Stop Being So Afraid

Camille11325 · 2017-08-26T03:14:20+00:00

Completely unrelated but I will probably be away from Reddit for a week, it all depends on how bad the hurricane is. We're fully prepped and hoping for the best but I do expect that we'll lose internet and electricity. Will miss you all <3

Looking forward to discussing this phenomenal post with everyone (or reading the conversation when I return)!

jack_hammarred · 2017-08-26T17:24:03+00:00

LOVE this. It touches on some ideas I also loved from the resources I mentioned on psychological femininity as well as ideas from the book Iron John by Robert Bly.

If you've done your vetting, if your man is sane, what do you really have to fear? That you will learn how to follow? That you will no longer have to worry about controlling everything? That you will become even more attracted to your man? That your man will be his authentic self?

Edit to add:

This really makes a lot of sense. Part of being vulnerable and feminine as a counterpart means being willing to get hurt feelings, being willing to take critiques. It doesn't always feel snuggly, but it is love, as mentioned below. Being critiqued or corrected is your man giving you an opportunity to be a strong woman, and it's him giving you a chance to improve for BOTH your sakes. He trusted you enough to be stern with you, and that's a gift. If he didn't care he would've done something else. You're worth saving, from yourself or from something else, and his sternness is him saving you. Earn your aftercare by hearing him, understanding him, being vulnerable to him.

One of the things I was trying to get at in my last post (and I’m not sure I did), is that there will be times when we stand back that our husbands might get stern, or unequivocally make his expectations known, or do something else that might frustrate or anger us or cause fear. It might take us by surprise, but in these instances, is it really out of his character? Or is it the way he treats those he keeps close to him because he respects them? Leaders have expectations of those who follow them and sometimes, especially if those expectations aren’t met, he may get stern, to man or woman. This actually is a sign of respect, from a man. It means he knows you are capable. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be there. Respect to a man does not mean, he won’t hurt my feelings.

Title	Stop Being So Afraid
Author	Camille11325
Upvotes	15
Comments	7
Date	August 26, 2017 3:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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