I'm disgusted

A_Rex · 2016-08-26T03:40:02+00:00

I was shaving at the gym after my shower a couple weeks ago, and this 50 something regular was shaving in the sink next to mine. I was clean shaven all my life, but grew a beard (short trimmed, and no neck beard) after swallowing the pill.

He said "I wish I could grow a beard like you. I had one 20 years ago, but my wife doesn't approve and made me shave it off, and I've been like this ever since"

Me: I just started growing mine one day. Didn't even tell the wife I was doing it. I just did it.

Him: you didn't get her permission?

Me: dude, it's my face. The fuck do I need permission from anyone?

Him: you sound like a man who is truly unafraid of his wife

Me: of course not. Really, what the fuck is she going to do about it?

Turns out she loves it, thinks it makes me sexy (and so it does to other women, but I digress)

With women, you have to be a bit more artful. Around other guys, you don't need to be Mr. Alpha J. Douchebro, but you should just state matter-of-factly how it is, without coming off as try-hard. Don't talk red pill, just BE the example. "Let me out?? Jesus, she's my wife not my fucking mother".

[deleted] · 2016-08-26T11:34:51+00:00

make a joke, move on.

Theres going to be failures everywhere, they don't want to be helped, they only want to validate that it's normal so they don't cry when they get home

iloveairplane · 2016-08-26T16:59:58+00:00

I am hearing a lot of "I don't ask permission, I just do whatever I want and that's that" in this thread...... now, I also cringe when I hear about guys letting their wives own their balls like that...but there is an element of consideration and appropriateness that can be applied here without being too soft or too asshole and not asking permission but CO-ORDINATING. If you were to think of the captain / first officer scenario - the captain would never just run off and go drinking without "checking-in" with the first officer to make sure he is at the helm and doesn't have any other reason that he can't run out and hit the bars.

Not sure how the OP co-ordinated things with his wife so this is not criticism.

In my case, I lead by example and generally a "do unto others" philosophy so this doesn't apply for everyone... I also have a lot of kids so consider that too. I wouldn't want my wife out hitting the bars with a mixed group without me, and so I don't do it either.....in the case presented, I would find a sitter and bring my wife. Or if it were just guys going out to have a good time I would clear the calendar with the wife and let her know my plans/intentions. She knows I do what I want to - but she also knows that I enjoy being in a marriage with her and I consider her when I make my plans.

Now, how do I handle guys saying "your wife LET you out"? I let them know that it is clear that my wife and I know who wears the pants in our relationship.

The_Litz · 2016-08-26T08:46:24+00:00

I ignore shit like that.

I don't DEER my decisions to the chumps at the water cooler.

tim_rp · 2016-08-26T06:34:26+00:00

You know what, before finding the red pill, I used to be a lot like that. Happy wife, happy life attitude all the way. Totally comes down to Blue Pill conditioning.

The funniest thing is that women are totally disgusted by that attitude. "Happy wife, happy life" makes wives anything but happy.

I shudder when I think about all the times I checked in to make sure my wife was happy with my decisions. By doing that, I put her in a position that caused friction in our relationship. She didn't want to be the permission-giver, so she'd often say she was happy for me to do something - being the perfect wife in front of others - then have the shits with me when it was just us.

Now I do what I want and she can have the shits if she wants. Side effect is that she actually has the shits about what I do less often.

Sepean · 2016-08-26T10:09:51+00:00

It's fucking ridiculous. Me and some friends get together and play games once every couple of weeks, and it always ends up at my place because these guys can't get permission from their wives to have their friends over.

They're even emailing about how "maybe if we asked permission from out better halves well in advance we could host it somewhere else than at Sepean's?" That's what non-red male ~~sexual~~ cohabitation strategy talk looks like.

Persaeus · 2016-08-26T13:05:41+00:00

Common saying in these parts when one man ask another man if he can come out and play is:

Let me check with the boss, and I will get back with you?

To which I sometimes answer (assuming I know their boss's name) is "Why are you asking Mr. Boss if you can go out this weekend?" Honestly though, I mostly STFU as I am already known as a top-tier shitlord and don't need to feed the meme.

If it is one of my good friends that I do stuff with all the time, I either just ignore or shake my head.

You bring up a concept that all men should internalize though, IMO. NEVER ASK PERMISSION TO DO ANYTHING FROM ANYONE....JUST DO. This applies to your real boss or anyone else too. Always state your plans/intentions; and let others protest. Put the onus on them. Even in my most BP days, I have never asked the wife for permission. FUCK THAT

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-08-26T04:24:02+00:00

This read like a typical TRP masturbation post right up until you asked your question at the end. Even then...it's dicey.

Tell the dude happy wife, happy life while giving him the finger. Ok, don't do that.

Tell the dude his mommy should also let him know when he should take a shit. Ok, don't do that.

Tell him to read some Red Pill and be Captain Save a Bro. Ok, don't do that.

Make a list of sarcastic responses and read them to him until he gets the picture.

bogeyd6 · 2016-08-26T20:58:44+00:00

You should get used to this behavior. This is the most common man in the world and you are going to run into alot of them. Best advice is to just laugh along with the rest of the guys unless the situation is directed towards you. She let me out? No, I let her stay and then laugh with the guys. Otherwise, you are going to spend all your time explaining shit to other men who aren't going to believe you anyway like /u/a_rex . Then you will alienate yourself and that's that. Typically, most guys know that my marriage is not like theirs anymore. I have done some pretty non-beta moves in front of our social circle. I wouldn't suggest you go along to get along, when you want something to happen you make it happen. Could be telling the wife its time to leave, or might be she is trying to openly disrespect you and you A&A that shit out of the water.

You should really take a deep read into /u/redneck001 comments about this kind of behavior as well as /u/stonepimpletilists

[deleted] · 2016-08-26T21:03:21+00:00

I get comments like that from time to time from my friends. Last weekend, I took my wife's car on a road trip with my buddies because it's more fun to drive over long distances than my truck. They joked about what I had to do to get permission from my wife to drive her car. And I can't blame them! For years I literally asked my wife permission to do anything.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-08-27T21:50:06+00:00

I have faced similar situations. Roll your eyes and smirk.

"I don't ask permission from mommy to go out any more. I even stopped breast feeding. Well, mostly."

[deleted] · 2016-08-26T13:39:41+00:00

"you're gonna sit in this chair tonight and like it"

Title	I'm disgusted
Author	TheDarkTriad
Upvotes	8
Comments	25
Date	26 August 2016 03:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/207184
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4zmikj/im_disgusted/