Over the years, I've learned the difference between being judgmental and being observant. Sometimes, this is a fine line. One thing I have observed on MRP is new guys often think it's a "race" to become alpha, and a little bit of progress can be easily mistaken as a total transformation. This is the ego
After a lifetime of being lied to by the media, friends, family members, and your own mother, unplugging from the matrix is no easy task. In fact, many of the people that have lied to you are simultaneously lying to their self. So, the line between truth. lies, reality, fantasy, and wishful thinking can become blurred. MRP can often make things more muddy before the clean-up starts It's kind of like cleaning out a garage - it will look more messy than ever before the real progress is revealed.
One of the biggest issues is ego . All too often, we either see a newer guy come on here posting about a situation he needs to fix right now, but in reality, if we provide solutions, they are band-aids, and they generally will not help the new guy's progress.
These type posts start with tell-tale signs of the markings of ego. For example, when I see a guy start off with 'I've always been alpha, but blah blah blah'... or I'm probably a 9 SMV (snd then gives no details about lifts, height, and weight - yes, all three are required for a reasonable analysis)... or 'wife is shit testing me about folding the socks,'... or 'wife gave me a hard no, but I didn't show any butthurt.'... etc... the problem is usually the ego is in the way of the beginning of progress
Progress begins when the new guy has finished all of the sidebar readings and is starting over.
Progress begins when the new guy can honestly post all physical stats Height, weight, and lifts .
Progress starts when the new guy doesn't lace his post with pats on the back or please tell me I'm a pussy pleadings.
Progress begins when the new guy realizes he's been brainwashed and is still brainwashed , and he wants to do the work to deprogram.
Progress begins when the new guy realizes there are guys on this board who have put in a ton of effort, way beyond what he has put in, and he is willing to listen to feedback, no matter how much it stings.
Progress begins when you hit your first lifting plateau after adding 5 pounds a week on all lifts for many months straight.
Progress begins when the new guy has cleaned up his diet, is under 15% BF, and has the stats to back it up.
Progress begins when the new guy realizes he is a pussy with no frame , and he becomes willing to STFU and lift , and then gradually add A&A, AM, fogging and other frame builders.
Progress begins when the new guy has internalized frame and no longer is faking frame, which his LTR will see right through and break easily anyway.
Progress begins with all of these acts , thoughts, and behaviors of humility.
Progress begins when the new guy can admit he has a long hard road ahead, and he starts to become comfortable with small but valuable strides of progress.
Progress begins when a new guy can come on here, present objective facts, and not lace it with implications of the grand ole alpha days, the great resent victories on who should fold the socks, and not present us with paragraphs of he said/she said dialog. You will not find progress within the mundane details of every day BS conversations between you and your LTR
Progress begins when your LTR isn't giving you hard no's anymore, and you realize that your sexual strategy is a combination of things in this post, and it is working
Progress begins when the stay plan becomes the same as the go plan
Progress beings with killing the ego because then the new guy can tear down the sand castle he has built and build a solid rock fortress**
The enemy is not women
The enemy is not your LTR
The enemy is not the media and the brainwashing you received
The enemy is your ego.
Kill the enemy