How do you know if your frame is ready?

anythinginc · 2017-06-12T21:29:44+00:00

how do you know when your frame is where it should be

Pre-Frame, unattractive:

You're an asshole

Storms off into another room, silent treatment, threatens divorce if you are low enough

Beginner Frame, semi-attractive:

You're an asshole

Rolls her eyes, sighs heavily, continues with whatever, lets you do whatever

Good Frame, attractive:

You're an asshole

Twinkle in her eye, laughs with you, sees your point, agrees with you later, probably getting laid tonight

Alpha Maximus Tier

You're an asshole

Continues actively making out with you

I added "attractive" in there because you could have an iron frame, but if you are not attractive and owning your shit it is just going to be you in there alone.

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There are plenty of FRs from men in MRP when they started to "Just get it," but the asshole metric is a pretty good indicator. My game is really cocky/funny though, so I have a lot of opportunities to read this. If you lean heavily toward the strong stoic oak thing your mileage may vary. In general she is just going to be more accommodating, deferring, appreciative etc...because you have value and a frame worth living in.

The switch from exclusively shit testing to throwing in some comfort tests is another.

u/Jacktenofhearts wrote a lot about fledgling frame and I can't be nearly as nuanced right now so I would read up on his top posts and gilded stuff.

NordViking2137 · 2017-06-12T21:49:31+00:00

When it comes to frame I think a lot of guys forget that their woman is the oldest teenager in the house.

My daughter threw a fit the other day. I told her to knock it off. Fit turned into meltdown. I just sat there and watched it. Waited about a minute, shook my head, opened my arms. She ran into them and sobbed. Once she calmed down I told her to go finish the thing she was initially throwing a fit about. She did happily this time.

I have had very similar interactions with my wife.

redandswollen · 2017-06-14T10:22:28+00:00

There's one school of thought that your frame should be your pure essence. You act as you want to act; cool, calm, collected and unshakeable. You should not change what you're doing just to placate a shitty, emotional harpy.

This is the inflexible frame, and it works for some.

The superior frame is still your pure essence, yet you don't mind playing the relationship game. After all, you married the lady and she should be providing some value to you. So you give her your best qualities. When she acts immature because, after years of programming, it's all she knows how to do-- you smile and take compassion on her. She doesn't have a playbook or a bunch of dudes giving her advice on how to control her emotions. In fact, don't even try to change her emotions. The moment you do, is the moment you kill her femininity.

Anyways, compassion. You still have your frame. But you get to choose how to react to a situation. You can be inflexible and stoic. You can crack a joke and dance with her. You can remove your time and attention. You can sit and listen and try to understand where she's coming from. She's emotional and that's ok. Experiment a little with each response, be purposeful about it. It's not that you're being reactive and just trying to get her to calm down. You're leading the family and sometimes, some of the team needs a different leadership style.

Just about the only thing you shouldn't do is get butthurt, angry, and storm off. That's what little beta bitches do.

rocknrollchuck · 2017-06-13T00:51:24+00:00

Your wife does not like getting worked up about this, then seeing you get worked up.

then

Phase 1 Wife's Frame / Phase 2 Your Frame / Phase 3 Your Wife is Operating In Your Frame

BobbyPeru · 2017-06-13T03:08:19+00:00

You'll know when you are there when you feel strong inside and truly DGAF. If you are faking it or have to overthink it, you're not there. 2 months is not a lot of time.

chachaChad · 2017-06-13T14:48:44+00:00

You can't know until you start testing. Go slow and look at the results then move a little more. That's it. Don't wait for the right time. Move forward. Make mistakes along with the progress and pay attention to the response.

Just a little note that it's REALLY, REALLY important to read an entire book before starting to implement some of the strategies. I started reading "The Way of the Superior Man" and, after a few chapters, started going all macho gung ho!

"Well, if you're not spending time with me, I'm going out with the boys... at a bar... on your birthday so fuck you!" which, of course, caused her to freak right the fuck out.

If I would have finished the book, it had some great advise about how to go slow. DOH!

PaperStreetVilla · 2017-06-13T17:33:11+00:00

Frame isnt something you do. Its who you are.

Once you have it, this question will make no sense

screechhater · 2017-06-13T04:03:47+00:00

When you can write a post with some paragraphs

How about when you stop being afraid of her ?

Side bar - Superior Male.

Quit fapping ng. You'd be shocked what that will accomplish

Title	How do you know if your frame is ready?
Author	NordViking2137
Upvotes	5
Comments	20
Date	June 12, 2017 8:26 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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