What to do about being an ugly girl?

eazolan · 2019-03-12T15:22:28+00:00

15 year old girls tend to not be a bundle of voluptuous curves.

Either way, it's a blessing. If you solely depend on your looks, when you lose them you'll have nothing.

So now you learn how to be a great woman. And when you grow into it, you'll be the full package.

leftajar · 2019-03-12T16:48:07+00:00

It sounds cliche as hell, but... personality and femininity.

There was a gal in my Toastmasters club, who was objectively rather plain. That being said, every guy around was trying to get a piece of her. Why?

She dressed well. Think, "conservasexy." Took great care of herself. But most importantly, she was a shining beacon of awesome. She was happy to see everyone, always complimenting people. She has a great voice, with very dynamic range. She laughed and smiled a lot.

Looks-wise, a 5/10 at best. But she had her pick of the guys.

PantheraTigris95 · 2019-03-12T15:36:51+00:00

23 & Caribbean here.

Believe me - at 15 you're right in the middle of the awkward stage, and it may not feel like it, but you're still super young.
If you're not already, put energy into working on the social anxiety/depression - those things will hold you back for years if you don't get a handle on them.
Makeup isn't about changing your face, and at 15 it can come off as trying too hard. u/gelbbear is right about keeping it minimal.
As a Black girl - we have incredibly versatile hair. You said you're not a fan of your face shape - find a hairstyle that enhances what you want. Instagram is great for this. I regularly browse the 'natural hairstyles' hashtag and there are literally thousands of beautiful girls of all shapes & sizes.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-03-12T16:11:34+00:00

Short of being scarred by acid or other severe deformities, you have plenty to work with. And even then, even then, people have found ways around it. (Look up creative coverups of scar tissue with tattoos if you don't believe it)

A big part of your attractiveness is your attitude and your wardrobe. Be a pleasant, kind, welcoming girl, and dress in warm, feminine clothes, and you're well on your way.

eatavacado · 2019-03-12T16:50:11+00:00

This is gonna be an odd comment, but depending on what attributes of your face are ugly, they could be corrected over time with proper tongue placement.

It’s called orthotropic treatment. It’s commonly given to young children whose faces aren’t developing correctly. By putting pressure on the roof of your mouth, your encouraging the front part of your skull to move forward, which is what attributes to higher cheekbones, a more attractive profile, and so on. It’s super interesting, Here’s the link: https://youtu.be/zbzT00Cyq-g

[deleted] · 2019-03-12T16:40:51+00:00

You might be ugly, but you can be a fit, sweet, sexy, ugly homemaker and you'll find someone.

pt5 · 2019-03-12T19:28:30+00:00

For what it's worth, 15 is still too young to write yourself off in the looks department. One of my best friends growing up had a short, fat, disgusting looking troll of a sister with diarrhea-brown hair that out of nowhere bloomed into an absolute bombshell of a long-legged, skinny with curves natural blonde by college. I also know some girls that looked plain-jane until shortly after college. While it's true a lot of the time that you can tell what the future holds looks-wise by the time a girl is in middle school, there's still hope until you reach early-to-mid twenties. Just throwing that out there.

Startlivingfornow · 2019-03-13T01:46:30+00:00

Become a butter face. That is to say, work your ass off in order to have a good body and do the best you can for your face.

I know a girl that is also of African descent and has a rough face, but god her body is sensational and guys can’t get enough of her

spiderdisconinja · 2019-03-12T18:03:46+00:00

15? Lol don't worry!

I look nothing like I did then and it's only been 4 years

Look at other peoples'pictures, in adulthood they looked nothing like when they were 15 either!

gelbbear · 2019-03-12T15:04:19+00:00

Dont worry. 15 is still young and your body and face will change and become more feminine as you get older. When I was 15 I had the body of a little boy and an awkward proportioned face,which I grew out of with time. Dont worry about makeup changing your look. Add a little pink lip gloss and a little mascara will help make you more girly. Dont worry honey. It will just take time.

TimidNarcissist · 2019-03-12T19:07:51+00:00

Consider it a blessing in disguise. It will help you avoid a lot of shallow people (who can't be trusted anyway.) You should only want to attract genuine people who are interested in you, not your meat suite. The people who are genuinely interested will look past your looks.

huxley634 · 2019-03-23T13:35:47+00:00

Black girl here! Grow out your natural hair and learn how to take care of it - I find that our African features look best with our natural hair whereas straight hairstyles tend to take away from our distinctive beauty. NappyFu on YouTube is an excellent place to start! Start taking care of your skin - if you are West African, I'm assuming you might be darker skinned so hyperpigmentation is a potential issue. You can make a mask from yogurt and turmeric that can help. Develop a simple skincare routine (cleanser, toner, serum, face oil, and moisturizer) - when you are in your 20s, you will be thankful for starting earlier. Wear more dresses in the proper fit that suits you best.

When you are older, you can start doing minimal natural makeup. Do looks that enhance your natural beauty, not change it. Use a BB cream (Black Radiance has a good one if you have access to it), a light golden highlighter, an orange blush (looks best on black women), mascara and eye liner, brows, and dark orange/brown eyeshadow. That is literally all you need. Look up natural makeup for dark skin on YouTube and find the most natural tutorial you can find and perfect it.

Ramalavonda · 2019-03-12T16:30:26+00:00

West African girl here (Ghana) you are still growing time will tell how you will look

librarianlass · 2019-03-15T19:46:16+00:00

Focus on being beautiful on the inside - be kind to others and yourself. You're still so young! When someone falls in love with you, they should love you for who you are. Even the most gorgeous women will age and lose their beauty.

pearlsandstilettos · 2019-03-12T15:07:00+00:00

OP, you need to remove the line about DMing a picture, this goes against our 'no doxxing' policy. I cannot stop you from doing it but you cannot publicly offer it up on the sub. Let me know once you have done that and I will reapprove the post.

freyalifestyle · 2019-03-12T22:40:08+00:00

You're not ugly & you should definetly love your race. It's what your ancestors passed down to you!!

Just to make you feel better, I was the plain jane at your age but now I am getting modeling offers, sponsorship offers & guys are certainly attracted to me. My hardest part is the interpersonal skills. So, focus on that!

Focus on finding hobbies that can also make you some side money & will be good for your homemaking life ( if thats your goal)

For example sewing & baking :) Try a couple projects every two weeks or so

Most likely your beauty will emerge & even if you are a 5 you can still bump your self up! No women is ugly- only lazy!!

As for your depression, try & eat more foods that boost serotonin & dopamine ( bokchoy for ex)

& make your own fermented drinks & eat fermented foods because so much of your brain power & emotional power comes from a healthy gut microbiome :D
Just a little bit of weight lifting too will give you more dopamine ( more chemicals that emit good feelings)

jess7344 · 2019-03-13T17:34:45+00:00

Confidence is huge. At 15 most girls don’t think they’re the prettiest girl out there. There’s a lot of room to grow and doing what it takes to make you feel better about yourself could really help. If dressing feminine and putting on a little bit of make up helps you feel more confident then do it. It doesn’t mean you’re faking who you are, but rather doing what you can to improve you.

aussiedollface2 · 2019-03-14T03:17:21+00:00

Darling, first of all everyone looks awkward at 15. It’s almost like a rite of passage! Also, I know women who are quite simply, ugly. And they have decent boyfriends and husbands because they are sweet, kind, and a pleasure to be around. Everyone is looks-obsessed as teens, just work on yourself and cultivate your other charms and you will be fine I promise xo

[deleted] · 2019-03-16T02:04:18+00:00

Being ugly has it's perks as well as it's drawbacks. An attractive woman will generally attract a man who holds her to a higher standard. She will be forced to keep that standard in order to keep him. If you are ugly the men you do end up in a relationship with will have much lower standards and won't care so much about you aging, having kids ect. You are also invisible in public and you rarely get creeps trying to bother you, although it may happen sometimes. It's really not that bad especially if you have never been attractive, you don't miss what you have never had.

On the downside people treat you worse in general. I have seen the way people treat attractive women compared to me and it's like everyone wants a slice. Pretty women have more friends, they get more help, people reach out to them more. They are never alone and their difficulties never go unnoticed.

On the downside pretty much every man wants to have sex with you from the grocery store clerk, to your dad's friend to the mail man. I couldn't imagine how awkward that would be in day to day interactions. If that were me I would want to go and live under a rock somewhere.

People here will probably accuse me of hamstering and will disagree with me but this is my genuine take on things. Every cloud has it's silver lining.

You just have to maximize what you do have to the best of your desires and accept what you can't change.

Theconfusedgirl3260 · 2019-03-12T20:53:40+00:00

smaller bodies attract guys , more than "curvy" bodies. small breats and hips make you look youthful and youth=fertility.

Title	What to do about being an ugly girl?
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Date	March 12, 2019 2:35 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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