I think I’m one of those “used to be Alphas” that got beat into submission. One of my kids (a girl) has a lot of emotional problems and that has made us focus on her instead of ourselves. I realize I need to be a man again (for me and for my son) and I’ve been reading everything I can. I’ve adopted a mentality that I will no longer be shaken by things or freeze up from fear. These are things I didn’t do when I was young and I’m sick of being like this. Maybe I don’t understand the STFU approach well enough. I’ve started working out and losing weight and started doing home improvement things on my own without discussing any of this with my wife. (In other words, getting off my ass and being a man again) This is not the problem. The problem is: What do I say or do when she asks me, “What’s wrong?” “Are you mad?” “I was going to say we should go out to lunch but you look like you don’t want to.” etc? Also I think I have resting bitch face. I don’t want her to think I’m mad at her. I’m just trying to do the STFU thing. Maybe I’m approaching it wrong.