Wife with questions

innominating · 2017-01-05T14:49:51+00:00

The SSRI killed his libido and chilled him out.

nastynickdr · 2017-01-05T14:50:33+00:00

Provided you are not a troll:

2) Anti depressants can screw libido / general will to do stuff

3) I dont know if he fought any real combat / killed people / saw people die, but if he did, this can really fuck a mans mind up. While he was in the army, he had all that "ideology" surrouding him, living it day by day, being reinforced daily, and now that hes retired its all gone, and he may be questioning himself "oh god what have I done!" If this is the case, what MAYBE could work is him seeing a professional and be willing to fix himself. You cant fix him.

4) You cant make him man up. You cant change him. Only he can do it, if he wants to and is willing to put in the work. Sometimes shit needs to happen for change to happen. Maybe what could MAY work is you giving him a copy of Married Man Sex Life Primer. But you cant force him to read it.

FrogTrainer · 2017-01-05T15:18:24+00:00

The VA's solution to everything is to prescribe pills. Get him off that shit and kick him in the ass.

Go to RPW and good luck!

[deleted] · 2017-01-05T16:28:51+00:00

oh, you're sure.

ReddJive · 2017-01-05T15:48:46+00:00

where are his mates?

theunconquored · 2017-01-05T16:34:25+00:00

I'll echo what a lot of others are saying here. He went through some real shit and changed, then changed some more when he started taking pills to deal with it.

One of my best friends is a retired Army Ranger. He went through these same sort of personality changes after his time in the sand. What finally helped him come out of it was getting heavily involved in CrossFit. Building brotherhood type of friendships with people through the mutual suffering of intense exercise helped him get off of the antidepressants and to face the reality of what he went through.

Your real husband is still in there, he's just covered under layers of shit. Get him into an intense exercise regimen (CrossFit, Brazilian JiuJitsu, or some other sort of Martial Art for example) with groups of men and encourage him to spend time with them outside of the gym as well. Then get him to a therapist with experience in PTSD or some sort of professional help with the goal of getting him off the pills.

He has to peel those layers back one by one, and you have to steer him and let him make the decisions.

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-01-05T14:48:53+00:00

Pretty stark picture to him shoving you and your sex life sucking 2 years into your 20 marriage. Posts in deadbedroom about your rape and rejecting husbands advances.

Did his recent cheating on you bring about all this "fixing" you are trying to do? Bring you out of the "years of maintenance duty sex"?

jeezydasnowman · 2017-01-05T14:43:19+00:00

You can't negotiate attraction. If you were a guy we would say ramp up the dread. I recommend you post on rpw.

I would become the storming bitch. If he's not gonna fuck give him hell til he divorces you or starts putting out.

Title	Wife with questions
Author	misslaceylove2
Upvotes	3
Comments	29
Date	January 5, 2017 1:53 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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