Why do most western men marry and have kids way to early like in their early twenties?

SoA_MC · 2020-09-08T05:16:36+00:00

Most people are stupid and naive. That’s why the divorce rate is so high. There is no “rush”, most just follow the typical lifestyle, leave school/college, party for a bit, get a nine to five, get married, have a kid, get divorced later.

skyrunner22 · 2020-09-08T06:28:07+00:00

Most men have no clue of game, women, status, hierarchy and the such.. They dont know that they are selling them selves short because they feel extremely low value and hold on to the one women they got like holding on for dear life.. thats why if she leaves them their whole world is shattered because they based it around her.. Its a dam shame no one taught them their value and how it will only get better..

golbeiw · 2020-09-08T10:24:34+00:00

Depends on what you consider too early. Raising kids is fucking hard. The early years its just physically exhausting: sleeping 4h per night, with interruptions, for weeks on end for example. Then years of having super energetic kids around you all the time (its like they are on speed/xtc from 06:00 every fucking day until their bedtime). Not a moment of rest. When youre younger thats easier to deal with physically. I had kids when i was 32 and 34. Personally I wish i had done it at least 5 yrs earlier. Moreover because i want to be an active dad for a long time and i want to see them grow. So from that perspective the younger the better. But to answer your question: none of this was done consciously. I believe most men including myself just follow the path that society creates.

redhorndog · 2020-09-08T05:43:09+00:00

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TheStumblingWolf · 2020-09-08T06:27:34+00:00

For me it was a series of bad decisions made out of ignorance that then landed me in a situation where marriage was the sensible thing to do.

acertenay · 2020-09-08T05:14:40+00:00

At what age do you think a man should get married? I am turning 32 soon and my family says I am getting older I should get married

michael1962-01 · 2020-09-08T09:21:40+00:00

@20 you find some not spoiled ones. @30 you need to look into the 20yo to find some not spoiled ones. @40 you need to look into the 20yo to find some not spoiled ones. ......

@20 your future is not written clear for a girl. she might go for you being bold. @30 if you do not have a thing, achived nothing you are dead (ok if muscular and good looking and tall you get laid) in the eyes of most girls for ltr/family. @40 it is clear that you are at aproaching peak of career (might be different on own owned business) and if you have nothing you will be invisible to women. ...

So at 20 you have the best chances to inseminate a good genetic one if you are fit from your body but not career centered. 90% of men like sport and beer, 10% like learning.

So it is a fact, the less successful you are in transforming yourself and making a career the earlier you have to inseminate if you want children from a genetic HB >>5

jerrywheels · 2020-09-08T04:32:20+00:00

Well young men DO produce healthier sperm

georeddit2018 · 2020-09-08T06:39:16+00:00

Its social programming and ignorance. Will have done the same if I didnt know better

BlondeHornyElf · 2020-09-08T20:37:38+00:00

becuz that's when you have the most energy to start raising a family.

if u have kids when you're 20, your children will be 25 when you turn 45, so you still have a lot of your own life to live.

if you have kids when you're 40, your children will be 20 when you turn 60, and you may or may not get to enjoy your grandchildren.

it's trade-offs.

daddysgotanew · 2020-09-08T21:52:18+00:00

Women are supposed to have kids young. They are biologically designed that way. The problem is when they have them with some dude that has no education or earning potential, has done a few stints in jail, and has a substance abuse problem and anger management issues. She often also has nothing going for her, and ends up filling out an application for benefits because why not? Uncle sugar is always there to take care of her bad decisions.

All of those compounded issues obviously make up a large portion of young mothers, which leads them to becoming single mothers. And that’s what landed us in the society that we have now.

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