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Book suggestions for good parenting?

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February 5, 2019
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Any good books to read to prepare you on becoming a father? Ideally with a red perspective. One that goes in dept and mainly focused on the subject. I read rollos positive masculinity I like it but felt it to be very vague.


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Title Book suggestions for good parenting?
Author TrenGod37
Upvotes 7
Comments 20
Date 05 February 2019 05:30 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let me make it clear.

No book will help a father if he has not already taken the time to unfuck himself first.

Once YOU are good then parenting is easy as you simply LEAD BY EXAMPLE

You act in the manner in which you want your kids to act.

Its that simple.

Everything here, from how to treat woman, how to be a man, limiting screen time, social media, hobbies, friends, interesting life - it is all applicable to the little fuck trophy(s) you will raise.

Dont overcomplicate it. Raising kids it literally the biggest “fake it till you make it” thing in existence.

Not a single fuck knows what to specifically do when it comes out of the female body.

But we figure it out.

[–]ManguZa5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

Two rules from J Peterson :
- Don't let your child do anything that make you loving him less.
- Don't do anything for him that he can do for himself.
It's a story but i'ld advise Way of the Warrior Kid by Jocko Willink.

Other than that it's important to know that under two yo the mother is the main parent and you just help to take care of the baby. After two yo however you must step up, develop your own relationship with the child, and progressively educate him to rules, discipline and such. If you don't do this correctly before six, chances are that he'll not developed psychologically himself as well as he should.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd also recommend Mikey and the Dragons, also by Jocko, for younger kids.

[–]LBEB800 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Regarding the book, which one? I see two by him with what looks to be similar concept and title.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Get them both.

[–]LBEB800 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I meant there are 2 warrior kids books. One mentions a navy seal.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. They're both good.

[–]innominating0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

J Peterson’s chapter on raising kids is very good.

[–]FlyingSexistPig4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Charlie Fay.

[–]insanetempo0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Charlie Fay.

Looks interesting. On amazon.com it's under the Christian section. How heavy on Christianity is it?

[–]FlyingSexistPig4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I didn't find any religion in it. I'm a strong atheist.

The core goal of it is to get your kid to make good decisions. So you must lead them in what decisions are. Very young children's decisions can be things like, when it's time for bed, "Do you want to put your pajamas on first, or brush your teeth first?" Maybe your kid is watching a show or doing something else. "I don't want to go to bed yet", they say. "I understand that. I'll decide for you then. It's pajamas first then. Do you want me to pick out your pajamas or do you want to pick them out?" "I want to pick them out!" your kid says, as they jump up from what they're doing to go pick out their pajamas. You frame their decisions early on. Later the decisions might be things like "Do you want to do your homework before or after dinner?"

You have to lead them and frame their world. It is, to me, the very core of what it means to be a red pill man.

It's easy to take away some of the trite phrases from it without getting the meat of it. The meat of it is that your child should be treated with respect, and so should you. You're not a slave to your kid. You set expectations for behavior and transgressions have natural consequences. But you love your kid, and they should never doubt that.

For instance, let's say it's cold outside and you're about to leave the house, as a family. You tell your kid, "It's cold outside, you should probably put on a jacket." They refuse. That's okay unless they're going to be so cold they might literally freeze to death. You don't bring a jacket for them, and you let them be cold.

[–]insanetempo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Cool, think it's in the wrong section.. Perfect!

[–]CaptainFitzgerald1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stefan Molyneux talks a great deal about peaceful parenting and has a lot of red pill perspectives on his philosophy podcast. Should give him a listen.

[–]RStonePT1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Check out "dad university" on youtube.

[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also check out "The Family Alpha" website

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If your children are very young i would recommend; whole brain child

Mostly about developmental stages and how to help them with the surges of emotions they dont understand. It might assist you in being the person to help them identify their emotions and understand how to deal with them INSTEAD of just telling them to "shut up and stop crying"

If they are older, then mostly lead by example. Take them with the gym with you... show them how to be strong

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Teach your baby how to use sign language as soon as you can. Why sign language? Have you ever lost your voice and been unable to communicate effectively? It sucks.

Respect that your toddler's problems are big in their world, even if they're not big in yours.

Just because you're older, doesn't mean you know necessarily know better.

Pretty much all you have to do is to show up. Showing up doesn't mean finger fucking with your phone 80% of the time.

[–]Punishermp60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have any book suggestions but basic advice is to listen to your instincts and don't over think everything. I've seen a lot of parents do dumb shit because they "read it in a book". Whether you have girls or boys, be the male example for them to follow and look up to.

Not sure your current kid situation, but one word of caution. When you have your first kid, its easy to start to follow your Wife's lead more because most guys are clueless with infants. The power dynamic of the relationship can shift as she takes lead in caring for the baby, especially if she's a good Mom. Continue to be the Captain and be proactive when it comes to caring for the baby.

[–]jacksarmy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

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