I unplugged a few months back. I've been lifting and reading, holding frame is my recurring challenge (I have successes and setbacks). Wife is aware of Red Pill, and has stated a preference for being a red pill wife.
Two nights ago, the wife and I were laying down for bed. She pulled out her tablet (her habit is to read reddit until the wee hours of the morning before actually going to sleep). I asked for her tablet, and put it on my nightstand; she whined a little, but she acquiesced. In the morning (I wake up hours before she does), I plugged her tablet into my phone's charger and left for work. last night, we hung out together in the evening, which went smoothly. My bedtime arrived, and I announced that I was going to bed. She responded that she felt lonely (I'm not sure what she was trying to say; we had spent the previous hours directly engaging with each other); maybe that was a comfort test? About an hour later, she woke me up and said that her tablet was missing, and what had I done with it after taking it from her the night before? I responded that the loss of her tablet was unfortunate (I declined her demand that I apologize), and I followed her request to look for it for a few minutes (I'm guessing I was failing a shit test with that action). I then restated that I was going to bed, and that I would continue looking for her tablet tomorrow. After I set that boundary again, her demeanor became more calm, and she suggested that she might have left her tablet at work (a thought that had occurred to me, but I left unspoken). I texted her to see if her tablet was indeed at her work (it was), and she responded that I was very aloof in our interaction last night. I texted back that I would respond in person, and I acknowledged that I could have achieved my goals (holding frame) without being as aloof as I had been.
Help me analyze this. What parts were shit tests? Comfort tests? What is a good way to hold frame when incorrect accusations arise (ie. she calls me on my shit, that isn't actually my shit)?
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