Ok so I've been working on a little field test here that I feel is working and worth sharing. So here is what I've been doing:

  1. I'm not blowing my load - and am 6 days in. Changed nothing else other than my usual RP approach to life and my marriage.

Here are my findings:

  1. Instead of thinking "OK she may not be showing signs to get things going - I'll initiate", I find myself interested in initiating all the time. Lots more motivation to have my hands on her ass / tits, and lifting her skirt. (Which I feel I wasn't lacking in any way before). She likes this.

  2. Talking to women at outside of the home comes much easier, and they seem to respond a little bit better. Some places on the internet say this is from feremones, I think it's all body language and conversation.

  3. I feel fine, in fact (could be plecebo?) I feel a little bit better about things, the whole IDGAF mentality feels stronger. This goes for my entire life, not just married life.

  4. I feel like the mastery of not letting loose when on my own translating into much more control with my wife.

Risks:

  1. there could be health issues that can arise from this, I'm not seeing any. I have had to pinch off at the base there on a few sessions. There are warnings that this can cause issues.

  2. Risk of eye injury when I finally do blow my load on her face.

  3. There are risks of dopamine overdose that lead to a kind of sexual dysfunction similar to porn addiction, where it's hard to get an erection or where you blow your load quickly. I have had trouble with neither in the last 6 days. In fact in the short term so far on both counts I've seen in increase in how fast and frequently I feel ready for action, and also as mentioned before I can control myself now a lot better.

So maybe this is taking a little from Deida's book on learning to control yourself.

Anyway positive results thus far. Interested in anyone else's advice / experience.