I'm new, about 3 months into the sidebar. Wife is usually receptive to my initiations, lots of starfish though. We have sex about 2 times a week. I have a ways to go.

Sometimes when I initiate my wife will say she wants to have sex but needs a few minutes to do something, respond to a work email or something first. She'll then just blow me off, an hour goes by, she pretends like she never said anything.

I don't want to seem angry about it and I don't want to re-initiate after she obviously blows me off, so I just forget about it. I'm assuming this is not a shit test and I'm just not attractive enough.

Should I even address the behavior? How would you guys handle this?