Seeing a lot of posts on here all the time, asking specific questions about how to handle x,y,z. I tried touching on this in my Macro vs. Micro post but, look, I'm not a blogger. I'm a man of action. So here is your answer, to all the questions, by all the new guys: Work hard to make yourself look good, always be escalating with your wife, fuck her like a Taiwanese whore, always be flirting with other women, always chat people up, get out of your house, read your heart out to help modify your superego but you have to go outside and make it happen.
 
It's amazing how you won't give any fucks about your marriage or sex with your wife when you know you can go out and F close any day you want. I wear my ring. I go for the close. Some women get pissed at me for it. Doesn't matter. I do the work. If I got divorced, I'd be swimming in pussy but I'm not and I'm still swimming in pussy because the stay plan is the same as the go plan.
 
This is easy but it's hard. It's easy to read about, it's easy when you're good, but it takes constant work. You should be able to walk out of your door with absolutely no plan, and end up making friends with everyone where you end up: men and women. This takes effort. Being social. Your wife will see you do this with ease. It's Social Proof. You don't need a huge group of friends for social proof. Actually, I prefer just being really likable and having casual conversation with everyone I see vs. spending time trying to cultivate deep friendship. We have to have something I am really passionate about in common and you have to serve some kind of purpose for my mission for that. I go out completely alone. You know how impressive it is to women for a guy to show up somewhere by himself and have the confidence to know everyone in the place by the time he leaves? Anyone can bring their own friends somewhere they like to go. Operate like this in default.
 
Sex is fun I love sex but it's just sex. You have to understand that the sex you are not getting from your wife is the same sex you could be getting from any vagina on the planet of which there are billions. And girls are really, really lame. Like on a level that is sad if you have feelings. And even the "cool" ones, the only reason I am not hanging out with a guy who has the exact same hobbies instead is because she has a vagina and I want that. Otherwise I'll chill with the guy every time. At the same time, I love feminine energy. The anxiety and the timidity is really cute to me and I love it because it leads to sex. It's really a lot of fun how they test you. It's cute. Most guys are just as anxious and timid when you talk to them. Like, I N-closed probably 8 guys yesterday. It's the same I'm just not trying to fuck them.
 
What's the point of this rant... There isn't a point. Take what you want. I smell like girl right now and I'm about to fuck my wife. Your marriage is not a big deal. Sex is not a big deal. You are not a big deal. We're all just roaming around here trying to connect with others because we are social creatures. You staying home, not gaming women, not talking to strangers, you are putting a virus in that process and you should feel like a complete piece of scum because of it. People are very dynamic. You have much to learn from them. Enter the world as a sociologist studying the people you meet. Read them. Manipulate their feelings. This is life. This is how it is meant to be.
 
So last night I'm making out with this tight little yoga bodied 22 year old bartender and I'm thinking... Nothing. I'm just existing. Like you should. I'm just out in the world, one of many, doing the same thing everyone else is doing: trying to connect with people. And it's beautiful. So toss aside all the restrictions you have put on yourself. Or maybe that society has put on you. There is only one truth and it's the present. What are you doing with it? Your wife isn't the only vagina. You aren't the only dick. We're all doing it, it's cheap, it's easy, and it's perfect. How it should be.
 
Rejoice in your struggle. Always, always, always, be escalating sex with your wife because I promise you she is not that cool that you should just be hanging out with her platonically. There are literally hundreds of women in your city/town who want to get fucked by a real man so if you are one, and you aren't getting laid, then maybe you aren't one. Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Keep your house clean, your life organized, your finances managed, your hair cut, your body trim, and just go out and talk to people and you will get what you want from life. It's easy but it's hard. You will find that rejection is fun, shit tests are hilarious, and women are easy. So is life.
 
I play a game I call it Schmidt Game. My wife watches this show New Girl all the time. I don't watch TV, like, ever. No sports, no movies, no series. Okay I watch Game of Thrones but I don't generally waste my life away watching other people do their mission on TV. But there's this character named Schmidt. He's emotional. He's naive and in love. He's vulnerable. He can be completely goofy one minute and completely offended the next. But it's always silly. I mimic this when I am connecting with women. Complete AM. I take them on a rollercoaster of teasing and fighting. I get offended. I tell them I am breaking up with them. And it's never, ever serious, and they know it.
 
So how do you close? You just DO it. You know how many women have confessed to me that they expect the guy to make the move? They all do. All of them. Then I do, and half of them get offended since I'm married. But half of them don't. You don't need a story. Ask them for their numbers. Just hand them your phone with the New Contact window open and they'll put it in or they won't. If they don't, tease a little and challenge them but if they still don't, just smile and tell them it was nice to meet them and go on your way because there is absolutely nothing special about them that isn't special about everyone else. There is no female or friend as your magic bullet. It's you. It's all on you.
 
When you walk into a room, the room is the Red Sea and you are Moses himself. You imagine the world stopping for you because your world does stop for you. You know The Secret. That the Law of Attraction is real and you bring to your life what you focus on. Choose your focus. As Mark Manson puts it, life is a struggle, so choose what you are willing to struggle for. Pick the people you choose to waste it with. You will die, that is for certain. Maybe today. Maybe we are already dead. Maybe death is the answer, and nothing to fear.
 
I was in a store the other day, and I saw a pretty girl. I imagined her being pulled towards me with electric rays shooting out of me. When I walked by, she turned and checked me out, and stopped what she was doing. I was with my wife and kids but I smiled. It works. It's real. You are attracting to your life what you choose to focus on. If you are focusing on not getting laid, you will not get laid. If you believe already that you have 10 plates, sex all the time, and a kick-ass life.... Even if you don't... Guess what will happen? So quit drudging about in the text and GO DO THE WORK. Just believe in it. Trust your intuition.
 
Women are not complicated. I promise you there are far greater treasures to be plundered in this flesh. But they are fun. They relieve me from my world of logic and calculation and we are able to go somewhere together that is even slightly euphoric, although fleeting. I do enjoy their company.
 
I am on a journey to rediscover my mission. I sacrificed it for my marriage and children and it was a very big mistake. I'm a musician. There are videos of me as a child. A little kid. I am watching musicians on TV, singing and dancing alongside them. I knew it then. I knew my purpose when I was not even 2 years old and I let it go because I thought it was a silly dream. When 5 hours go by and they feel like 5 minutes, you are on your mission. Don't question it. You are a car. The road is your mission. The present is what you see in the headlights and it's all that matters right now.
 
Walk outside today and talk to a stranger. Imagine yourself as already being the person you want to be. You will be amazed what happens, that I am sure of, but you have to do the work.