Constant Internal Struggle

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-10-05T00:58:26+00:00

“boring, uptight prude”

She was reflecting you.

Stfu. You only been at this a few months. Married 10 years? Give it 1 year.

Get out your head. Maximize your SMV for the next year. Then you’ll be in a position to have options. You’ve been a lifetime beta, need to transform into a strong confident alpha.

Why turn into a monster? I don’t get it. Becoming an alpha male doesn’t mean becoming a monster.

hack3ge · 2018-10-05T00:45:32+00:00

Calm the fuck down Rambo.

It’s clear you haven’t left the anger phase - I mean if you want to live alone I won’t judge or at least you shouldn’t let me. The reason she doesn’t respect you is you haven’t shown her you are deserving of respect - it’s that simple.

It sounds like to me you are afraid to do the hard work - I was there too. She won’t end the relationship - it’s a shit test. No one jumps off a moving ship - my wife climbed her ass back on after she had jumped off.

You are no where near where you need to be to tell your wife you are gonna fuck other women. My wife knows I can replace her with 3 women half her age - she’s seen it with her own eyes and I could hold frame through that conversation and I’m not even ready to say that to her. You haven’t done the work - follow the program.

As for her attitude - my wife still tests me and gets harpy. But you know what I think it’s cute - her little wrinkled nose, furrowed brow and feigned anger. I love seeing the look in her eye when she gets wet when I don’t stand for her shit. Tonight she threw me some crazy shit test and I say cool don’t bother coming home then - she texts me later that she’s looking at houses online since I told her to move out - I reply make sure it has a pool, the kids really would love a good pool and my house just doesn’t have the room. I could hear her huff from across town - it’s all a game they love the emotions and you have to learn to appreciate it.

The nice thing about MRP is it’s just a guide - it won’t make you a monster, prick, narcissist, cheater or anything for that matter unless you choose to. My favorite thing these days is when the wife gets in a huge huff and calls me an asshole - imo it’s the greatest compliment a woman can give you.

buckeyeboy1977 · 2018-10-05T02:24:26+00:00

Not wise to up the dread while she is expecting there Rambo.

IRunYourRiver · 2018-10-05T01:01:14+00:00

This is the anger phase. MRP is an emotional rollercoaster. But ultimately just remember that your wife is following her biological imperative in a manner exactly analogous to you. Follow Dread. Read the books. Keep a journal. Recognize, even if you fail, the fitness tests. You'll get there. Be patient.

screechhater · 2018-10-05T01:49:35+00:00

Too many fucks given.

Beta sees unicorn is not perfect breaks glass, but still has head up her ass

Kill your hampster and ego, avoid conversations with her calling you “poopy head” and you react with such verbiage.

STFU. Stoicism. Lift. Read. STFU

ReddJive · 2018-10-05T12:53:40+00:00

Divorce already. It's like you are throwing it out there to us as a threat.

MRP you better work or I am divorcing.

Fuck. Look I don't know what it is about guys that come in here and go....holy shit I can divorce and get laid all the time.

Only YOU can't. It's not even about that. If you can't get laid married you sure as fuck can't single. Ok...maybe while you are on that business trip and stop by that little bar for a drink. The local town greeter, Mary Jane Rotten Crotch will, that ONE time. It will be a meaningless fuck though. Inside you will know it, but you would hamster it as a great stride in your masculinity.

So let's just assume you have the frame and the balls to do what you say. I don't think you do. There are all idle threats. You told her you want to fuck other women. Do it. You laid the gauntlet down. You are in charge. So do it.

Thing is your wife is right. You are a faggot. Only she is too polite to use those words. You back down becasue you keep putting yourself into positions where you think you have to be the man and draw a line in the sand. You think your boundaries are literally that. Some line of demarcation that is either crossed or not. A real man, an Alpha, knows that 99% of life isn't about taking a stand. You've done that way too much in your life. You've wasted time and energy on taking stands, dying on hills, or falling on swords.

Then someone moves the goal just little more and you have to take another stand. Stop giving your word, stop trying to make everyone aware of your position in life.

Boundaries are what you want and don't want. Then that is what you do. This is why the Internet and US is so wrapped around the axle about our politics. Everything is stand to take, a position to hold, an opinion to be had. No. It's not. It's not always life and death. Our life is pretty fucking easy these days and if your wife's bitchiness is the worse you got? Fuck, Your hamster is fucking HUGE. Your hamster's dick is so far up your ass your can taste the tip as its poking out your throat.

I don't really give a fuck what you do. Yet don't come in here and say your wife is a bitch and how you can't take it any more.

You have a world of choices out there. Man with options is powerful and you have hamster'd your way out of any of them.

You can't even decide who's cock you want to suck. Your wife's or your hamster's.

simbarlion · 2018-10-05T03:18:29+00:00

You sound amazingly like me, with one exception...it doesn't sound like you like her.

At all.

TheBlueStare · 2018-10-05T04:17:40+00:00

She is PREGNANT. If you leave now I don't care if you dedicated your life to orphans after this everyone will think you're a fucking prick. You need to STFU and work on yourself. If you go Rambo now while she is PREGNANT and ,shit it may be too late, she will hold it against you for the rest of your marriage and probably divorce you in five years because of it. Pregnancy is like one giant comfort test. now is not the time to go Rambo. Not to mention your 4 months into a roughly 18 month process most likely longer because your wife is PREGNANT.

Let's recap you essentially said you have an AAAAF marriage except when she is PREGNANT and then it becomes an FFFFF marriage. And you already knew this from the last time she was PREGNANT but you're upset because she is being a witch again. Why are you upset? You already knew this was going to happen. Get the fuck over it and suck it up the next few months.

Everyone has given you good advice and you can use a lot of it now and definitely in the future. But all the normal rules don't apply during pregnancy and breastfeeding. The hormones throw off the normal patterns there is nothing you or your wife can do about it. So just ride the wave. I am not saying you should keep being a complete beta lap dog, but this is one of the most important times to provide beta. This is the difference between TRP and MRP. Why MRP is TRP on hard. In MRP you have to know when to be beta and when to be alpha. This is the time to provide beta, FYI. My wife has been pregnant or breastfeeding for 5-6 of the last 7 years, so I can relate to your struggles. But you need to just put your head down and STFU and work on yourself. And a year from now or whenever all of her hormones have normalized you'll be ready and in position to make her your slut. And turn your marriage from an AAAAF to an AAAAA.

Edited to add:

This is from BPP levels of dread. Which you can in the wiki on the side bar:

Edit 6: THE USE OF EVEN MINOR FORMS OF DREAD IS NOT SUGGESTED DURING PREGNANCY

We have had reports recently about men using Dread during the wife's pregnancy AND IT CREATES A SHIT STORM.

DREAD is off limits during a pregnancy from what I have seen. They freak out even with soft dread. Anything new, even things like deciding to get in shape and leaving for the gym needs to be handled carefully because it is enough to create an existential crisis in some marriages. You can continue to apply Dread that you have already used- such as going out with the boys, checking out girls, etc. You should NOT start any new dread with a pregnant woman.

The essence of MRP is to be the masculine, rational, logical, leader of your life, your wife, and your marriage and that is even more important with pregnant women. You just can't suddenly become the leader if you were not before. Any major changes are verboten BUT you can roll it out sloooowly and begin to pick up your balls and assert yourself as the man as the natural course of things while still providing lots of comfort.

Reach180 · 2018-10-05T12:09:54+00:00

She knows exactly what to say to get me feeling like I'm wrong, I'm selfish, I'm a narcissist.

First, be OK with being this.

Option 2 is a greater challenge.

There is no option 1 or option 2. Only 1 option. Grow a spine and unfuck yourself. You don't know what your actual options are until you establish what the best version of yourself is.

Lift, read, repeat.

Not exactly. Lift heavy and often, sure. But read and repeat? Less important. Finish the sidebar and start acting. Re-read if you want...but you don't make progress until you start acting, fucking up, and learning from your mistakes.

Also....shut the fuck up. All the stuff you've told her already is a cringe-fest. Stop talking about what you're going to do, what you want her to do, what you're interested in. You're a spineless nice guy pussy who is trying to manipulate her with these threats while acting like you've got some sort of moral high ground. Shut up and get to work.

CareerBeta · 2018-10-05T13:36:32+00:00

Thanks to everyone who responded.

When I said, "I know what the answer is" I obviously missed "STFU."

I'm only going to get the answers I'm looking for after putting in the work.

Title	Constant Internal Struggle
Author	CareerBeta
Upvotes	5
Comments	38
Date	October 5, 2018 12:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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