Hey gentlemen, I massively fucked up with a plate and it’s usually not like me as I know better to do what I did. However, I want advice from the community on how to possibly remedy the situation or maybe it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Excuse if it’s lengthy.

So I’ve been hooking up with a plate/fwb for the last couple months. We went to high school together several years ago and know many of the same people and we have mutual friends. Things are going well and we’re friends in addition to fuck buddies. We see each other roughly once to twice a week. She went to a wedding several hours away this weekend. We chatted about logistics about meeting when she got back and had some sexual banter. She randomly disclosed she was picking up her dog from her ex on the drive back to our hometown (he lives like an hour or two away) and was spending the night there to which I said “that’s cool” and I end the conversation.

She came over yesterday and we fucked. She started to confide in me about her ex on how they didn’t have sex (which is probably bull shit) and while they had dinner he stated that he misses her for like doing laundry, cooking, etc. but he simply isn’t physically attracted to her (she’s not bad looking either) and that he hasn’t had desire to fuck women or date them. I suggested low T. She continues to say she cried on the way home the next morning before coming to see me and that it would never work between them because they rarely had sex. I say “that sucks you cried but you seem pretty invested still if you cried about it and you guys are still friends. Probably best if you cut contact so you can move on.” The conversation steered about being with me (I know, FUCK). She said that we’re purely physical “yeah you’re good looking, in shape and you’re really good in bed, but I can’t see you fulfilling me emotionally.” I was a bit caught off guard she randomly said this and I entered her frame “I’m genuinely curious, why’s that?” “You won’t try and chase me. I know it. I need someone to break down my emotional barriers plus you don’t seem keen on marriage.”

I completely entered her frame at this point. This is where I feel I really fucked up on top of the other fuck ups. I ended up telling her about my oneitis for about 3 years and the blue pilled dream I had with her and how it didn’t work out. I admitted it’s been hard to emotional bond since, but I’m starting to not oppose the idea (in general, not with her). I finished up with saying so I understand why it’s hard to move on sometimes. That’s where we left off and said our good byes.

How bad did I fuck up here? I’m 95% certain we’re still going to fuck as I fuck her good and I make her cum orally every time. Could opening up to my plate/fwb been a good thing to relate to her and her situation with her ex? For the record, I have no intentions of dating her and we don’t go out on dates, but we are friends and have a good conversation. She just comes over.