It's so simple, how did I manage to miss something so simple, so fundamental, and so beneficial all those years?

I blamed nature and the food industry for my weight, men for my insecurities, my work environment for my lack of motivation, people for my anxiety and boring personality, technology for my procrastination, the list went on and on.

I was a blamer and a complainer.. always looking outside of me for cause and solution. I feel like I'd been looking at the world through a distorted lens!

It was mind-blowing to discover the overwhelming majority of my problems were actually 100% my fault.

Thanks to you ladies, I now look inwards first and that's where I find the most rational answers, it's not as easy as pointing fingers, it is hard work.. but at least I know it's only going to get easier with time, and the quality of my life exponentially better.

When something upsets me, I now first and foremost ask myself:

  • How did I help create the problem?

  • How will I help solve the problem?

Through this process, I also discovered how amazing my man truly is and how patient he had been, he "handled" me so well even though, as an adult, I shouldn't have needed "handling".

Thank you all for the tough love.