Swallowed the pill in Dec 2015. Did it all properly read all the books, the sidebar twice (trp)and the top posts etc. Started to see and understand it all play out in front of my eyes in real life, hit the anger phase twice and I finally feel like I'm over all the lies, I know I see through them at least. My life is on track and eventhough I'm making baby steps In my map I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. We have 2 kids aged 2 and 6 but next month they turn 3 and 7. I'm 27 and my ltr is 25. Since swallowing the pill I've gained 6-7 kilos in muscle, down to under 10% body fat, earned a £200 raise a month ( which I save entirely for my mortgage deposit). Started leading at home and in the wider family itself and peers have noticed. Started muay Thai and ju jitsu. Grooming on point, clothes game not bad but tbh could do with a few new garms. But generally I'm a much better more attractive and successful person. The options I have at the moment female wise are better than they've ever been I get IOIS daily and women who know me suddenly see me on thier radar. I believe that my ltr and kids have responded to my leadership in a positive way and my eldest has really grown up leaps and bounds and I put alot of that down to my new attitude in the house.
Now when my youngest was born I said to my ltr in a very blue pilled Manor "don't worry about your size etc you've got 3 years for your body to recover fully from child birth. If your still overweight at that point you'll have to excersise to shift it." She half assed last summer before our holiday on an exercise bike until the holiday then fucked it off. Our sex life is pretty weak tbh at once maybe twice a week but the quality is definitely there, and she's become very submissive.
The thing is she's fat. she was a size 8 when we met n now she's a 12-14 And I've told her she's overweight, I haven't said I'm not attracted to you anymore but I'm not far off that point. I've inducted her on my gym membership and given her a timeslot on Saturday mornings when I take the kids swimming. She's a smoker and a comfort eater too which obviously is not good. I've introduced passive and heavy dread in the past 6 months(passive longer as I work with women) and it works on the sex front definitely but no reaction in the gym.
Her weight aside she's a good women don't get me wrong she has many red flags but if I died tomorrow I know my children would be raised right with MY morals driven into them. And believe it or not I do love her. I dont want to end it and I want to help her. We've been together since 17 and 18 and been through alot. How did you guys get your wives/girlfriends to step it up?