[Q4m] men in your 30’s how has dating changed for you?

Pope_Lucious · 2018-08-16T06:36:59+00:00

Feel free to send this to automod b/c I’m late twenties but I’ll answer in what I believe the spirit of the thread is.

Women get less important as time goes on.

When I was young, women were these ineffable creatures which took up my attention. The great thing about getting older is you’re forced to evaluate people pragmatically, wether you want to or not.

Once you start screening people based on their value to you, women start to make sense.

Nodoxxintoxin · 2018-08-16T01:59:46+00:00

I’ve gotten more success than I ever did, but that’s not really saying much. I’ve slept with a few girls in their twenties. Even dated one as young as 19.

Now, at 32, I’d like to settle down, get married and have kids. I’d like to do that with a girl between like 21-25. The older I get, the more unrealistic it becomes. I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that it might not ever happen for me.

[deleted] · 2018-08-16T03:28:19+00:00

i'm 35. i basically don't attempt or show interest in anyone unless she makes it very obvious.

I have all my ducks in a row in terms of being what I believe would make a good life partner, but basically less confidence in dating than ever.

InformalCriticism · 2018-08-16T07:54:05+00:00

Found TRP in my late 20s, so dating got immensely easy, though it wasn't exactly difficult to begin with, just ill-informed.

After my 28 year old ex wife, got a few Tinder dates, dated a 21 y/o through an acquaintance, then a 23 year old LTR for the last 3 years.

The Tinder chicks were trash, but each girl I met "naturally" was cake. It just got easier and easier with TRP, and the quality of woman I pulled steadily increased.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2018-08-16T02:54:20+00:00

I wish I would have not wasted time with some women, possibly "shoulda coulda" made a couple few work out, maybe even "fixed" one or two, and made good wifies out of.

I'm told I pass for 28-32ish, which is fine for early to mid 20's women. Who usually still want babies or another baby. At least after they've slept with you for 2-3mo, then take issue with you having the vasectomy they knew you had before you even started having sex.

Then there's the late 20's to early 30's girls who have spent the majority of their lives sleeping with older men, and either already have a sugar daddy. Or are single for a very good reason, or already married, but _. I expect some sort of damaged goods at this point, but admittedly don't have a lot of room to pass judgement on much. I've learned from here I basically just need to move, and would probably fair better with northern United States women.

[deleted] · 2018-08-16T09:40:58+00:00

30 here

As the question says how has it changed for you since your 20’s?

It's gotten easier. Particularly with women around my age, but also with mid 20s women.

Do you still use the same techniques to get women?

To some extent yes. I'm a lot more patient now though when it comes to sexual escalation, and I'm a bit more verbally open and direct.

Do you attract the same caliber?

Hm. More or less the same I guess. Maybe a bit better at times.

ElbowStrike · 2018-08-16T13:00:34+00:00

The women have stopped acting like little girls with all the time in the world and have actually serioused the fuck up. The power level has evened out. We're on the same level instead of the women having all of the approval power.

Also I can't stand any women under the age of 25. They annoy the shit out of me with their teenage girl level thoughts, opinions, and concerns.

Or rather this should all be in the past tense because I found someone equally as pissed off about people just dating and not taking it seriously and we're married now. So there's that.

BirdManBrrrr · 2018-08-16T14:16:44+00:00

Divorced and 34. For context, I'm tall, reasonably fit, and have a good job.

It's changed in that it's much easier; in a way I never expected I'm not finding it at all hard to attract women, get numbers, etc. I have a lot of family, mutual friends sending referrals for women they know who are single and looking, single and having difficulty, etc.

In social settings some mild game can work extremely well; pair that with alcohol and you're golden.

I've found my options in both age and caliber of women are extremely wide, maybe its just me but for some reason I appeal to a LOT of various types of women- hoodrats through professional women, 20s through cougars. It's both fun and odd at the same time. Considering my focus is finding someone to have a family with I'm not spending much time and energy on lower value women nor ones who don't qualify/want kids/too old/etc. I'll entertain/game/date for sport, but the investment is low on my end.

abaxeron · 2018-08-16T16:58:54+00:00

"I'm out"; that's how :) No plans to ever date anyone again.

Gravel_Roads · 2018-08-16T18:41:31+00:00

Chicks in their 20’s look to you with a little more respect, which isn’t as awesome as you’d think because the younger and stupider ones start to remind you more of children than people your own age. It’s fine tho because men and women in their 30’s are generally a lot more chill and frank about their needs, and more willing to actually be satisfied when they get what they want.

IncomeByEtnicity · 2018-08-16T03:38:10+00:00

Locked down a quality non English/Scottish woman at 28. Got Married at 31. Life is Great.

I made a wilful decision to look for a LTR at age 18, but till around 24, 25 I was still battling my own demons. I tried LTR unsuccessfully during this time and every woman put in their work to make me a better man. I am thankful to all of them.

YaAmar · 2018-08-16T02:00:59+00:00

As the question says how has it changed for you since your 20’s?

In short its become easier actually. But I cough that up to the dating market as a whole no longer favoring women.

Do you still use the same techniques to get women?

Yup.

Do you attract the same caliber? Maybe different?

I've always attracted different caliber of women. From the single mom to the upper class woman.

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nomansweb · 2018-08-16T10:32:08+00:00

I just crossed over into my 30s, so the number of single moms hasn't exploded yet (I don't live in the US). There is a change compared to my late 20s where women where talking to women who are 29-32 years old feels like a job interview, probably because of baby fever, all the fun is gone with them so I aim younger. And of course the number of single women, especially the ones who don't have glaring issues that explain why they're single keeps decreasing, naturally it's the same with single men, but it still means you have to meet increasingly more people before you meet a woman who is single, sane, not fat and not insanely picky. The signal/noise ratio decreases too, because there's so many taken women who feel bored and fish for attention from single men, without telling them they're taken.

blackedoutfast · 2018-08-17T00:02:41+00:00

if you're a man and you have your shit together, the whole sexual marketplace gets flipped over when you're in your 30s.

one of my biggest issues now is softly rejecting chicks in my social circles who are chasing me without having to deal with a lot of drama.

i have so many potential prospects that i'll do things like meet a girl who seems very interested at a party or whatever, get her number planning on hitting her up in a few days.....and then get distracted and forget she even exists until i randomly run into her a few weeks later at a different party.

everyone has jobs and money, and those of us who don't have kids have enough liquidity to do things like fly to miami or NYC and party all weekend on a spur of the moment idea.

literally every married chick I know, like all my married buddies wives n shit, they're all constantly trying to set me up with their friends.

younger girls, like early 20s, are so easily impressed. if you have a decent place, decent car, and take them to decent places, they act like you're mr rich guy super baller status. because they're used to going to sticky gross college parties and eating instant ramen. sometimes i have to tone it down and go to more dive bar ish places that i normally wouldn't go to just so i don't seem like too much of a beta bucks guy.

[deleted] · 2018-08-17T01:27:37+00:00

Hasn't changed much at all honestly. Less talk about marriage is about the only difference. Thank God women outgrow that silly nonsense

trail22 · 2018-08-17T02:51:21+00:00

NOne... So Im hoping 40's is where its at or Im calling life and taking my risks with the next. Assuming I dont give up sooner.

Title	[Q4m] men in your 30’s how has dating changed for you?
Author	Jokengonzo
Upvotes	16
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Date	August 16, 2018 1:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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