Do women desire their husband if he isn't what she ideally wanted?

decoy88 · 2019-04-15T11:10:24+00:00

Women aren’t aliens. They human too.

Can you be attracted to women that don’t look like Gal Gadot? Yes? Well so can women.

Technology has made us all too self-centered

_Tumbleweed- · 2019-04-15T09:02:03+00:00

No one is going to find you sexy if you keep acting so damn insecure.

Also, you are way taller than a lot of women.

flamingoinghome · 2019-04-15T08:17:25+00:00

FWIW, I've been really, really, REALLY sexually attracted to guys your height or shorter. This physical/psychological attraction thing isn't as binary as you're making it out to be; personality can literally turn someone on sexually. Charisma is a strong, strong drug.

A lot of single guys on this sub like to theorize that DBs and divorces happen because the guy wasn't hot enough. I've actually seen a few marriages end. It tends to be the opposite--"marry in haste, repent at leisure." Couples that like each other as people, IME, do much, much better. The uglier splits and losses of attraction I've seen were from couples who got together based purely or mostly on sexual heat but lacked compatible personalities. The heat wore off (it always does) and then they realized they were married (maybe with a kid!) to someone they didn't like. Nothing kills the sexy like not liking your partner.

Humbl33 · 2019-04-15T11:22:13+00:00

How many woman need to tell you this before you believe? Search hard enough and you'll find studies proving anything. "WE" the woman are saying it doesn't matter. This is coming from the horses mouths over and over. How about believing us rather than some study which was no doubt poorly done.

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PsychologicalLayer1 · 2019-04-15T11:10:56+00:00

Desire and attraction are not debateable.

Of course a partner can fake attraction and desire, if he can make up for his "flaws" though.

You are not alone, most men are not desired by women, but most can make up for their lack of raw attractivness.

Money, status and/or success, being "the stable guy" and some other.

If your questions is will you ever be the target of raw, unfiltered female desire and sexual interest? Probably not, but as mentioned, most guys are not.

To be honest, your situation is normal for males.

Ercole_ · 2019-04-15T11:10:59+00:00

5'3" King of the Manlets here. If you don't stop fellating tall guys in here, I will have you stretched out to 5'9" and exiled with the rest of the average.

sadomasochrist · 2019-04-15T11:20:40+00:00

Low/no n.

BlindingTwilight · 2019-04-15T09:17:48+00:00

You are totally correct, wimmin are disgusted by manlets. Manlets have black hobbit hearts and small hobbit penises and they are, by definition, unloveable

Nevidimka- · 2019-04-15T08:46:29+00:00

I'm naturally attracted to guys around 5'6 and up. There's no difference above that. I prefer someone to be at max 5'9 because a large height difference is annoying to me, but other than that, there is no difference in attraction between a 5'6 guy and a 6'2 guy. Not everyones preferences are the same. The majority of women like tall men, but that's not everybody.

I do recognize the desire that a man needs to be bigger than you, but for me "bigger" means bigger in muscle mass. I'm in the camp where I'd date a small but muscular guy but never a tall skinny guy.

poppy_blu · 2019-04-15T09:08:44+00:00

H is above average height but his weight has gone up and down over the years. I've never not been attracted to him, even when he was 40 pounds overweight. And yes its possible for your best friend and your sexual interest to be the same person.

SeasonedRP · 2019-04-15T09:21:31+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it so much, especially if you are taller than she is. If she is demonstrating that she is attracted to you, she is attracted to you. Just because some or many women prefer "x" doesn't mean all women prefer "x."

MassShooterNo666 · 2019-04-15T09:24:03+00:00

I see attraction as something very absolute. You either are or you aren't. Yes the "aren't" can go from severe disgust to people you would date, but its still one group. I think if you love someone romantically, meaning you are attracted to them, there is no settlement even if technically some of their traits alone aren't your top preference out of context - in the context, they are. When I hear anyone being able to dissect their boyfriend or girlfriend into pros and cons, they simply aren't that into them, and in that case i am positive they never will be, even if they manage to convince themselves its a good decision (the whole mentaily that makes their relationship sounding like a purchase or a job position is an indication of the same.)

If someone genuinely loves you then your height is now their perfect height, your face is their perfect face etc, even if it wasnt the case before. Then they aren't settling at any point and you are the ideal. You are one and only, someone irreplaceable, and not a collection of pros and cons. Even if pros win, there will be other people who would do better than you on such test, so ultimately you will never be safe unless the other person is all in.

traumfisch · 2019-04-15T07:54:30+00:00

https://www.sheknows.com/entertainment/articles/952883/surprisingly-short-actors/

Title	Do women desire their husband if he isn't what she ideally wanted?
Author	Cyclone619y2j
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Date	April 15, 2019 7:52 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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