Heya. Just wanted some input on how did your divorce work out for you for those who have child(ren). My situation is 1 daughter and wife wants another -- I want another one too, just not with her unless things get really better.
Our first daughter came about when I realized 3 years ago that my wife had grown quite bored of the relationship, dead bedroom, no communication etc. I had a huge oneitis and thought that having a child together would make us all very close and happily ever after or something.
Of course I know nothing of this RP stuff or having children at that time and was a horrible beta. Looking back that's probably the worst decision I could've made but I love my daughter to bits and hence have zero regrets.
After RP awakening, I've come to realize that for the whole 6 years of us our relationship has been a certain way and there is a great possibility the dynamic in our relationship will not change to the way I want it to be.
Although I'm not there yet and there's still a long way to, me to grow and see how it affects this relationship. I need this information for my exit strategy. I keep telling myself that without resistance there is no growth and I will have to keep improving for at least a year before I can make such decision but this situation very likely may come to a crisis if I deny her having another child and I have in the past promised her that the next pregnancy deadline is 6 months from now. She made it clear after our first child that she wants more or gtfo.
Also, I can't help but feel trapped unless I can convince myself that it's ok to leave when I had enough.
So those of you who opted to eject, how did life work out for you? Regrets?
Supplement info, although it sure feels that way we're not really married, in our country when you live together you are technically called wife and husband and I started calling her my wife as sort of a joke when we had our daughter. But there will be no financial concerns for me aside from child support. Also I will probably get partial custody. She is a great mother and I would like to be a great father still.