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I'm disgusted

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August 26, 2016

Went out to party with a friend I made at work. He was a temp just working there for the summer and him and a bunch of friends (mostly women) got together and hit a couple bars in center city for his last day before he has to go back to college. He invited a bunch of people at work. Me and another guy were the only ones from work who showed up. It was 4 guys total and maybe 8 girls total in our group. Had a great time.

The next day at work there was a few guys who didn't go standing around talking about it and asked if I went and said I did and it was a good time. One of the guys said "You're wife let you out?".

After he said that another guy said "My wife would tell me "you're gonna sit in this chair tonight and like it". They all started laughing, I guess because they all could relate.

Now I'll be the first to admit I'm not some super alpha Chad by any means. Not even relatively close, in fact. I have a ton of work to do.

But are you kidding me? Did this guy just ask if my wife "LET" me out? What grown man needs permission from his wife to go somewhere to have a good time? I was so disgusted by these guys I just smirked as they joked with each other about it and then left. The guy who said his wife would tell him to "sit in this chair tonight and like it" was just the icing on the cake.

What the hell has this world come to where a grown man has to get his wife to let him go out with friends and enjoy himself? I was so disgusted and just couldn't relate at all.

How do you guys handle a situation like this? Do you just laugh and go along with it or do you walk away?

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Title I'm disgusted
Author TheDarkTriad
Upvotes 8
Comments 25
Date 26 August 2016 03:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT18 points19 points  (6 children) | Copy

I was shaving at the gym after my shower a couple weeks ago, and this 50 something regular was shaving in the sink next to mine. I was clean shaven all my life, but grew a beard (short trimmed, and no neck beard) after swallowing the pill.

He said "I wish I could grow a beard like you. I had one 20 years ago, but my wife doesn't approve and made me shave it off, and I've been like this ever since"

Me: I just started growing mine one day. Didn't even tell the wife I was doing it. I just did it.

Him: you didn't get her permission?

Me: dude, it's my face. The fuck do I need permission from anyone?

Him: you sound like a man who is truly unafraid of his wife

Me: of course not. Really, what the fuck is she going to do about it?

Turns out she loves it, thinks it makes me sexy (and so it does to other women, but I digress)

With women, you have to be a bit more artful. Around other guys, you don't need to be Mr. Alpha J. Douchebro, but you should just state matter-of-factly how it is, without coming off as try-hard. Don't talk red pill, just BE the example. "Let me out?? Jesus, she's my wife not my fucking mother".

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

T Rex has it right...

[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

an endorsement from sexyshoulderangel. Thanks, man

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Your coconut oil post was the shit. I bought a big vat off of Amazon. No sarcasm.

I'm rubbing some all over me now. There's a small chance I'm alone and thinking about the MRP sub... No sarcasm?

[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm just glad it's workin for ya. This place and the red pill helped me take control of my life and I just want to pay it forward.

I need some new immersion ideas though. I'm worried the coconut spa thing will become played out.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I joke about coconut oil to this day because of that post.

[–]1v1B1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've been cycling a beard on and off forever. Right now I'm a few weeks in and the other day my wife asked when I started growing the beard. Responded saying when I stopped shaving it.
Last night I initiate sex and basically get a duty response but as we are warming up she complains about kissing with the beard, threatens that I will get less kisses and asks if I am going to shave this weekend. I simply just said "no" and proceed to get my starfish sex.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

make a joke, move on.

Theres going to be failures everywhere, they don't want to be helped, they only want to validate that it's normal so they don't cry when they get home

[–]iloveairplane3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am hearing a lot of "I don't ask permission, I just do whatever I want and that's that" in this thread...... now, I also cringe when I hear about guys letting their wives own their balls like that...but there is an element of consideration and appropriateness that can be applied here without being too soft or too asshole and not asking permission but CO-ORDINATING. If you were to think of the captain / first officer scenario - the captain would never just run off and go drinking without "checking-in" with the first officer to make sure he is at the helm and doesn't have any other reason that he can't run out and hit the bars.

Not sure how the OP co-ordinated things with his wife so this is not criticism.

In my case, I lead by example and generally a "do unto others" philosophy so this doesn't apply for everyone... I also have a lot of kids so consider that too. I wouldn't want my wife out hitting the bars with a mixed group without me, and so I don't do it the case presented, I would find a sitter and bring my wife. Or if it were just guys going out to have a good time I would clear the calendar with the wife and let her know my plans/intentions. She knows I do what I want to - but she also knows that I enjoy being in a marriage with her and I consider her when I make my plans.

Now, how do I handle guys saying "your wife LET you out"? I let them know that it is clear that my wife and I know who wears the pants in our relationship.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


Very different than asking for permission.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I ignore shit like that.

I don't DEER my decisions to the chumps at the water cooler.

[–]tim_rp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know what, before finding the red pill, I used to be a lot like that. Happy wife, happy life attitude all the way. Totally comes down to Blue Pill conditioning.

The funniest thing is that women are totally disgusted by that attitude. "Happy wife, happy life" makes wives anything but happy.

I shudder when I think about all the times I checked in to make sure my wife was happy with my decisions. By doing that, I put her in a position that caused friction in our relationship. She didn't want to be the permission-giver, so she'd often say she was happy for me to do something - being the perfect wife in front of others - then have the shits with me when it was just us.

Now I do what I want and she can have the shits if she wants. Side effect is that she actually has the shits about what I do less often.

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's fucking ridiculous. Me and some friends get together and play games once every couple of weeks, and it always ends up at my place because these guys can't get permission from their wives to have their friends over.

They're even emailing about how "maybe if we asked permission from out better halves well in advance we could host it somewhere else than at Sepean's?" That's what non-red male sexual cohabitation strategy talk looks like.

[–]Griever1141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Couldnt agree more. Personally, the only thing the SO wants to know is if people are coming over so she can put on something more "presentable"... thats all I have never got a "no". I think thats more than fair.

[–]DarkAges11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you need new friends!

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Common saying in these parts when one man ask another man if he can come out and play is:

Let me check with the boss, and I will get back with you?

To which I sometimes answer (assuming I know their boss's name) is "Why are you asking Mr. Boss if you can go out this weekend?" Honestly though, I mostly STFU as I am already known as a top-tier shitlord and don't need to feed the meme.

If it is one of my good friends that I do stuff with all the time, I either just ignore or shake my head.

You bring up a concept that all men should internalize though, IMO. NEVER ASK PERMISSION TO DO ANYTHING FROM ANYONE....JUST DO. This applies to your real boss or anyone else too. Always state your plans/intentions; and let others protest. Put the onus on them. Even in my most BP days, I have never asked the wife for permission. FUCK THAT

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

This read like a typical TRP masturbation post right up until you asked your question at the end. Even's dicey.

Tell the dude happy wife, happy life while giving him the finger. Ok, don't do that.

Tell the dude his mommy should also let him know when he should take a shit. Ok, don't do that.

Tell him to read some Red Pill and be Captain Save a Bro. Ok, don't do that.

Make a list of sarcastic responses and read them to him until he gets the picture.

[–]TheDarkTriad[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

After re-reading it I agree. I am genuinely curious at how others would react to these kind of situations though.

You're responses were hilarious. Thanks for the laugh.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

if I had nothing to loose by making fun of the guy...

"Did she dress you this morning too?"

If not, and I still wanted to say something

"Huh, that's weird" sip your beer/ drink your coffee, whatever

if they want to say something like

"wait what do you mean, your wife doesn't get mad at you / doesnt tell you what to do..."

"Nah, she knows she married an adult"

leave it there. they will either hate you or love you.

other options include "Thats not an issue for me"

:: shrug:::

I actually did say to a buddy something like "Well, she didn't make me a better offer so I came out here"

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You should get used to this behavior. This is the most common man in the world and you are going to run into alot of them. Best advice is to just laugh along with the rest of the guys unless the situation is directed towards you. She let me out? No, I let her stay and then laugh with the guys. Otherwise, you are going to spend all your time explaining shit to other men who aren't going to believe you anyway like /u/a_rex . Then you will alienate yourself and that's that. Typically, most guys know that my marriage is not like theirs anymore. I have done some pretty non-beta moves in front of our social circle. I wouldn't suggest you go along to get along, when you want something to happen you make it happen. Could be telling the wife its time to leave, or might be she is trying to openly disrespect you and you A&A that shit out of the water.

You should really take a deep read into /u/redneck001 comments about this kind of behavior as well as /u/stonepimpletilists

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I get comments like that from time to time from my friends. Last weekend, I took my wife's car on a road trip with my buddies because it's more fun to drive over long distances than my truck. They joked about what I had to do to get permission from my wife to drive her car. And I can't blame them! For years I literally asked my wife permission to do anything.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have faced similar situations. Roll your eyes and smirk.

"I don't ask permission from mommy to go out any more. I even stopped breast feeding. Well, mostly."

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

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