Looked for myself and found her. Now if only I could find that special him....🤕

AngryCockOfJustice · 2020-10-08T01:29:18+00:00

I feel stuck. I’m almost 33, and I’m craving a monogamous, stable relationship so bad I can taste it. But after dipping my toe into the online dating world, and then suffering through a series of really awful dates, I’m starting to panic. I was baffled by the men who seemed so normal but talked only about themselves on dates, clearly only interested in hooking up even though their profiles suggest otherwise. It was like they were so concerned with selling themselves that they forgot to ask about me. These are grown-ass men! I deleted the dating apps. I’m so sick with disappointment that I am closing the book on dating until, well, when? How much time do I really have to build this family that I so badly want? Please keep in mind that this family does not even need to involve children. A stable, loving partner comes first. If children happen, great. If not, I can deal. I’m not desperately trying to meet someone so I can have a baby. I want to meet someone to share my life with. Why is this so hard?

Gentlemen, let's laugh at her together. This is how a typical damsel finds herself in distress.

hahaha. hehehehe. hohohoho. ыыыыыы. הההההה. 哈哈哈哈哈哈. 하하하하하하. ههههههههههههههه

Martellus732 · 2020-10-08T01:25:04+00:00

The advice from Advice-bitch is a perfect example that women have no clue.

Embrace the contradictions and conflict embedded in your current moment. You can mourn and celebrate at the same.

What the fuck is this bitch talking about. There literally was no advice, just empty words/phrases.

Cristoff13 · 2020-10-08T02:20:55+00:00

Despite claiming to desperately want a committed relationship, she first gets involved with a younger man, very good looking. As anyone could have told her, he views her as a booty call, and treats her as such.

Then she goes on a "series of really awful dates". What makes them so "awful" is that these men talk mostly about themselves, not about her. None of them get a chance at a second date apparently. Yet she went out with this younger guy for months despite him acting like a much worse asshole.

mistralol · 2020-10-08T08:14:17+00:00

Holy crap there is so much wrong with that women. You have to wait 12 days to have sex? some guys don't get any EVER and even more may only have the oppertunity a few times....

| I have had sex on my period before with previous partners, and it was no big deal at all

Well hate to break it to you. Some guys really don't like it. Its also somewhat messy..... ITs simply not the sort of thing you do on the first time in a new releationship at all. Whats worse is you didn't talk to him about it before hand or wait a couple of extra days....

| It was like they were so concerned with selling themselves that they forgot to ask about me

hahah this is normally because after you have dated a bunch of women. Most of the questions that you can ask on a date almost all women give the same answers. Its typically a boring conversation to have again and again....

| Why am I, and so many of my smart, beautiful, successful friends, struggling to meet decent men?

Because you treat them like shit and expect to be treated like a princess your entire life.

| As much as everyone’s “take time off and find yourself” advice is a nice thought

haha If men did this the world would stop working,,,,,

3HardWay · 2020-10-08T02:24:15+00:00

Polly gets so much street cred dropping Kendrick Lamar lyrics. Very relevant. /s

vincepa89 · 2020-10-08T02:10:12+00:00

Before she was happy by herself. But now things have changed. Logical translation: The Wall hits and it hits hard.

EvilKlownz2 · 2020-10-08T06:10:03+00:00

I take responsibility for my own faults that contributed to the dissolution of my relationship,

And you didn't mention them why? Oh ya, you don't take responsibility, lip service. But you had to mention HIS.

Fidelity was not his bag. The numerous lies involved to cover up those infidelities were a deal-breaker.

Now if was YOU that lied and had infidelities, YOU would scream the past is the past and he would be shamed to stay with you.

Lets face it. You had to outline HIS so you could play the victim card. YOU had to make him sound bad so you would get all the sympathy. This is why you had the short " I take responsibility for my own faults" and said what "he" did to distract from the real problem in your relationships, YOU.

mr_kuk · 2020-10-08T09:14:09+00:00

So what do I cherish even more than my very precious alone time? Quality time with the person I love.

You mean another hook up, had you truly wanted what you claim to want, you would have taken steps towards it. I'm basing this on your current status.

I love being showered with adoration. I love to shower them back tenfold. I love intimacy. I love sex. I love cuddling. I love doing nice things for my partner to make them feel appreciated. For me, love is what makes life worth living. Without it, I feel completely lost. This was not always the case, but my feelings have changed. I want to find my partner, build a family, a life.

You love being showered but it's not "with adoration". You love hooking up but the hooks are not biting any more and you want to cash out. You're the gambler waiting for the big win and you promise on everything holy that you will stop hooking up when you find your one true man. Remember guys, the marriage machine has a 70% lose rate.

I take responsibility for my own faults that contributed to the dissolution of my relationship,

Oh really?

And then out of the blue, I met a man that I developed an intense crush on, and I met him IRL. How wonderful it was! Things developed quickly, and it felt really great to have that surge of happiness in my life again. But then the red flags showed up.

Uh huh...

After dating a considerably older man, I was excited by the prospect of dating a man a few years younger than me

I'm so sick and tired of the CC... let me try the CC real quick a few hundred times.

I feel stuck. I’m almost 33, and I’m craving a monogamous, stable relationship so bad I can taste it. But after dipping my toe into the online dating world, and then suffering through a series of really awful dates, I’m starting to panic.

Having too many options can cause feelings of panic. Better hook up with each and every option so you can have your cake and eat it too.

“In a few years, you won’t even remember these people. This is no big deal. It’s going to suck in a million ways, and that’s fine. It’s just something you have to endure without taking it seriously.”

Polly is the master of marketing the CC. In a few years you won't even remember all the guys that pumped and dumped you and then you don't have to lie about the number to the Billy paying your bills and paying for all the shit you picked up on the CC.

Remember that some of your intense loneliness and longing is really mourning in disguise.

Your body is mourning the lack of children and stable male presence, but don't listen to me, I'm a misogynist.

InevitableOwl1 · 2020-10-08T11:46:49+00:00

Things that jump out:

“I’ve found her, she’s great” - absolutely no introspection. No consideration of any flaws at all
She mentioned the deal breaker with the ex was the lies to cover the infidelities. Not the infidelities themselves? Really?!
The period sex story definitely suggests unprotected sex in the early stage of a relationship. Who does this? Never happened to me for probably obvious reasons. I guess she felt it necessary to try and keep the guy around?
The reply mentioning body positivity has already been pointed out and laughed at. Body positivity does not mean shaming others as this Polly did with her comment about the guy being germ infested with dick hanging off (paraphrasing potentially)

I couldn’t read the reply in full since it was so awful.

orcscorper · 2020-10-08T10:46:41+00:00

“My magical, gorgeous body, which could someday CREATE A BRAND-NEW HUMAN BEING OUT OF THIN AIR, is dirty and disgusting, and your dick is beautiful and must be kept sterile? YOU ARE A TURGID BAG OF GERMS WITH A FLACCID COCK HANGING OFF IT!”

If this writer was in a techno group, it would be called Daft Cunt.

BluepillProfessor · 2020-10-08T15:24:22+00:00

She dumped him because he was grossed out by period blood? Just like all those women who dump their partners during child birth? It is immature but hardly a deal breaker. Her reaction was what was really immature!

alijasta · 2020-10-08T20:34:59+00:00

I couldn't read it all, it's making me nauseous. All you can hear is "I, I, I, I, me, I, I, I, me, I..." Maybe if she stopped being so self-centered she'd be more successful in her interpersonal life.

tuat98 · 2020-10-09T03:45:17+00:00

Not sure which I’m more impressed by. The mental gymnastics going on with this girl or the literal garbage from the female who answers the question.

jmpires · 2020-10-08T19:44:52+00:00

TIL babies are created in a [almost never] blood stinking, nevertheless gorgeous, body, almost out of thin air, more precisely, with a little help from a turgid bag of germs with a [briefly] non-flaccid cock.

Massacher · 2020-10-16T02:16:13+00:00

"grown-ass men". Says all you need to know about her.

Title	Looked for myself and found her. Now if only I could find that special him....🤕
Author	loneliness-inc
Upvotes	86
Comments	52
Date	October 8, 2020 12:58 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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