It hurts so much.

FereallyRed · 2019-06-27T04:49:40+00:00

Take this feminine validation seeking victim mentality vomit off the fucking screen.

This is your fuckup. Own it, learn and move on.

You're not a flower.

Bitch

ChemicalGiraffe · 2019-06-27T05:39:35+00:00

😂 😂 😂 sorry dude this some ICU level oneitis

vodkalimesoda1 · 2019-06-27T04:56:06+00:00

Jeeeeesus lmao what the hell am I reading, YIKES

Kid you need 3 years of sidebar, 5x5 stronglifts and a +500 caloric surplus.

hiem3w · 2019-06-27T05:05:06+00:00

Honestly happy for you man. You had enough balls to do something a lot of men will never do.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-06-27T06:21:30+00:00

Congratulations. Now you get to begin overcoming codependency.

3 billion more where she came from.

Atriplex124 · 2019-06-27T07:25:39+00:00

Learn about woman's nature. Validate yourself. Learn to be alone. You will realize how silly it all is. Most importantly Stop thinking....Just breathe.

ATRP2019 · 2019-06-27T07:26:54+00:00

Open up a word document.

Write everything that sucks down in there. Save it.

Open it again in 3 months. You’ll see the real power of biological emotions. We have no control it’s just animalistic. Don’t be hard on yourself and remember it’s not you. It’s your biology.

Chadster113 · 2019-06-27T04:12:33+00:00

Oneitis lol

opinden · 2019-06-27T04:36:10+00:00

Let it all out bro, I guarantee almost all the dudes in this sub have felt the way you're feeling. I know I did. You gotta feel it to heal it. It takes time but things really do get better. It's a really emotional time right now, best thing to do is honestly go NC. She might come back, or she might not and you need to accept that. PM me if you need to talk more bro.

Blaze-Bless · 2019-06-27T04:52:11+00:00

I ended a 1 year LTR that was pretty amazing, but she showed small signs of disrespect peppered throughout the last couple months and was heading down a life path not compatible with what I wanted. We had great sexual and emotional chemistry, she was gorgeous, had tons of fun, but it was a gut feeling to end it to give my life more purpose and excitement, to be more free and the realization that it's way better being single than being in an LTR that doesn't prioritize you. It was about 2 months ago and life has gotten better, and man I've had some seriously rough times with it, it gets better is I guess all I'm saying. Keep doing you and keep learning the red pill, it can and will get better, you have the power mate.

red_philosopher · 2019-06-27T05:42:32+00:00

Yeah, I was in deep a while ago. A few weeks later and everything was cherry. Time gives you perspective and you learn from your mistakes. Oxytocin makes you bond hard, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's painful, but you have to pick yourself up and move forward. Nobody is going to pick you up for you.

Saying "it'll be fine" rings hollow when you feel like your heart's been ripped out and shit on. Time heals all wounds if you let it.

[deleted] · 2019-06-27T06:41:15+00:00

Ew. (With love)

DerpJungler · 2019-06-27T08:48:56+00:00

Seriously what are you looking for here?

I had internalized everything in the fucking pill

You haven't done shit my guy. Crying while texting? Fuck, i've been there.. when I was 16.

You are literally crying, begging for someone to give you THE answer, to show you THE way. I understand that, but since you claim to be here for a while, you should know by now.

You should know what to do in order to NOT fuck up and hit the bottom, or what to do AFTER you hit the bottom.

And fuck it, i'll say it. Don't bring up all the other bad news in your life to excuse your PATHETIC oneitis. She left, get the fuck over it. Bringing up your parent's financial situation is your brain making excuses on why you're crying like a fucking pussy.

OWN your shit. STOP making excuses and start doing shit. This is not a situation you end up after being exposed to TRP.

teveza11 · 2019-06-27T12:29:07+00:00

What I notice, is that your loss of the LTR caused you to stumble down an entire mountain of doubt, pessimism, and insecurity.

Just get a hold of yourself and STOP this.

You didn't lose yourself. You are down now, but you'll be back up. Just take this as a learning experience, there are ALWAYS more great girls out there, millions of them.. They will make you forget this LTR and be just as good, if not better.

I've seen this happen before, a guy uses what he learned to be successful at women, and then he gets the girl and thinks the old, blue-pill ways actually work. Then everything falls apart at the seems. Remember this for next time.

BusterVadge · 2019-06-27T13:54:35+00:00

Tears on my phone screen keep making me get typos.

Stop crying and start moving. Go on a run. Who gives a shit if it's 2am... Get out there. Get to the gym. You're probably going to be really weak in your emotional state, but who gives a fuck? Lift what you can.

And please for the love of God, keep the ultra cringy stuff to yourself. No man on here wants to read about a grown ass man making a fool of himself that way.

Cazken · 2019-06-27T04:08:32+00:00

I’m sorry bruh. Let it out.

0x9A30D7C49714D98000 · 2019-06-27T04:40:56+00:00

It's normal to have emotions and normal to get attached, you're not a robot. Also don't assume that you fucked this up and if you hadn't done this one thing everything would have been perfect and ideal for the rest of your life. You know that's not a realistic way of thinking, the reality is that nobody knows what would have happened but the chances of your ideal outcome are slim at best. Learn from this experience, learn to be happy alone, and when the time comes focus on making the next one better.

Look at how quickly she got over you and "healed" and will be back on the CC. Look at how quickly you're forgotten. That's the cold truth. She sure isn't crying for you right now, why waste your tears on her?

ngyuhnang · 2019-06-27T07:43:51+00:00

It’s okay, it’s a phase that all men must experience. Cry it out, and train yourself to be a better man, hit the gym, eat healthy food and do everything that is good for you. It’s okay you fucked up, it’s now your turn to restart your life and start to spin plates.

MatSapientia · 2019-06-27T07:56:00+00:00

You are not the first and won’t be the last. Embrace the pain, push through and learn what you can learn. You’ll be grateful to have had this experience. It’s only hardships that give birth to your strength and next level you.

nobody_thinks · 2019-06-27T10:06:40+00:00

read about codependency.

thesnowman17 · 2019-06-29T15:50:17+00:00

U are in the wrong sub writing this shit...chill the fuck out bro.

And if u read this post that u wrote, It will give an insight into why this girl is no longer yours. Giving this type of love and dedication is the way to lose a woman.

look_up_there · 2019-06-27T06:51:24+00:00

Mate, I was in the same spot, except I pushed her away until she dumped me because I didn't have the balls. I will regret it forever.

You did the right thing. There's a whole world out there full of women who you can feel the same for, trust me, she is absolutely nothing special, so stop telling yourself she is.

This will take a bit of time, so put that rage that's inside you into the gym and become the man you were born to be!

Title	It hurts so much.
Author	LiteraIIyJesus
Upvotes	7
Comments	35
Date	June 27, 2019 4:05 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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