So it's too late for my marriage. I've crept TRP and MRP for a while but alas, too little too late. My wife has discovered 'feelings' for my best friend and my work partner of 7 years.

A little back story.. I'm 34. Wife is 31. Together 10 years married 8. One 5 yo. Own a house that we put in just my name. I work full time and she works from home. She's cheated on me basically the entire relationship and marriage. I even had to tell the guy she was cheating on me with that she was also hooking up with another guy at the same time back in '10 I believe. I was/am the ultimate beta. Classic beta. Even went on a hunger strike for sex at one point.. Lasted four days before I ate. Since being married have only had sex probably less than 15 times. Last time was after a weekend away in March of '15 and after being separated for a year prior.

Fast forward to now. I now work in a different city so I don't work with my friend anymore. We started hanging out with my friend and his wife and their two kids seemed like almost every weekend, drinking and having a good time. We took a trip to Vegas in April. We all got shitfaced our last night and had a good time.... So a week or so goes by and nobody says anything in our group text chat we have. I have my suspicions so I text my friend and his wife and ask why everyone is so quiet... No answer. I get home from work that day and my wife, who was ordered by my friends wife, spills. Her and my friend that last night in Vegas both snuck out of the room and were gone for about 6 hours. His wife was up when they got back. I was still passed out. So his wife asks him if he had any feelings for my wife and he admits as much. Asks my wife the same and she doesn't deny it.

So this is the point I need guidance. I didn't get deep enough into TRP to do this without my emotions getting in the way. I'm a novice at OI but that's probably my second strongest area because I'd already been working out for a couple years before this. Shes still physically a 9.5 to me and knows I would fuck her right now if she gave the green light. I do have another bank account. We have a joint account my check goes to and she has her own account her check goes in to. I'm hesitant to start putting too much money direct deposited into my other account because I don't want her to know about it. Needless to say I have no cash saved up for this. We've decided to sell the house.

I'm just here looking for ideas, what I'm supposed to do. What not to do. What to look for. I just don't want to end up fucking myself in the end by doing something because my emotions got in the way of my brain.