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india_game
October 10, 2019
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Married 24 Years Me:49 Wife 46 3 kids 21,17,16 5'10 182 lbs 12%BF BP275 Squat 325 DL 375. Discovered MRP after trolling Dead Bedrooms about my situation about 2 weeks ago. Read most of sidebar currently working The Way of Superior Man.

Quick backstory. Married young. Oneitis. Relationship, finances, kids, sex all good until about 5 years ago. Series of brutal business decisions resulted in losing a shit ton of money, almost bankrupt. Wife blamed all on me that lifestyle was changing. She never worked, kids in private school, vacations etc. Felt sorry for myself and went serious beta and drank heavily. Ended up in hospital in withdrawals, almost died. Decided one day to wake the fuck up and wound up in AA 2 and half years ago. Realized that everything was my fault and only I could fix it. Got my shit together, AA meetings everyday, lifting, and building business back up. Wife went back to work, she stopped when kids were born, as a RN. Has since become a cosmetic injector(botox, filler etc) which surprisingly brings in 6 figures. She still does all the housework. She has been on anti depressants for about 10 years. Her libido has been dropping/gone and she has no desire for sex. Whenever there is argument about lack of sex her shit test is that I was a drunk.

Been like my past self with alpha traits as my confidence is back and she doesn't deny sex, its just starfish. "Are you finished?" Read sidebar and am definitely in phase 3. Have bought up weaning off the pills but she is reluctant. Even spoke to the family doctor but both their philosophies as medical professionals is take a pill, it will fix it.

Want to go Rambo with this new found knowledge but am still feeling guilty about my 2 years of drinking. Should I STFU as shit tests have been decreasing? Am prepared for all criticism.


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Title Need Advice
Author india_game
Upvotes 9
Comments 22
Date 10 October 2019 11:11 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/289729
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/dg67rl/need_advice/
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[–]Smuggler-Tuek31 points32 points  (4 children) | Copy

whenever there is argument about lack of sex

If you are arguing with her about sex and not just STFU when she denies you then you are absolutely NOT your “alpha” self again.

[–]Balls_Wellington_8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

OP, this is the only comment you need to read.

[–]primordialawe4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think the problem here is OP can't read. If OP had read most of the sidebar like he says he has, he would know the "advice" he needs is to do the work,

[–]LaimbeerAdvocate0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read it all in 2 weeks!

[–]The_LitzRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The one sentence that gave it all away.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take that guilt on drinking or whatever and channel it into improvement.

How can you change what happened? You fucking can’t. So stop dwelling on it. You sucked. You still suck. Don’t go Rambo (too much) and the standard shit of lift, sidebar, stfu applies.

It’s hard but simple and straightforward.

[–]hack3geRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Funny thing about attraction is that - although you likely are in decent shape assuming your lifts and BF are accurate - you can be jacked and hot with a six pack and still be an unattractive faggot.

I was sub 10% BF ripped with an I flexed six pack and getting offers from 18 year olds to come fuck them but my wife still didn’t want to fuck me more than 2-3 times a month. I had no frame and my behavior was unattractive - the crazy thots didn’t see that or just didn’t care because I made their pussy tingle.

If you are getting starfish you should caveman the shit out of her - you’d be surprised what a hard fucking from behind while slapping her ass and pulling her hair will do. Better be ready to change the sheets.

You have a head start in that you are physically attractive (though I have doubts because of the disparity between your bench and deadlift) but you are still just a beta bitch in her eyes. This can go one of two ways - either she comes around quick if you were an alpha before or if you were a beta you are in for a long haul. You won’t have the benefit of her being jarred by you getting physically attractive so it’s all going to be about your unattractive behavior.

Either way frame is what keeps the pussy wet so you have to work on it either way.

At the end of the day it’s simple - be attractive and don’t be unattractive.

[–]0io-Tsundere7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

STFU is the right tactic about 80 or 90% of the time. It should be your default go-to tactic unless you happen to think of something particularly funny or witty in which case you can agree-and-amplify, or the problem has a trivial solution in which case you can use amused mastery. [She says "you drove the wrong way and we're going to be half an hour late to the party" and you say "we've already arrived" as you pull into the parking spot.]

Don't go Rambo. Figure a month or two for every year you were out of action, so in your case about 10 months. By the end of next summer you should be in a much better situation than today.

Starfish sex is a good starting point, and a big step up from a no-sex dead bedroom. Just go caveman when she tells you to hurry up and finish: switch to whatever your favorite position is and finish however you want (face, tits, ass, mouth... whatever it is you like.) If she asks what are you doing you're finishing the fastest way you know how. At least you're getting your needs met. Before long she'll be more into it, asking for positions she likes better, etc.

I don't think I'd worry about the anti-depressants for another year or two, especially if sex life is improving. Stay out of wife's head.

Anyway, good for you! You're off to a great start. You're not a drunk anymore, which is great, business is doing better which is great, wife is at least having sex, which is great... Don't feel guilty about your drinking any more but don't start drinking again. STFU unless you have a much better idea. STFU the vast majority of the time.

edit: Allen Carr's book Easy Way to Control Alcohol is fantastic, worth adding to your reading list.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not talking about gaming her ?

OYS main sub.

Fuck Rambo. Alpha self is not back. WTF. Drop the notion

How attractive are you - as a complete package ?

Dread. What level ?

[–]Rogue684866 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Problem isn't her psych meds

You're the problem

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Fuck you faggot. I have been sober since Nov 6, 2016 and let me tear you a new one as someone who takes sobriety pretty fucking serious.

Read most of sidebar

Two weeks? You have not read shit.

Decided one day to wake the fuck up and wound up in AA 2 and half years ago.

You do not "wind up" in AA. Its a choice.

AA meetings everyday

No one goes to AA meetings everyday. Once a week is normal. Less than that for most after a certain point of sobriety.

Series of brutal business decisions

You are a high risk taker, due to your addictive tendencies, lost out on some gambles, took it like a bitch, started drinking.

Wonder who that sounds like?

she has no desire for sex.

With you.

Whenever there is argument about lack of sex her shit test is that I was a drunk.

Yep, who cares about the past?

"Are you finished?"

Never start in the first place.

Am prepared for all criticism.

You are not prepared to do a motherfucking thing.

You are a weak faggot ass man who blames his issues on past sobriety failures like a cuck ass pussy. I did the same fucking thing you did bitch. Made some poor business decisions, lost my ass and turned to Xanax. My wife puked all over me, then I divorced her ass after I took control of my shit, got myself sober, stopped blaming the world for my fuckups and started acting like a fucking man again.

You bitch, you come in here, do not talk about your successful sobriety - do not take responsibility for your actions and you insult men like me in the process.

Your lifts are shit. I do not believe for one second you are nearly 2x BW on the nearly 2 of the big 3 lifts. So you fucking lie about that. You are 40 FOURTY fucking pounds less than me. Pussy.

Let me fucking tell you what you will never understand.

SHE IS GONE. YOUR MARRIAGE IS OVER.

There is no recovery of a man who goes thru this type of issue. I guarantee you are not 1/4 of the man I am pre-sobriety and guess what - I couldn't even right my marriage. But you know what? I quickly learned that I didnt want to. At least I fucking made that call to pilot my ship alone, and did what it took to get there.

There is ZERO loyalty in women. I did not realize this until it happened to me.

You will always be the drunk, and I will always be the Xanax pill popping loser.

But who fucking cares what a worthless woman, who can be replaced in less than 5 days thinks about me? I sure as fuck dont. I am to busy being awesome, doing what I do and living my life. Anal training bitches, pissing on them and enjoying my kids.

Your fucking kids are old. They are grown. You have options to next this bitch, and go be an awesome HVM at 50 years old. You could be pulling tail if you were a man. You could be fucking all the SAHM's your whore wife is injecting with botox into their DSL's. Imagine some SAHM with DSL's your exwife made choking on your dick.

But hey, its cool. You should totally dedicate the rest of your life to a depressed wife on medication, with no sex drive and who has probably been fucking other men while you are to busy not being sober.

still feeling guilty about my 2 years of drinking.

I saved this for last.

This, tells me all I need to know about you. You have not ran the 12 steps. Like your sidebar reading, you treated your recovery.

You have not internalized a fucking thing bitch.

Fuck outta here.

[–]mrpalt1Chief of the Towel Police2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

TKO....just here with fresh towels to wipe up the blood.

[–]10012901 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You’re sober but on “addy-fueled sex romps”?

Sober my ass. Addiction swap. Xanax out adderall in.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Duh.

But it was. Xanax out gym in.

[–]part_wolf1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm surprised you're asking for advice at all, that's super beta. Now that you're alpha, it's time to rambo up and hit your wife with the "fuck me or fuck you" conversation. Call a family meeting and explain to your wife and kids that you're the Captain and tell them how things are going to work moving forward. Don't DEER, and if they're confused about the metaphor and you get any questions or concerns just walk the fuck out. Get your own bank account and put your wife on an allowance. It doesn't matter if she makes good money, you should control what she does with it. Push right past any denials for sex in the bedroom - if she isn't clawing your eyes out then she definitely wants some dick. Pick up at least three but no more than five plates (six plates is too much pussy to manage, even for hardcore alphas like us). Keep the outcome independence, but if things get worse in the short term throw her a bone and explain what MRP is and that it's going to be better for you both in the long run. Don't worry about posting to the Own Your Shit threads or taking advice from the rest of these faggots; none of them have achieved the type of progress you've had in your first two weeks.



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