Is spinning plates the male equivalent of having a lot of friendzoned guys around?

SpaceWhiskey · 2015-07-28T04:46:01+00:00

Basically, yeah. Both are pretty crappy ways to treat other people if you're aware of what's going on, in my opinion. I think it's shitty for women to string men along and I think it's shitty for men to string women along. I've been told time and again by RP guys here that the proper way to spin plates is with women 100% cool with the conditions, but here you are saying that at least two of the women you're fucking possibly/probably wish they were in a committed relationship instead of being FWB.

I feel like she has some feelings for me but she claims she doesnt. Am I supposed to take her word at face value like I would if she was a guy friend, or would it make me an arsehole for discussing top girl problems with her?

Do you fuck your guy friends? It's a different dynamic. Do guys lie to the girl they're in love with who say they're totally cool with just being friends? There's your answer.

exit_sandman · 2015-07-28T10:13:43+00:00

Is spinning plates the male equivalent of having a lot of friendzoned guys around?

Of course friendswithbenefitszoning and friendzoning are pretty similar. Both parties want full commitment with everything that entails and only hold onto the relationship because they think if they just try harder when "proving" their devotion and affection, their love interest will ultimately come around and can finally be happy (with them); and they don't remove themselves from him/her because they don't want to admit their investment into the relationship was for nothing - even it's better for their personal wellbeing.

Whether you want to continue that arrangement depends on you.

lolobviously · 2015-07-28T13:32:23+00:00

Its the equivalent of dating around and having fwb's .

PrimePussyOverRancid · 2015-07-28T02:58:51+00:00

Yes, I think platezoned and friendzoned are a fair comparison.

Have you tried telling your top plate your expectations for a committed LTR?

Now by a guys standards she is getting a great deal from me

She's getting a pretty shit deal, in my opinion lol. No one wants to be platezoned, just as no one wants to be friendzoned.

sedatedinsomniac · 2015-07-28T10:39:21+00:00

Plates are FWBs. That's all the term means.

lolobviously · 2015-07-28T03:03:50+00:00

Is spinning plates the male equivalent of having a lot of friendzoned guys around?

Sure. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Women have beta orbiters who give her commitment and other relationship benefits in exchange for the hope of sex. Men spin plates who freely fuck in exchange for the hope of commitment.

Am I supposed to take her word at face value

Why do you care? Who's the one catching feelings here?

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-07-28T12:41:40+00:00

Not really. You're seeing it more and more: women don't actually want commitment. They'd rather play alpha roulette.

GridReXX · 2015-07-28T10:43:48+00:00

Why do you want to talk about your feelings to girl #2 anyway?

sumant28 · 2015-07-28T12:23:34+00:00

I think the female equivalent of being friendzoned is...being friendzoned.

Yes, it happens.

belletaco · 2015-07-28T11:09:54+00:00

How is this like the friendzone? Besides the fact that the frjendzone doesn't exist, you are having an intimate connection with these girls, whereas friends are just friends.

Title	Is spinning plates the male equivalent of having a lot of friendzoned guys around?
Author	lolobviously
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Comments	103
Date	July 28, 2015 2:39 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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