Going to make this quick. Age 40, married 13 yrs, together 18. 3 kids under 8. I'm in a good place progress-wise. Unplugged in Jan 2018. Read all the material. I've lost 50 lbs, added muscle, wife aims to please, IOIs from other women, flirt in front of her as often as possible with desired results. Doing great at work, owning shit at home, going out and enjoying life.
Went out for a beer with my brother in law (he's married to wife's sister) this week after we had had a small argument earlier that day, she had been harpy, I had better things to do, etc. Reset the next day, all seemed well...
Fast forward to today (3 days later), wife asked me to fix something on her phone. I open it up and it's on her text thread with her sister and I read her sister saying "seems they were together, or at least mine says so." I scroll up, read her original message to her sister where she basically was checking to see if my story checks out about where we had gone, asking her to check my "story" against her husband's etc... Their collective hamsters were out of control. She didn't really ask me anything about the evening other than where we went and how much I drank...I complained that I was slow getting up the next day.
Anyway - I get that it's dread that causes her to ask my whereabouts... But why not just ask me? Do I need to offer more comfort, or just STFU and keep my foot on the gas? I like that she recognizes that I could get strange, but don't necessarily like that she thinks I may actually be doing so. Worry less about what she thinks, since I've done absolutely nothing wrong? New territory for me, just wanted some thoughts.