I understand abundance, but I keep getting oneitis for every girl. Give me some strong words of advice

YtBlue · 2019-09-03T13:00:05+00:00

Simple explanation. Your self esteem is low. You tie your self worth into getting girls.

Pdubzilla · 2019-09-03T13:01:09+00:00

Solution = bang more women

RedSkeller · 2019-09-03T12:56:36+00:00

Pretty simple, how many women have you had sex with? Once you realize they're just people you'll stop idolizing the puss. Good luck.

Some_Situation · 2019-09-03T12:57:22+00:00

i'd say you should have an abundance of plates, not just an abundance "mentality". if you're only fucking one girl ofc you'll catch oneitis

DaftOdyssey · 2019-09-03T13:26:37+00:00

Pretty simple. Just focus on your career and goals

BurnoTaurus · 2019-09-03T15:27:52+00:00

but do you understand that being in a position of understanding abundance, and being in a position of having anundance, are two findamentally different conditions?

krizzywizzy · 2019-09-03T17:00:29+00:00

try fucking more bitches.

if that doesn't work that means you're unhappy with your life, and you use women to fill that void.

find a better purpose in life, something you'll give a fuck about instead of bitches.

ironically you'll fuck more bitches this way.. and bitches aren't even a problem. seriously man..

lastly: maybe you have adhd, which makes onitis more intensifying for people like me.

SlappaDaBayssMon · 2019-09-03T19:14:45+00:00

Reframe that shit.

From: "I catch feels for every girl I date"

To: "Every girl I date is dope, so if this doesn't work out, there's another badass chick up next"

SaharaFatCat · 2019-09-03T17:17:46+00:00

You should have multiple "girlfriends". You might start with a few rated below your normal standards. As you get girls you like more, you can replace them or add them based on your available time/interests. Oneitis is easier to avoid while you're banging other girls.

Zero-Milk · 2019-09-03T18:18:24+00:00

That's an easy answer: you're letting your self worth be determined by whomever shows interest in you. Step back from women, work on your career, hobbies, and physique. Develop things about yourself that make you proud of yourself, and THEN reintroduce women into your life. By the time you do that, I guarantee you'll find that you value yourself a lot more and them a lot less.

vandaalen · 2019-09-03T20:17:32+00:00

http://archive.is/agtCP

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JSuma · 2019-09-03T18:44:05+00:00

Oneitis is clinging on to a girl because you think you wont find better, when in reality, you're not sure you'll ever get laid again. It's a rationalization. There is always better and you will get laid again. Stay on the rp path and you will see results.

DaniKopt99 · 2019-09-03T18:45:27+00:00

you need to find a purpose, something that is higher and more important to you then any girl you could possibly ever meet.

SolidLiquidGasPlasma · 2019-09-03T18:47:07+00:00

You don’t understand awalt yet

chickenwangz666 · 2019-09-03T19:41:50+00:00

Abundance is not about knowledge but about having it or not having. You do not have it. That's why you catch oneitis, partially at least

thesatellite23 · 2019-09-03T19:43:06+00:00

The best way to gain an abundance mindset with women? Gain an abundance mindset with other aspects of your life first.

SpecialSpnk · 2019-09-03T20:09:35+00:00

Plate a bunch of different chicks.... Hard not to have abundance mentality when you are banging 3+ girls at a time.

SpinPlates · 2019-09-04T03:23:34+00:00

You can't fake abundance. I hate reading bullshit about faking confidence, faking abundance. "FaKe iT tiLL YoU mAke iT BruH"

Fuck that. Go to the gym. Get yoked. Spin plates. Get real confidence through abundance and then you will stop having oneitis.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-09-04T05:03:25+00:00

It's learning. Man, I still do it at times. Was texting this chick yesterday, then my brain snapped back into gear - 'motherfucker stop!'

Abundance mindset to me involves action. You have to get your mind off 'that one girl' and be approaching others.

It truly is the only way to win. You have to casting the fishing net out over and over.

throwawaydegar · 2019-09-04T11:13:22+00:00

You say you understand abundance but you don't have it ) haven't experienced it as obviously if you did this wouldn't be a problem.

Next ten girls you sleep with impose on yourself that you can't see them again. Go do that. No matter who they are just make that your rule. Then you'll get it.

smartfunction30 · 2019-09-04T20:37:57+00:00

Same thing happens to me, man, I meet a chick and then I start thinking about relationshiping them. Not always, but when I have good chemistry with them.

Andgelyo · 2019-09-03T18:34:41+00:00

She’s probably getting fucked by someone (not you)

sirdaaz · 2019-09-04T02:50:06+00:00

stop being a loser

Nyquil-Junkie · 2019-09-03T19:41:53+00:00

The beta thirst is strong in this one.

Title	I understand abundance, but I keep getting oneitis for every girl. Give me some strong words of advice
Author	chickenwangz666
Upvotes	74
Comments	56
Date	September 3, 2019 12:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/cz4god/i_understand_abundance_but_i_keep_getting_oneitis/
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