This was posted by a woman & I’m tired of movements that are positive for us being hijacked by Pickmeishas who just have to point out that mEn mAtTeR tOo

sashimi_girl · 2020-08-28T02:46:18+00:00

I’m confused. “Quit acting like men have to constantly treat you a certain way to maintain their ‘good bf’ status”, which she follows up with “Being a good partner...should be constant and maintained.”

She’s deep in the pickme ways if she thinks only women need to “constantly” act like they care.

ieatrainbowsprinkles · 2020-08-28T01:20:27+00:00

I did this. I took care of him. I did the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, took care of the animals. Got him random little gifts. Paid for dates. Gave him space, sex, emotional support. 🤡

What did I get in return? Did he take care of me? No. He stayed in bed when my mom brought me home after surgery. He went out to dinner with his friends while I spent the night in the ER vet with my sick cat. He resented me for wanting him there when I had to put the cat down three days later. He got mad at me for feeling sad when I had two friends OD in the same week.

I got walked over. I will never take care of a man again. I’ll be the one that gets taken care of from now on.

TokiMarvel · 2020-08-28T03:41:39+00:00

Sometimes they get resentful or just critique every gesture you do for them. I used to try recipes from his culture or anything new. Every single time he’d say ‘it needs this’ or ‘if you cooked it this way’, so I stopped making anything. He cooked for me. The most I ever did after that was microwave or bake a ready-made dinner or give him my leftovers to finish.

Jelly_Lover · 2020-08-28T02:20:43+00:00

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supremelyparanoid · 2020-08-27T23:29:41+00:00

I read the first three sentences and barfed 🤮

thedrunkcuteblonde · 2020-08-28T07:02:37+00:00

There doesn’t need to be “take care of him” posts because there are literally published books and articles on how to be a so-called proper wife ever since liked a century ago. She can get out of here with her total nonsense. Starting from a young age, girls are trained to be caretakers. Not so much for their male counterparts.

daisy_0720 · 2020-08-28T06:59:10+00:00

Men don't value or respect women that do every little thing for them. It just makes them lazy and entitled. You see it as being loving, they see it as you having no self-respect. Sure, they'll happily take everything you have to give, but they'll be secretly wondering why you're so willing to bend over backwards for them, especially if they don't love or value themselves.

Most guys get embarrassed or awkward when you make grand gestures for them. It isn't the natural way of things. They know they should be impressing you.

Hahane · 2020-08-28T08:20:15+00:00

The difference is that if men do the stuff for women, women are thankful. If women do the stuff for men, men start to be mean, insulting, controlling, hateful, demanding and lazy.

sherbearie · 2020-08-28T13:58:41+00:00

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EclecticBarbarella · 2020-08-28T01:31:36+00:00

Nothing in “take care of her” is exclusive. It doesn’t say “take care of only her”. Anyone that thinks that obviously is used to being in one sided relationships where all she did was give to a black hole.

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