Setting: one of my soldiers is staying in my guest room for duty in my area (we live 4 hours from each other). He is a younger guy that I have known for like 5 years, admittedly in better shape than I am, but has a long list of his own flaws.

Last week wife got a spat of drunken ADD and flirted like crazy with me, shit tests, wrestling, spraying me with water from the sink, and me being playful too and just acting kiddish and having fun. He was still just settling in and didnt participate, just co-signed when I nuked her shit tests. Fast forward to last night, go to dinner, friend and I in the car talking about him gaming on women and I will cosign for him when we go out later... shit test.... ignore and it passes. Get home and I am pushing her buttons before we go, aiming for dread and failing. He grabs the sprayer from the sink and shoots her with water while I spray at her with a water bottle, doing the same shit she did last week, trying to liven my old ass up because I was pretty tired.

Here is the kicker, he got a pass with a laughing threat, and I got a shit test and an anger/frustration reaction.

Lesson Learned: not sure yet. It makes me question myself. I have lost weight, I'm in better shape and working towards getting ripped up, passing shit tests with AA, Ignore, and nuke. I have implimented SGM strategies, but I get a ton of resistance to leaving the vanilla and trying new things. I have had a hard time with dread. Been at MRP 8 months now, and I can't really see much reaction to it. She has hit me with the "we have sex once a week, that isnt enough for you," line. The other notable mention is this stinger that I have seen in other threads "if some other bitch wants you she can have you, I wont chase a man." I don't give the second much weight because it isn't true, she initiated our entire relationship.

The whole interaction makes me question my actual progress. I outrank this guy, make more money than he does, I am way more charismatic and I am clearly more intelligent. However, I can admit that he has me on the looks being 6 years younger, and looks cause tingles more than anything... Im not worried about her fucking another dude, but what can I learn from this?