How do I start implementing dread.

johneyapocalypse · 2019-07-25T04:21:27+00:00

What advice do you give to someone who doesn't know how to start.

Start.

It's that simple.

Don't be so paralyzed by indecision that you do nothing. That is the weakest, most pathetic outcome possible. Children perform better than that.

Take the initiative to do something, anything, even if it's the wrong thing. And don't expect it to be spoon-fed to you; figure it out for yourself.

You pretend that you want to be a child deferring to your daddy and suckling at your mother's breast, but it's not true, it's not what you really want, lest you also want to just give it all up now and settle for being a weak-willed loser with no aspirations, no ambitions, no sense of self-worth, and nothing worth waking up for in the morning.

I have recently been trying to lift more.

Fuck trying. Succeed.

I know that STFU is a major principle but it doesn't make sense to me. Why do my feelings not matter? Shes supposed to be my partner where is the "law of equivalent exchange" (FMAB)

Whine, whine, whine. What is that getting you? "Why do feeling not matter?" Who fucking cares. Choose to believe it or not. Choose to be a man or not. Choose to flagellate yourself to the idealistic belief that "she's supposes to be (your) partner" with an "equivalent exchange."

Choose to continue being a little gay-boy faerie for all I care.

How do I stop focusing my happiness around her.

Figure that out for yourself you fucking reject. We're not here to give you the answers, read you the cliff notes, or help you cheat on the big test. Fuck that.

I love her and dont want to lose her but also dont want to lose my self.

Stop saying and thinking such gay shit dude you sound like a ten-year-old girl who just watched romeo and juliet, or even worse, titanic.

I know i know read the sidebar but I'm torn.

Clearly you're torn. Like a wannabe-rebel-without-a-cause. Who's gay. And whiny.

Do I just accept the fact that my life, feelings emotions and perspectives are worth less than hers?

That's your goddamn choice to make faggot. How many more questions are you going to ask? Jesus.

I know that as far as society is concerned yes that's true but as far as I am concerned is that really the stance I want to take. At this point MGTOW looks good..

Then get your ass back to MGTOW and maybe better Incel, homo.

Please guide me to get my life back on track.

Guide yourself you weak, simpering, woman. My children have more conviction than you. They also take more initiative than you. My fucking dog can more effectively make up his own mind than you.

Get yourself out of this whiny rut, homo.

Butch up.

p.s. You most certainly do not implement dread by behaving in this manner, questioning in this manner, whining in this manner, nor by generally demonstrating your extraordinary ability to be fucking pathetic.

bowhunter6 · 2019-07-25T04:20:47+00:00

Blue Pill Professor’s “Saving a Low Sex Marriage” has the answers you seek. I suggest you get reading.

0io- · 2019-07-25T06:08:21+00:00

This is like anything else in life that you're not good at. Doing things the right way after you've spent your whole life doing them the wrong way is going to feel awkward for a while. If you've been hunched over and slouching for years, proper posture is going to feel strange and unnatural. By the time you're actually good at it, the rules will probably make more sense to you.

You seem to have some ideas backwards. You're supposed to put your own life first, and you yourself deal with your own feelings and emotions and perspectives and don't expect her to care about them. "Dread" is really just spending more time away from her and focused on your own needs, and if she's behaving badly (being sullen, nasty, unpleasant, disrespectful) you keep on increasing the time away focused on your own needs.

You keep focusing on self-improvement (increasing your SMV), and as if by magic all of a sudden women in general start taking more interest in you. At some point even your wife is going to notice that you're getting a lot of female attention, and she'll have to start wondering why everyone else is interested in you. If all goes well, she'll regain interest in you too. If not, well, there are many other women who are interested in you, so eventually when you pull the plug on the dead relationship, you've got plenty of options.

Getting in good physical shape and taking responsibility for your own life and emotions is also good for your mental health. If you stay disciplined and keep at it you'll find the other areas of your life will improve, not just your marital relations.

RP_PO · 2019-07-25T03:28:15+00:00

Fuck your feelings.

A woman doesn’t care about your feelings, she cares about hers.

Fuck your feelings. Get that through your head, bitch.

simbarlion · 2019-07-25T04:29:29+00:00

Your emotions, your feelings, your happiness can be under your control.

Strength of body and strength of mind will get you there.

The sidebar is your guide.

BobbyPeru · 2019-07-25T04:41:36+00:00

It’s like you’re standing under a huge tree, looking up and focusing on one branch on the tree, and saying... “man, if I can get that branch to sprout some good leaves, my problems will be solved.”

Quit trying to figure it all out and start with consistent lifting and sidebar.

Trust the process

helaughsinhidden · 2019-07-25T12:33:38+00:00

I love her and dont want to lose her but also dont want to lose my self.

Lose yourself and you WILL lose her. Find yourself (your frame) and you MIGHT keep her.

jjj2576 · 2019-07-25T12:56:21+00:00

Forget dread. You are nowhere near ready for it.

A lot of newbies focus on implementing dread immediately, and that can cause idiots to Rambo— I know this from fucking up myself. Dread will come naturally as you start Lifting, passing shit tests, and learning from the sidebar. Swallowing the red pill is a long, challenging process. Change doesn’t happen overnight. If you change too much, too quick— you’re partner will see that, and it could result in her shit testing you harder, and we all know your nerdy ass can’t pass shit tests. Start with Lifting & STFU, and then Dread.

CrazyLegs78 · 2019-07-25T13:32:45+00:00

One of the more difficult areas of MRP - Where to start mentally?

Read what you posted; She doesn't respond to your emotions and feelings, but expects you to respond to hers. Your feelings don't matter. She's supposed to be your partner, but there is no "law of equivalent exchange."

Now really absorb this information. She is not as invested in making this physical relationship work as much as you are. She is only doing the bare minimum to keep you around. She would not hesitate to get her physical desires met in the minute the opportunity presents itself.

If you can really accept these truths, you will have achieved the mindset required for MRP. Heavy lifting will help give you the mental resolve to tackle difficult obstacles. STFU will keep things quiet until you are knowledgeable/comfortable enough to handle certain situations in order to achieve a preferred outcome.

Those are the freebies. The rest is up to you.

Cmvplease2 · 2019-07-25T03:56:04+00:00

Seriously, you give too many fucks. Title should have been "how do I stop being a faggot?" Faggot.

weakandsensitive · 2019-07-25T04:21:19+00:00

I want her to respond to me and my emotions.

You are nothing like me. I'm more than happy to leave her behind. She makes her own choice to follow.

arm_candy · 2019-07-25T03:24:39+00:00

Do I just accept the fact that my life, feelings emotions and perspectives are worth less than hers?

You fucking idiot. Your “life, feelings emotions and perspectives are worth less than hers” to her. She cares more about her feelings than yours. Everyone is solipsistic. Deal with it. Half of MRP is guys learning to be more solipsistic and take what they want.

The other half is sidebar and lift, which is what you should be doing. Lazy fuck.

freekshow88 · 2019-07-25T12:03:41+00:00

I’m not sure this is the place for you to be honest. If you want her to respect your feelings, then maybe some couples counseling or motivational self help might be a better route to take.

I hear there’s a book about 5 love languages that should be right up your alley.

red-sfpplus · 2019-07-25T13:48:45+00:00

Dread only works if other women want to fuck you.

So start by making yourself someone other women want.

marv86kw · 2019-07-25T14:31:14+00:00

So you know you should read the sidebar, establish a MAP, weekly progress etc. Yet you come here and puke emotional bullshit. No wonder your wife feels lile that about you.

Get your lazy ass up and start drilling the sidebar.

IncitingDramah · 2019-07-25T04:29:24+00:00

Step 1. Stop using bitch think. Step 2. "Break up" with her mentally. Step 3. Read and follow directions in the dread post. Step 4. Continue until you hit main event.

Seriously, stop using bitch think. Think logically, not emotionally.

Flynnjacklepappy · 2019-07-25T07:07:17+00:00

I know i know read the sidebar

Then reread it. Whatever you think you’re lifting it’s not enough. Lift more weight and more often.

shouldergirdle · 2019-07-25T14:10:33+00:00

Dear thethundercockroad: Some people cannot be helped and I think you are that type of person. I only know you from this one post, but this is what I know about you:

you are a vegan
you don't go outside
you have never played team sports
you play video games a lot and you can recite your favorite lines from sci-fi movies
you have never built anything with your own hands and you do not own a tool box
you spend more than $200/mnth at starbucks
you are not allowed to drop weights at your gym, and you don't break a sweat at your gym
you work in for a non-profit (contract position, not even permanent full time)
you voted Hillary and so did everyone that you personally know
you are on social media and you check it a lot
you are fat, you have a beard, and poor posture

Start changing these things about you. Do the exact opposite of what you have done in the past. Only then will you be in a position to understand Red Pill teachings. In other words, start living your life. Start doing things. Stop thinking about your feelings.

Good luck.

Title	How do I start implementing dread.
Author	thethundercockroad
Upvotes	8
Comments	19
Date	25 July 2019 03:18 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/246789
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