Guy in AskBetas makes out with gay dude in drag at a college party - gets congratulated on his "open-mindedness", becomes reddit hero and makes /r/bestof

lemonparty · 2014-09-15T14:34:24+00:00

Someone explain to me how misrepresenting your gender to someone in order to get them to be physically intimate with you isn't attempting to get sex without real consent?

Seems to me something like that is a pretty fucked up vile thing to do and isn't worthy of any kind of "understanding" and/or "awareness".

anonlymouse · 2014-09-15T16:23:19+00:00

Ok, an unrelated topic, but bear with me here. This incident, in all fairness, was a case of sexual harassment. Right? I believe it was. But our guy here hasn't been bothered by it in the least. That's pretty apparent. He's not traumatized, he's moved on, it was just another weird day in life. And most people agree with him, even applaud him. Cool

Now my question: Is it solely the society's perception and reaction to an incident that ultimately determines the amount of trauma it causes to the victim? If we didn't make such a big deal out of sexual harassment, then maybe it would end up causing the victim less of an emotional trauma? (That is, provided, it's not a continued source of nuisance and just a one time incident)

wheyapartment · 2014-09-15T16:01:10+00:00

Same mass of people that got TxC to the front page, got this guy to /r/bestof

Reddit is becoming more and more radical, in the same way I'd never visit 2Xc, they wouldn't visit TRP.

Without assigning merits, is obvious to see why people don't like reading with what they don't agree with.

In my case, I believe that constant "I need support/I did what most men wouldn't" is popular enough to warrant this and 2xc the spotlight.

edit: I am still depressed by the fact that TxC is a default subreddit and will never get over it.

Were there a "males complain about everything" subreddit, what would happen?

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[deleted] · 2014-09-15T16:46:46+00:00

That's damn near rape by omission.

CptDefB · 2014-09-15T15:28:40+00:00

Imagine that...

"Fuck this accountability and responsibility shit man, I just want to have fun and get paid. Hmm..."

Fast forward to college party. Make out with some dude. Have everything work out in the end. Get married! Man, tits are fucking magical. Free entrance to "Do No Wrong", no queue, double shot of your choice upon arrival, open bar, have fun. Oh, we also send you home with bags of money. Yay!

Worked like a charm.

_some_asshole · 2014-09-15T16:44:17+00:00

I don't understand why this is here... What is your aggro with this guy exactly? Did you want him to throw a shit fit when he found out?

The trans girl may have brought up issue (her penis) after the kissing began, but she did it before they started getting too intimate. It's hard to say what else she could have done other than wear a sign around her neck..

bangbangahah · 2014-09-15T15:10:34+00:00

What does this have to do with TRP

parrrot_ · 2014-09-15T18:49:17+00:00

Duude! I commented on this thread. I am glad it is here.

Uh if leering at a woman can be considered rape - then not telling someone you have a god damn dick is rape. It is like the world is mad on here sometimes.

eagleshigh · 2014-09-15T19:02:21+00:00

I would be so fucking enraged. I would say in court, if this happened to you, what would you do?

Rougepellet · 2014-09-15T22:41:58+00:00

Two guys make out and one of them becomes a reddit hero for it? Do they also give medals for taking a dump? Maybe i can get a trophy for breathing too.

MajorMid · 2014-09-16T00:09:02+00:00

The thread in response to this on bestof made me sick. I had no clue that people actually think that a transgender person should not tell you so before making out with you. And if you want them to tell you they aren't really a woman? You're an evil person!

I think anytime I talk to a woman I'm going to have to ID her within the first 10 minutes to make sure it's really a woman. Because apparently transgender people don't tell you until "about the 5th date" (A transgender person actually posted this in that best of thread and they were hailed as such good people to actually tell the guy by the 5th date). And apparently I'm an evil person if I don't want to make out with a guy dressed as a girl. This society is sick.

[deleted] · 2014-09-16T02:30:47+00:00

I cannot believe anyone in this World is calling a MAN with a PENIS "she". That is the actual definition of delusional. If you do this you're not open-minded, you are a true ass.

ImreallyIgnorantsory · 2014-09-15T15:41:10+00:00

I don't really see anything wrong with this, he made out with someone he found attractive and stopped when she revealed she had a penis. He only really had two reactions to go with, react like an idiot and make a scene or talk to each other like human beings and go from there. Its clear he wasn't down with it so they didn't take it farther

This is so fucking trivial I don't get why you posted it here, did you want this guy to freak out and make a scene or something?

Or are you actually bigoted enough to hate on transgendered? I don't get it, what reaction do you want here?

RedMindBlueEyes · 2014-09-15T21:21:15+00:00

You know, I´ll bite. Just because I´m tired of having to swim through so much angst and anger from a lot of the posters here, who don´t seem to know a bit about what redpill is.

It sure as fuck isn´t about being homo-/transgenderphobic.

Complaining about a guy who makes out with a transgender is like saying "fake it til you make it" is wrong, it´s like a flock of hens complaining that someone is the workplace has been outed as a convicted killer. "OH MY GOD - and he was walking among us like he was one of us".

Seriously, get over yourselves and your insecurities. Once again, you´re placing blame on someone outside of yourselves. No one forced him to make out with what you want to label as "a guy". And, unlike some of you, it was no big deal to him. This ain´t /r/MensRights. Actually, it reminds me of a story a friend of mine told me.

He was on vacation with some friends, one of them was one of the few professional boxers in Norway (there are 2 countries in the world where professional boxing is illegal, Norway - and Cuba). They were chilling in the hotel room, and the boxer was talking about a woman he had made out with. The others laughed and said "You know she was a bloke, right?"

He didn´t. What did one of the most physically dangerous persons in Norway at the time do then? He laughed it off. Why not? Why be ashamed/threathened by something that differs from yourself?

Fuck this lowly angst some of you are displaying. That shit has nothing to do here. Grow the fuck up. Stop being afraid. Be the best you can be.

That being said, I understand where you are coming from, the whole feeling of being fooled, mislead, whatever. So what? You meet the woman of your dreams, your oneitis, you live happily ever after....until...

...it doesn´t matter what it is. She´s cheating on you, she´s a serial killer, she eats babies, or she´s transgender. It´s what you do, how you feel, that matters.

Some of you are teenagers, early twenties, just about given up hope, found this place. Shut up - just read and internalize for 6 months - a year, before you start sharing your "wisdom".

If i had eight hands, I wouldn´t need more to count the ones worth listening to here. The rest of you are still learning. Act like it. Just like your favourite football team isn´t an extension of you, so ISN´T redpill. You either become it, or you stay an angry bluepill who loudly procalims to be subrscribing to redpill ideologies.

People take one look at you, and judge the rest from that...yay, great going.

leftajar · 2014-09-15T22:43:12+00:00

Guys, we're blowing this shit way out of proportion.

A guy saw a girl he liked, isolated, and made out. She then did the mature, adult thing, and revealed that she was actually a he.

Our beta OP could have reacted angrily, out of disgust. There are many guys who would've done that. A lot of guys would be grossed out by kissing another guy.

Instead, beta OP reacts like a mature adult, and manages the emotions of his he/she. I actually admire his response, although the reddit circlejerk is bluepill as fuck.

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Wargame4life · 2014-09-15T17:15:32+00:00

What a fucking chump, i would be throwing bombs if that was me, id be livid beyond belief.

Cyralea · 2014-09-15T20:07:24+00:00

AskBeta's is the place where having any boundaries means you're a closeminded asshole. I can't believe they can't even draw the line with not wanting to suck dick.

northsidefugitive · 2014-09-15T21:41:36+00:00

No. No. Just no. Being transsexual sucks enough without you calling her a gay dude.

iAmNotVelma · 2014-09-16T22:22:30+00:00

So I saw that this ended up here and felt that some of the comments being left are completely one-sided in their approach. Of course the ideal situation would be for her to feel comfortable and safe enough to disclose that she was transgender. However there can be such a strong stigma attached to being trans that often one may not feel capable of doing so. And, as far as her misrepresenting her gender for physical intimacy, I believe the lasting friendship that was created is proof enough that she was not only after sex. I would just like to wish them both a wonderful life.

EliQuince · 2014-09-15T15:32:18+00:00

So, I subscribed to this sub because it seemed like a somewhat progressive place, if maybe a little too extreme- but now that I have found you are transphobic assholes, you can all go to hell. I would unsub, but apparently dissenting opinions can't be found since you have to subscribe to be here. But seriously, fuck y'all.

Just keep telling yourselves that your better than everyone else, I'm sure you won't deny yourself of potentially positive experiences because of your misogynistic views.

Edit: You all truly disgust me. For real, you all need to grow up- this isn't even related to the philosophy of TRP- it's just a bunch of frame-lacking people trying to validate their sexuality by being demeaning towards trans people. I have pity for some of you, and want to fight the rest of you.

Title	Guy in AskBetas makes out with gay dude in drag at a college party - gets congratulated on his "open-mindedness", becomes reddit hero and makes /r/bestof
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Upvotes	31
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Date	September 15, 2014 2:25 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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