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The sub-par BJ

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July 22, 2017
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My SO has readily taken to sucking me off with out too much prompting, she's getting better at it. The problem for me is that she won't take my cum in her mouth, and whenever she brings up that she doesn't like it I get angry and resentful.

Last night it came up that her friends all take their mens cum in their mouths when giving a BJ and that my girl doesn't like to (she was giving me an example of how she is different sexually than her girlfriends). Perhapes she felt weird being the odd one out in her friends group and thus used this example. Either way, her verbalizing it reminded me of how when I was first starting to see her (in my BP days), I came in her mouth without warning (knowing that she didn't like it), and after finishing me off like a champ she even said "I guess I'm going to have to get used to that now". My mistake was apologizing profusely afterwards, Vomit and now I think I've fucked myself over. I didn't say anything in response to her comment and moved on with my day. Normally I would say something along the lines off "...aaaaaaand my desire to eat you out just dried right up!", funny, but clearly showing butt hurt.

How do I deal with this? I can't remember ever having a GF that didn't take my load in her mouth, and now I feel like I've got a model that I drove into a telephone pole while drunk and am now trying to get it back to factory specs, but am unsure that's even possible with the tools I have. Should I just worry less bout it and enjoy the fact that I can get a BJ (for the most part) whenever I want?


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Title The sub-par BJ
Author RedishPill
Upvotes 7
Comments 26
Date 22 July 2017 08:28 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/205817
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[–]WesternhagenWinner10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sub-par BJ is when: she doesn't take her clothes off; she doesn't rub her naked body on you before/during the BJ; she doesn't use her hands; she doesn't try to make it last by taking it out of her mouth periodically. The "starfish BJ" = she just wants it done ASAP with minimal effort on her part. (But better than nothing to be sure.)

If you're getting all that good stuff - it is otherwise a "high effort BJ" - and the only problem is she doesn't like you coming in her mouth - then you should consider yourself pretty fortunate.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Looking forward to having similar "problems", OP!

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I came in her mouth without warning (knowing that she didn't like it), and after finishing me off like a champ she even said "I guess I'm going to have to get used to that now". My mistake was apologizing profusely afterwards, Vomit and now I think I've fucked myself over. I didn't say anything in response to her comment and moved on with my day. Normally I would say something along the lines off "...aaaaaaand my desire to eat you out just dried right up!", funny, but clearly showing butt hurt.

IMO despite fucking up you're on your way. She said she can get used to it, that means she can also get used to liking it at least somewhat. You can help her with that. Just keep affirming her on how much you like it and how intimate it is for you - cause we all know it is very intimate for a man to have his woman swallow his cum , keep telling her how much more pleasant it makes you feel and how you like her doing it. Make up your own personalized reasons.

My girl didn't have a problem with swallowing, but it's not like she liked it for the taste, she liked it for me.

IMO, when a girl really likes you (for your SMV or whatever) then she will eventually swallow your cum, you just need to keep pushing for it

[–]fakefalse4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you were Brad Pitt, she wouldn't hesitate. Raise your SMV.

[–]RedishPill[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

SMV is high enough that I doubt it's the limiting factor, but it's a valid point.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Have you read SGM? Way of the Superior Man? Read both if you haven't and see if your ideas on how to approach this changes. Expanding on what others said, I would get her really really immersed and then just do it. Don't fake it as an accident either. Just go for it. And just own it.

[–]RedishPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've read SGM, but not way of the superior man. I shouldn't have to fake anything; it's something I want. Own it, like you said.

[–]rebbit_reddit0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Drink pineapple juice a few hours before. Makes your cum taste sweet

[–]TonkaXcranK2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Common myth. Doesn't really work.

[–]rebbit_reddit2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Then cum into a glass of pineapple juice and she can drink that

[–]RedishPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ahaha

[–]Questionnaire70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're farther ahead than me. I just had a plate break because she "wouldn't give head outside a relationship"

Never even blown in a girls mouth.

[–]black_second_coming0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

My wife says the same thing. She gets grossed out at the thought of millions of microscopic organisms burrowing into her tongue and cheeks. Oh, she also thinks it's degrading when women let men cum on their faces.

Guess what? I come in her mouth. She spits. I came on her face one time, on accident, and she laughed about it afterward.

[–]RedishPill[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You don't think she ACTUALLY believes they burrow into her mouth and tongue, do you? That's next level...

I guess my girl is going to have to learn how to spit/swallow.

[–]black_second_coming0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She does. It's hilarious.

[–]melonballzzz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you should just come in her mouth again. Do it when she's a bit tipsy. Do it when she's really turned on. Then own that shit.

"That was fucking awesome. I love you."

Positive reinforcement.

If she states a boundary, and then you cross it, and she doesn't dump you. It's not really a boundary anymore is it?

It's like the poor saps who catch their wives cheating, tell them "if you ever do this again we are done." Guess what...she's going to do it again. Because she already knew the boundary (duh....everybody knows THAT boundary) and crossed it. You did nothing. You said words but did nothing.

Are you the prize or is she the prize? If you are the prize she will accept your come in her mouth. If she's the prize, well you can either become her superior and be the prize, or get dumped and find a lesser woman who views you as the prize.

Caveat: Some girls literally vomit. If that happens and it's a real reaction...she's probably never going to be able to do it. You will have to accept that or move on from her. Because only a true asshole would make somebody do something they simply cannot do.

I don't tend to think that's the case here though. She was already amicable to it in the past and you fucked up. She will most likely be amicable to it in the future as long as you are the prize.

[–]FidesphilioPat the Bipolar ADHD troll0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gotta remember, semen tastes nasty and is full of germs (STDS). Not enjoyable to swallow under the best of circumstances, and even less so when he seems angry/like he might get violent because of it. Also some girls have textures issues where slimy things in her mouth make their throat close up (I know several girls who can't eat Jello and two that can't eat spaghetti for this reason) in a gag, or else she was forced to swallow either as a child or under duress and thus flashes back to the trauma when she tries to do it with you. Also it's possible to be allergic to semen, at which point ingesting it will cause a rash or hives or even anaphalaxis.

TL:DR: it's not always about trying to deny you want you want. Some girls just can't. Or won't. If that's a dealbreaker, move the fuck on.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Accidentally CIM. Say Oops. Smile.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

I like "you're welcome" instead of oops

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Better

[–]RedishPill[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

This is where I'm heading. I'll need some OI of steel though.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

why??

"so hot baby, I love that you swallowed like you used to"

[–]RedishPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

this is great!

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Why?

Why doesn't she like it?

Taste?

Consistency?

Volume?

Do you even know?

Why don't you find out what the problem is and then look for an answer.

If you don't feel comfortable asking her that question, read the prerequisites on the sidebar.

[–]RedishPill[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

From previous conversations, apparently it's all of the above. She has compared the taste to hydrogen peroxide though. #flattered

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are many ways to improve taste and consistency.

Water intake improves consistency.

Pineapple juice improves taste.

Google it.

Do you smoke? Nasty affect on cum.

Eliminate the excuses, put 3 drinks in her, fuck her in the mouth



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