Reminder: it's just your turn

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April 28, 2019
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I recently had sex for the first time at 20... haven't developed oneitis because tbh I'm not the most attracted to her, though of course I appreciate that she's my first.

We're both in college, met on Tinder and we've banged twice in the last week. She's out of town this weekend for a birthday party. Here I was thinking we could be FWB the rest of the school year, and when I was scrolling through my Tinder, she had updated her bio, saying "in ____ for the weekend, act fast". Likely getting railed by another guy as I type this.

I myself plan to hopefully have 1 more plate in another week or two, just kinda made me think though that girls are hypergamous and reinforced the "it's just your turn" mentality.


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Title Reminder: it's just your turn
Author SheepHerder007
Upvotes 108
Comments 43
Date 28 April 2019 04:46 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/236443
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bi7ppn/reminder_its_just_your_turn/
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[–]modHalitenina[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy

Not a request for personal advice OR clarification.

This thread has been locked and OP has received a 90 day ban. I don't know what we can possibly do to get you knuckleheads to read the rules before posting, suggestions to modmail are welcome.

[–]huggyblossom100 points101 points  (18 children) | Copy

Tinder, she is probably 19-21 and you expect her to be exclusive to you :)

Welcome to the start of your reality of college sex life :)

[–]RedRealer43 points44 points  (6 children) | Copy

This year lost my virginity to tinder slut ,fucked her for a few months. Then she gave me chlamydia . Learned about college sex life real quick .

[–]SheepHerder007[S] 30 points31 points  (5 children) | Copy

Funny u say that, I thought I was having some symptoms this past week so I went to do a STD test. Here's to hoping nothing happened lol.

[–]laserdicks15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Huge props for getting checked. I know it's default mode, but should be celebrated!

[–]truthbomb99915 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

Are all you idiots fucking these women off tinder bareback????

[–]gitpullhoes4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

And coming inside them

[–]TINYTAZ941 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Home is where you make it 😉

[–]Joeboard2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I caught chlamydia earlier this year. Symptoms didnt show for 3 - 4 weeks.

[–]SheepHerder007[S] 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Didn't really expect exclusiveness, was just surprised at how true TRP stories I'd read unfolded before my eyes. Thanks for the warm welcome tho haha

[–]AP33402 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm 19 bro. I dont have too much experience but enough to feel like at least 85% of what red pill says, is true.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy

Sounds like a stupid question, but

Do you think college and europe's universities are the same thing in terms of sex life?

[–]huggyblossom6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

I don't think there is difference in most 18 to 23 year old females that are in University especially if they come from a rural area or from a small city and they can't act slutty if they are horny, since they will be gossip raped instantly.

Given in university//college everyone fucks there is nothing to gossip about and they have no reason to act like in a monastery anymore.

[–]geo_gan8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

Everyone fucks? Maybe you are referring to girls. But a lot of guys in college would be from 80% of males from the 80/20 rule who get nothing ie more of the 80% are in college. I went through 5 years of college without as much as speaking to any girl.

[–]huggyblossom6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Have you made cold approaches frequently? Have you attended bars, night venues, have you joined girl crowded interest clubs (dances, etc.), have you expressed lust and desire for a women in a way that says I have the balls?

If you have done it with priority I doubt you would have been on dry spell 5 years. The pussy is not a hard reward to earn, but needs dedication and mastery as any activity to become proficient and effective.

[–]geo_gan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I used to go to bars & nightclubs all the time yes, but never managed to "hook-up" with anyone.

[–]omega_dawg934 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

DAMN.

are you serious?

i was nailing 2 - 3 girls per week without hardly trying, and that COULD HAVE BEEN a lot more after i joined a fraternity.

girls were ALWAYS around... ALWAYS looking for dick attention.

[–]geo_gan1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yep. Vicious cycle of not getting any to depression, and then can't get any because depressed, mixed with self loathing and more depression for years of loss and isolation. I didn't exist in any way. I was invisible to girls. So they became invisible to me. Even if girl offered it on a plate I refused because of depression over situation. Didn't even try. Never got any in teenage years either, which is why I didn't miss anything in college either. That was 20+ years ago. Maybe it's easier now. But i mean, even now, I haven't gone near any female for over 7 years. Not much better now than then. There is a life that people that are getting it, that a lot of us live, that is unbelievable or incomprehensible to you, and especially to girls who get it continuously all their life and then post up looking for sympathy that they are on a terrible "3 week dry spell". If these girls could even comprehend a 30 year dry spell, and see what it does to fuck up your head... also extremely depressing to realize some guy like you got 600+ girls over 4 years while I got zero. The absolute physical pain I feel over all this loss totally debilitates me to this day.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

not a comparison to my life or a criticism to yours, but this is hard for me to understand.

btw, 3 weeks for a girl is 2 weeks and 6 days as HER CHOICE not to get dick. what they don't realize is that their vagina will ALWAYS have options... but they mistake them as THEIR options. iow, guys will always want the pussy but may NOT want them.

that's a woman's dilemma... figuring out who's real and who isn't. that's why they shit test so hard.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So I guess the answer is: the bigger the city, the better the sex life, right?

Yeah it should be quite obvious, actually.

[–]HurricaneHugues37 points38 points  (7 children) | Copy

Sounds like u wanted to make a tinder slut your gf. Even if she was your FWB, she still wouldnt be committed to u or be only having sex with you. Get out of your feelings my guy. Tinder girls are never relationship material. You're on your lovey dovey shit with her, and she's playing along, but she matched with Chad and Tyrell 2 days ago and she's gonna give them a turn too.

You're just another grain of sand at Hoe Beach

[–]SheepHerder007[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Completely understood, you're right. I wouldn't want to make her my GF because as mentioned I don't find her super attractive anyway. i guess I made this post because it was the first time I had not just read about a trp concept, but actually experienced it first hand. Prior to banging her, I had only made out with a couple girls and had never had a GF/fling with anyone.

[–]filthykarmawhore69 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Every damn girl is on Tinder these days. There's no "Tinder girl" type. In a big city it's like a shuffle button. It's a great way to meet women who you would never run into doing the things you normally do.

In this case, she clearly wanted to fuck and, sorry to say, but since it was your first time you were virtually guaranteed to not be good. If you fuck a girl well she'll usually find a reason to get in touch again. Practice makes perfect. Find a girl willing to fuck you regularly and learn the 101 before you go into spinning plates. A solid FWB/girlfriend when you first lose your virginity is a great resource.

It's pretty easy to fuck a girl once in college, if you rack up 20 lays with 20 different girls over the next year chances are you still won't know what you're doing. Fucking the same girl repeatedly for at least a few months is more helpful, especially since at 20 you're behind the curve compared to your competition.

[–]Scorchyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why does everyone say it’s easier at college, it’s not true at all, it’s the point where girls have their highest SMV and the most options so it’s actually the hardest place to get girls unless you’re in the top 20%

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I had not just read about a trp concept, but actually experienced it first hand.

Again, live and learn. There are so much more TRP stuff that you will experience along the way. But basically not getting attached to ANY woman is a good starting point.

[–]RuleTheOne1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very true, makes me consider deleting my account

[–]CalfReddit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't agree, I have a Tinder GF who is monogamous to me (by her own choice) while I'm poly. She's from Poland though, other culture.

[–]apskidb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're just another grain of sand at Hoe Beach

Perfect

[–]blewbluw11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

You’re right but, I mean, you’re not even in the works of being exclusive so that’s not really an eye opening experience on anything. You just banged some random chick off tinder a week ago. She’s been fucking other dudes and will keep fucking other dudes.

[–]SheepHerder007[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, you're right. I prob wouldn't have made this post had she not been the first girl I had sex with. I get AWALT, though this girl is definitely sluttier than your average girl based on some things I've observed too so I guess it all makes sense.

[–]Hot_Pink_Knob11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

What did you expect? A girl you've been fucking from Tinder is out of town and you expect her to be exclusive to you? How is that an example of hypergamy? She's just a girl having fun, as young girl's do. You're just too naive.

You could still make her your fwb, just don't fuck it up and act all butthurt.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

At least you didn't catch oneitis for a tinder slut. Good for you.

[–]robbiedigital0013 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

How about YOURE NOT HERS, IT'S JUST HER TURN

[–]strongfarts1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just because you make her your plate or FWB doesn’t mean can’t sleep with others. That is her nature no reason to be upset or salty, just spin her and bury her in cock.

Dude don’t make a problem where there isn’t one. You seem to linger in some blue pill fantasy and got upset because your tinder hook up is looking for more stray cock. Let me guess you thought you experienced something special and now you feel betrayed

[–]Obnoxiousjimmyjames1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It never changes, BTW. Even divorced 40 year old single moms revert back to cock frenzy 20s when freshly out of their marriages. It’s great if you’re on the hunt... but drama can escalate quickly.

[–]johnhello0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks bro

[–]PolesWithGoals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s college life, man

[–]WoodWizzy870 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yikes man, college life is fun and then you wake up, realize you’re the 50th dude that chicks banged. College is fun, but the real works is even better. You don’t need to get drunk 24/7 to make it through terrible classes or a curriculum just to get a piece of paper anymore.

Definitely don’t ltr a tinder chick. Find one through your social circle.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have much else to add other than it looks like you tried to lock down some pussy because it was your first time.

You're actually lucky and almost blessed by her actions... Many, many men make the mistake of locking down their first piece and staying with it because it's a resource to them.

Now get out there and find more women! Get more experience, have more abundance. If what you're looking for is a LTR you're going to know a LOT more about what you want after you've been with 10 women than you will after having just one.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ah... the youthful years.

the most important thing you need to keep in mind during this time:

WATCH WHAT SHE DOES... IGNORE WHAT SHE SAYS.

[–]jh18710 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The “it’s just your turn” has a whole different meaning when you bring LTRs into the mix.

But glad to hear about your success and application of principles

[–]RedHoodhandles-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

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