Was this fiance entitled to know about AFBB?

prodigy2throw · 2015-09-22T22:48:00+00:00

I'll never understand being in a marriage with someone who you have to lie to about your past.

Archwinger · 2015-09-22T21:46:48+00:00

This is just another story like all the others.

"Oh...I didn't already tell you about how I'm not actually a virgin and slept around with 30+ other guys? Must have slipped my mind. By the way, who told you about this so I can blame him for telling you these completely unimportant minor details about my past that I was going to tell you anyway and just forgot?"

alreadyredschool · 2015-09-22T22:26:22+00:00

Let's see, he found out something new and acted upon this new knowledge, would they have gotten together if he already knew this in advance? Unlikely Stay if she would have told him? Maybe, this is the only part that could be considered wrong, he should have talked with nikki.

fundude1 · 2015-09-22T22:50:20+00:00

The cousin is only wrong if he LIED.

If he didn't lie, then he was well within his rights to tell Amit.

[deleted] · 2015-09-22T21:47:05+00:00

This is fucking gold lmao

"Nikki" whored around with white dudes and tried to pin an Indian man down, her fiance had the right to know and "Nikki" lied by omission. Glad he's out ahhahahaha

fundude1 · 2015-09-22T21:57:40+00:00

If the genders were reversed, there'd be no question.

The bride-to-be should know about her husband-to-be's past. His gambling, poor money management, drug problem, lack of motivation, etc. The sisterhood would support the wife-to-be's decision to leave the loser behind. The sisterhood would further condone, support, and encourage fellow women to take similar action and give their fellow women a heads-up about a guy's past.

prodigy2throw · 2015-09-22T21:47:19+00:00

I don't see any lie being told so it's all kosher. Good for Amit and the brother.

Whisper · 2015-09-22T23:35:02+00:00

If these details are totally unimportant and shouldn't matter to anyone... why do people go to such lengths to hide them, and get so upset when they are revealed?

PrimePussyOverRancid · 2015-09-22T22:26:02+00:00

that his value as a man will only rise

Technical nitpick here but only rise? Come on. If his finances or personality don't improve then it's a SMV fall fest.

My question is how many relationships were she in before Amit? If it was only two and they were both white that doesn't indicate a strong preference for white guys.

[deleted] · 2015-09-22T22:02:43+00:00

The issue isn't people intermeddling in relationships.

The issues are:

whether the cousin gave Amit truthful information (yes he did, and we know this because everyone's upset about it)
whether the information was useful for Amit to have (yes it is)
Whether Nikki concealed it from Amit (yes she did because if she hadn't, Amit would already have known about it).

Nazrath2112 · 2015-09-23T00:25:53+00:00

My favorite part was the part where he became slightly misogynistic. I wonder since that story came out about the company being able to enforce beauty standards for servers does that mean that people are finally waking up that "Misogynistic" sometimes is just not letting womans get away with the shit they did in the past?

fundude1 · 2015-09-22T21:57:40+00:00

Good for the brother. He is allowed to tell other men how he views the world.

If he can give a cogent argument, there is nothing wrong with that.

[deleted] · 2015-09-22T22:10:08+00:00

Since then my little brother has become something of a redpill preacher. Every guy he meets he tries to recruit them.

Oh man. Facepalm. Rule 1 used to be "Don't talk about RP". What the fuck dude.

My brother first time meeting Nikki and her boyfriend Amit (fake name), makes a comment that this dude looks like a total beta.

Cringe intensifies. If you need to explain you're the king, you probably aren't.

He told Amit, about Nikki’s past guys, that she is settling for him, that she was only into White guys, and is only marrying him for security. He told her that, soon Nikki is going to be old, and that his value as a man will only rise and it’s best to dump her for a younger girl from India.

I mean, I wouldn't get involved in someone else's life like he did, but what exactly here is wrong to say? He deserves to know about her past if he didn't already. The rest is opinion not fact and if they were really going to be married the fiance should have been able to filter or at least wouldn't have trusted some random kid's idiotic opinion.

The entire time he told me what he said, not once did my brother show an ounce of remorse, he thought he was doing the right thing, that he was punishing this “slut” for what she did.

Cringe cringe cringe cringe. Kid is still plugged in. Getting angry/upset/moralistic about "sluts" is super fucking disgusting.

When Amit broke up with her, he went off telling everyone that Nikki is a slut

Amit probably would have done this eventually anyway. Besides, anyone has a right to not get married to anyone for any reason.

fundude1 · 2015-09-22T22:26:16+00:00

The brother did ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong. He basically warned the fiancee about the history of his soon to be wife.

Apparently, she didn't tell her future husband the truth about her past relationships.

Also, it appears very apparent that she was "settling" for her fiancee because her previous boyfriends were all white dudes that she would bang.

Why did she quickly change her script when she hit the late 20s?

prodigy2throw · 2015-09-22T22:54:57+00:00

LMAO the comments are even more hilarious!!!:

BP: Does your brother's girlfriend realize what a terrible, bitter, angry person he is?

OP: she would follow him to the end of the world.

BP Member: Does she have some kind of self-esteem issues, or is she just not aware of how he actually thinks?

OP:No self esteem issues, arrogance if anything. She joins in on him with his behavior.

TBP's brain is collectively exploding from this kid.

downunderit · 2015-09-22T21:59:56+00:00

I think she dodged a bullet.

I also think its weird boys need to get involved in other boys relationships.

ProtoPill · 2015-09-22T21:45:20+00:00

Keeping in mind that this couple is from an Indian culture, which parts of these do you think the fiance had a right to know about?

A right to know? None. Should she have told him? All of the above.

[deleted] · 2015-09-22T21:50:57+00:00

Whether from an Indian culture or not, they're in the US and living in a Westernized, feminized sexual marketplace. Nikki made her choices and acted as one might expect a reasonably attractive woman in her 20s would act.

Yes, Amit had every right to know about Nikki's past. Everything, the good, the bad and the ugly. Ideally, Nikki would have told Amit all this herself. None of this would have been an issue if she had told Amit this herself. Because at that point, it would have been all on Amit for accepting a slut who was settling for him. And we know Nikki didn't tell him because when cousin told Amit, he got all upset about it and broke it off.

But, the SMP being what it is, she probably didn't. So Mr. RP did what he did, and he told Amit the truth. And we know it's the truth because if it weren't, Nikki and the parents and the family wouldn't be all up in arms about it.

Bottom line -- Nikki lied, the relationship died. The only person to blame here is Nikki, who could have avoided all this by coming clean and telling Amit the truth about herself.

wombatinaburrow · 2015-09-23T00:14:47+00:00

Sounds like they both dodged a bullet, and weren't really suited to each other. Little brother needs to work through his anger phase.

ArrantPariah · 2015-09-22T22:36:16+00:00

At this point, Nikki's only hope would seem to be to collar a White guy. Most of us like Asian chicks, anyway.

wtknight · 2015-09-22T22:55:23+00:00

He should know about this. It's not that RP guy's place to tell him about it, though, as it's possible that he could be exaggerating. His fiancee should tell him voluntarily.
This is obviously an opinion. Amit should jude this for himself.
If he knows about #1, he would about #3 too.
Once again, an opinion and something the potential husband needs to judge for himself.
Everybody is getting older, and I don't think every man's value goes up as they get older. Also, if your goal is to start a family and not to spin plates, then 28 is a good age to start.
It will probably be much easier for him to relate to a fellow Indian-American rather than an Indian girl. It really depends on the person and all women from traditional countries are definitely not better than all women from western countries.

DameTwinkleToes · 2015-09-22T22:53:59+00:00

about Nikki’s past guys

Sure, this is something Nikki's fiancé should know about if he cares to know.

that she is settling for him, that she was only into White guys, and is only marrying him for security.

I'm confused about how Nikki's cousin even knew these things? Did Nikki explicitly state these things? If so, yes, even more so than the first one. But it sounds more like these were just opinions - and probably very biased ones as they were coming from someone so heavily influenced by TRP.

soon Nikki is going to be old, and that his value as a man will only rise, it’s best to dump her for a younger girl from India.

Opinions (except for the fact that Nikki is going to get old provided she does not die beforehand). Why would Nikki's fiancé be reasonably expected to know about someone else's opinions on things like what is "best" for him?

All in all, I think the break up was for the best. Who would really want to marry someone who would trust the opinions and judgments of some person they've only met once over their own?

Tom_The_Human · 2015-09-22T23:30:31+00:00

The brother may have been an asshole, but, judging from the story, it seems that Nikki may have led the guy on (or out right lied) about her past. I don't see that much wrong with what he did.
She probably was.
What were the ethnicities of all her previous guys? White? Ok then.
Probably was.
I wouldn't sell out my family like this, but it's true (depending on Nikki's age).
Again, I wouldn't sell out my family.

Whilst I would not have sold out my family in such a way, Nikki should have been more honest.

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-09-23T05:02:59+00:00

No one's entitled to anything. Case closed

cxj · 2015-09-23T05:06:16+00:00

Old thread is old

betterdeadthanbeta · 2015-09-23T01:16:50+00:00

I don't really see how entitlement factors in to any of this.

Was the guy entitled to know things about his fiance? No. He's entitled to decide not to be with her if he thinks she's concealing/lying about things, but he's not entitled to anything.

Was she entitled to have other people conceal things from her fiance, including her past? No. The females involved being mad is ridiculous.

Title	Was this fiance entitled to know about AFBB?
Author	PrimePussyOverRancid
Upvotes	5
Comments	108
Date	September 22, 2015 9:40 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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