improvement

OI: Outwardly excellent, inwardly very reactive

MAP: Working on it daily

Finances: Messy. Even though it's super important I am child in this. I literally am drained of energy when I budget or plan. This stems from the hard knock life growing up, being ridiculously arty and the fear that I'll plan and then the ceiling will cave in. I am slowly working through FPU curriculum that I found recommended in this sub. But I'm weak sauce in this area, while having braved some big crisis that broke over us from the outside. Bad injuries from a RTA. Housing markets collapse. Own business flaring out.

Physical: Work out hard 6 days a week. 100% Keto. Kettlebells daily 35llbs & 53llbsKg. Swings double and single. Presses. Bicep curls. Overheads. Deadlifts. intermediate level Planks. BJJ X 2 per week. intermittent due to injury rehab.

Sex: Transformed. When I want it. Now I kinda don't want it.

Phase: Anger/Denial

RP Approach: Kinda Purplish but totally up for divorce if necessary. Have a tendency to go Rambo and then back off.

Plates: Not into cheating. I'll burn it down first. But not oblivious to the possibility that she may have based on MRP theory.

Snooping: lately I have become a serial snooper. I pretty overwhelmed by the efficacy of RP in Sex, business and general relationships. So when I read about cucks I worry that's me. This is only offset by people having used the 'Alpha' and random comment about me to me. I would see myself as more Beta than others seem to find me. I really didn't believe this but reconnections with people for my past have led to memories being shared where they recount my actions and I do remember them and I was ballsy by default. Oneitis: I believed in unicorns. I believed I found the one. Now, I am seeing damaged goods. Relationship began pre-wall. Her SMV exceeded mine. She is described as beautiful. I was always stylish but by MRP standards Fat. Now, my SMV nukes hers.

Frame: Slowly starting to come together. I relied on hers because I was enchanted. It was mission accomplished when I married her. The fantasy has lost all its shine but there is a sliver of hope. SO: Responds very well to RP behaviour.

I got bitch slapped around yesterday because of my fantasitically obtuse FR (which wasn't a FR) by u/weakandsensitve and u/2ndal. And rightly so. I am riding the rollercoaster of change and used the forum here to pontificate. My motivation was a desire to help other new guys and ego boost myself. Realistically, I should have dealt with the plank in my own eye and forgot about the speck in others.

I am going to report the areas the I have seen most change and greatest surprises. I would be grateful for the experienced guys to point out my glaring inconsistencies.

Getting out of the house: Due to her Post Natal Depression I walked on eggshells. This was compounded by the shitty confidence i had from the accident, consequent impaired earnings and then a failed business venture. I was trying to resist any further crises hitting the family.

In an effort to get a handle on STFU and form frame, I would just get the fuck out of the house before i'd buckle. I noticed this diminished hard no's. But I performed it with a huge level of butthurt. I no longer do this but even my shit version at the start had positive results.

This has now stopped and I go out when I want and train when I want. Everyone is more appreciative of my presence. I am a superstar to my kids and she is always DTF. Rarely initiates though and does not swallow. Never Starfish or duty. She's adding kink which is fun. However, I am getting pussy fatigue because she's overweight. So, I'm meh. It must be noted that before MRP I was placating bitch negotiating desire. So, the sexual strategy has worked flawlessly.

Note: I think the results have been quick for me because I am unpredictable, hugely passionate on all subjects I am into, very funny, I'm above average in looks, women enjoy my company and my latest business is unique and very interesting to outsiders. This is not to boast but to provide realistic reasoning to why dread kicked in quickly. I am only realising these things again now.

When I was younger and when I met SO I was like this. But, I forgot it all. it took me 6 months of brothers and friends telling me stories about me to even believe them and remember. That's how fucked up i was.

Income has doubled in the last few months. My discipline has increased but if you could see my management of it you would all be like 'Faggot".

Psychological State: having witnessed the transformation of my sex life, the reduction in arguments and the power of frame I was shocked by the results. I have run a few experiments on the sexual front where I wasn't in the mood and it was shark week and the conditions were shit. Still worked. I was shocked by this because I deliberately half assed to see how the practice worked. This helped me swallow more of the pill.

It also threw into light how many Beta behaviours I had slid into. While devouring the sub and sidebar the rationale behind hypergamy and cuckholding really got into my psyche. It has tempted me in thought to considering plates. It has also led to me doubting my paternity and her fidelity. I don't have proof. I have snooped like a motherfucker and can find nothing. But still I fear. When there is something that sets me off balance I hamster like a mad bitch. If I turn off my phone and do some work, I forget about it. But in those contemplative hours my mind returns to it.

Part of the reason for this is the success of MRP practice. I reason that if it's so effective on my sex life with SO it could be conversely true that my slide into betadom has encouraged a branch swing attempts.

Now, I am looking at preparing my options through a lawyer and paternity tests covertly. This stems from my fears which are heightened by the success of MRP practice and the theory around female psych, branch swinging, hypergamy and cuckoldry.

All this boils down to my experience of the success of the MRP as a sexual strategy. Never before did I doubt paternity or fidelity in an consistent way. Now it's a daily thought.

Sometimes guys here lament the lack of change in their SO and sex life. MRP posits the lag to be at least 6 months. What i am saying is if my woman kept pace with me, my emerging frame would collapse if I saw her engaging social with a man or woman in the open confident way that first drew me to her.

So, to any other guys lamenting the lack of change and contemplating plates I would recommend sticking to the timeline. First read U/bluepillprofessors post on positive frame. That's 6 months of nice guy. Hit those 12 levels of dread. It's a month for every year of the marriage. Success in sex can lead to tanks traps in other areas.

The 6 month lag has afforded me the head start to build my frame and internalise strength. If it wasn't this way and my wife jumped to my level I would return to being a pussy worshipper. I am grateful for the lag.

I'd like if the more experience guys could point out some of my blind spots.

TL;DR: Whiny Sex Negotiator gets sex on tap and opens another can of worms. The 6 month lag is window of opportunity if your goal is to get sex, establish a frame and give the relationship a measured chance.