When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go along with it?

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When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go with it? I never know what to say so usually just say I’m a virgin as generally they’ll of slept with more then I have, I’ve slept with 5 girls. Usually they’re really surprised but quite excited about it, I just find it entertaining going along with it.

One of my friends just said that it’s probably shooting me in the foot and creeping them out. I haven’t ever received any bad reaction from it usually just excited for me to lose it to them. Plus more likely to let me go in raw.

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Title When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go along with it?
Author Chwestfi
Upvotes 78
Comments 115
Date 18 October 2019 02:08 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/291548
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/djo0wy/when_a_girl_asks_how_many_girls_ive_slept_with_is/
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[–]NobodyP153 points54 points  (3 children) | Copy

When they ask say pick a number they pick one and that’s the amount of girls you’ve slept with

[–]anneelhilator24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

That sentence could really use some commas, man.

[–]Chwestfi[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

This sounds a good one

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]jjj2576173 points174 points  (15 children) | Copy

There are two RP schools of thought. You have to decide who you are, and choose for yourself. We can’t tell you what to do, but can tell you the best RP options.

The first? Own your shit & embody a DNGAF mentality. Be honest— if she has an issue, she’s probably a cunt anyway.

The second? Rollo’s Iron Rules. This is the more popular school of thought, and the one I prefer— but you have to remember, Rollo wasn’t a virgin when he came up with this.

Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2

“NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.”

Iron Rule of Tomassi #8

“Always let a woman figure out why she wont ƒuck you, never do it for her.”

“An integral part of maintaining the feminine imperative as the societal imperative involves keeping women as the primary sexual selectors. As I’ve detailed in many prior comments and posts, this means that a woman’s sexual strategy necessitates that she be in as optimized a condition as her capacity (attractiveness) allows for her to choose from the best males available to satisfy that strategy.”

Also— You’re a fag for not reading the Sidebar books. The answers to this are in there.

Edit: The Iron Rules are copy pasta’d. Added quotes.

[–]SeasonedRP36 points37 points  (6 children) | Copy

There is actually one red pill school of thought, and that's don't answer. The other approach is how a tradcon would handle it.

[–]flipdoggers16 points17 points  (5 children) | Copy

Honesty can work as a TRP sexual strategy if it's done in a certain way in certain contexts. TRP isn't an exact dogma, just because Rollo says not to answer doesn't mean that's the Official Redpill MethodTM. Other experienced members here might be very good at being honest with chicks about their sexual history and keeping them interested.

[–]theyearsstartcomin5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

very good at being honest with chicks about their sexual history and keeping them interested.


You just have to be not bragging. If you tell the whole truth it has to be stated as matter of fact and no big deal. Then theyll be dying to find out what theyve missed out on

[–]SeasonedRP-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

I hardly follow exact dogma, and I've never read Rollo. I've known about and practiced RP principles before there was such a thing as RP or Rollo. Rollo could learn from me rather than the other way around. Unless maybe you're 14, telling a girl you're a virgin is most certainly not a valid "TRP sexual strategy."

[–]theyearsstartcomin5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Im a virgin. 😉”

They never believe it

[–]flipdoggers2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

telling a girl you're a virgin is most certainly not a valid "TRP sexual strategy."

Why not? Works fine for OP.

[–]jjj2576-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re a fag for not reading the Sidebar.

[–]theyearsstartcomin6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

I agree with the second part, but the first doesnt make sense. I used to flippantly say “eh, 50, a hundred, who knows anymore” with a shit eating grin

Girls seemed to like it because they cant know if im lowballing or highballing or bullshitting, but they want to find out what theyre missing out on

[–]mabden83 points84 points  (4 children) | Copy

>When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with

Do you mean today?

[–]CompensatioLucri30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy

Usually adds to this by saying: “You were supposed to be no 75 today, but unfortunately 74 called in sic just before you. We’ll just pretend”. Works so well.

[–]RonDriskel3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

LOL that’s killer

[–]illusiveab24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cocky/funny never fails. DeAngelo ftw.

[–]1ANGRY_ATHEIST30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like, at the same time, or just this week?

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy

Iron Rule of Thomassi #2.

[–]longjeep200516 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely DON’T. I told the girl I lost my virginity to that she was my first when we had to break things off because of distance, and she was absolutely disgusted by it. She said, “Why would you tell me that?” Women want to be with a successful man. If you’ve convinced a woman you’re alpha, don’t give her a reason to think otherwise.

[–]SeasonedRP38 points39 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't answer. There's no law that says you have to disclose everything about yourself just because someone asks. Do you ask girls about the measurements of their labia before going out with them? Of course not, and them asking about your history is similarly inappropriate and invasive.

You can smirk and ignore, or say "a gentleman doesn't discuss such things" or "my what an impertinent question" or something similar with an amused smirk.

Girls aren't attracted to men whom other girls don't want, and that's how they view male virgins. Answering and hoping one feels sorry for you is foolish.

[–]theyearsstartcomin11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you ask girls about the measurements of their labia before going out with them? Of course not,


[–]beginner_11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can say it in a way it's clear your not (with your look and gestures). Then they say something "but really, say the truth". Then you count out with your finger 1,2,3...4-hundert 57.75. "Why .75?" you answer with some other dumb shit like one was a one-legged pirate. And so forth till they give it up.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

Never say you’re a virgin until after you slept with her.

[–]RonDriskel-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

But then you’re not a virgin you pea-brain fuckwit

[–]anxietyriddledbuddah8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Born again virgin

[–]Kurush55917 points18 points  (3 children) | Copy

just say you can't remember or say you're gay as a joke or whatever

[–]Chwestfi[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah I might start saying that

[–]PritM131 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How about " How many girls would you want me to have slept with?"

[–]Alt_Mayday-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

...or just lie and say "a couple"

[–]tspice19 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

When asked if I am currently sleeping with someone I always say “No”. How can I be? I’m in a coffee shop talking to you.

[–]Distractingyou9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also lying about your number of girls is good once they see you as chad its perfect

[–]PhaedrusHunt11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude you either deflect or you agree and amplify.

Woman: how many women have you slept with?

Possible replies: As in today or this week? Do you understand scientific notation? I'd have to give my accountant a call. I'm not so good with spreadsheets.

Keep frame brother.

When I first met my wife I had four or five plates and she could tell because I just was giving off that vibe. Early on one time right after we got done having sex she was cuddling and she said how many women are you sleeping with? now she said it in a really sexy voice like it turned her on right? yes it's true women do not mind sleeping with a man that's sleeping with multiple women. My response: Oh, you know. Like 40 or 50.

She laughed. She loved it.

Be vague. And if you're going to fudge your numbers fudge them up and not down

[–]Mobrowncheeks6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Idk I just always say 42, the question usually comes as like " you seem like a player/ smooth talker" and I say I'm a regular guy. Then they ask so it goes together lol

[–]ProFriendZoner3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her: How many girls have you slept with?

You: You're the first (wait a second or two) today

[–]FrozenTreeStump18 points19 points  (11 children) | Copy

Wrap it up, don’t be an idiot

[–]Schhwing9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Less than a thousand"

"No seriously"

"Ok more than negative 27"

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Follow-up question:

Recently, a girl asked me the same question. I played the recommended card and beat around the bush. But she kept pressing back every minute, asking 2, 3, hell 4 times, holding me tight while she did, and stared her fucking soul into mine.

How would you react?

[–]hotpossum9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next. She sounds batty.

[–]Chwestfi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve had that a couple of times when girls will not rest until I tell them something

[–]Standgrounding1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd lean in for the kiss if she was "staring her soul into me"

[–]jakethesnake50002 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

How old are you? This is an important detail regarding your question

[–]Chwestfi[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

18, I don’t think it seems creepy at that age

[–]jakethesnake50008 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

Once you get over the hurdle of losing your v card, you’ll start “knocking down girls like bowling pins”. That’s what someone told me at your age, when i lost mine. I don’t think it’s a big deal to tell girls you’re a virgin at 18, but don’t tell unless they ask.

Beware: if you are dating a slut, she might not wanna fuck.

[–]Chwestfi[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

I’m not a virgin I just say it because I don’t know what else to tell them. I’ve told women in the past but I usually feel shit when I say 5 and they then say something like 12 so past year I’ve just said to every girl I’m a virgin.

[–]Distractingyou16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thats cause you cant keep frame

[–]jakethesnake500010 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s not a good strategy. If you are not a virgin, then say something like “all of them”.

[–]bodybuilder988 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

"A few here and there" or something along those lines.

Amused mastery bro, don't say an exact number.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you got nothing else to say just don't talk to them and work on yourself

[–]PolesWithGoals3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t ever say you’re a virgin...

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Be vague and change the subject.

"Somewhere between zero and eighty."

[–]RonDriskel1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Then they immediately know that it’s zero because why else would you phrase it that way.

[–]Glassland0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah.. No.

It depends on how the girl perceives you. If she's unsure and looks out for a reason to not sleep with you, she will hear "0".

If she's into you, she will hear "80".

[–]MisterRoid1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would just avoid giving a straight answer. Too few and you may be seen as a loser; too many and the girl may feel paranoid about STDs and want you to put on a condom.

[–]nidham211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I lost count.

[–]light-----------dark1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

but are you f-closing ?

[–]Chwestfi[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah every time and they’ve always been happy to take my virginity.

[–]beginner_4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well at 18 that might work, not when your in your older.

[–]asdfvegas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

When she asks for my ‘number’, it’s usually after we have already had sex at least once, probably more than once.

My answer is usually one of the following:

“I was a virgin before you, baby!”

“How dare you ask? I was a good innocent boy that you’ve corrupted with your wild ways.” I try to work in the word “succubus” somewhere, just because I like how it sounds.

“I don’t kiss and tell.” This is funnier when she has already told me her ‘number’, signaling that she does kiss and tell.

“I stopped counting at a hundred.” (sarcastic tone, eye roll).

And then I change the subject, slap her butt, pick her up and swing her around, or go pay attention to something else, maybe even walk away for a little bit.

[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's an okay angle to play but you don't want them to actually believe that you're a virgin. Pre-selection is a wonderful trait to have. It throws a lot of attraction your way for basically no effort.

If a girl actually thinks you're a virgin, she might wonder wtf is wrong with you. There must be a reason why no girl has slept with you. Maybe you have a micro penis or you have severe ED.

If you're trying to pass a shit test by saying you're a virgin, make sure you're saying it sarcastically, "How many girls have I had sex with? I haven't even kissed one yet!"

It's not my preferred angle. It's too goofy for me. I feel more comfortable with the cocky funny responses like, "This week? I'm currently at 66, but please don't let your mom know."

[–]Hungboy69694202 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

" a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell" Or tell them your a desperate virgin and be over the top about it in a funny way

[–]sixtyearths0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

How do you actually feel when someone asks you this? Do you feel the same every time?

Are you irritated because you're needing closeness before someone you don't know very well asks you this very personal question?

Are you ashamed because you're needing self-respect and you're deriving that from the approval of women/society and you feel that the number of women you've had sex with is too low to be respected?

Are you apprehensive because you're needing security in the relationship and you don't know how they will react to hearing the number because you haven't known them long enough to know this about them?

Are you frustrated because you're needing freedom from the past and you believe that numbers don't matter but when people ask, they're forcing society's view that it does matter?

Are you fearful because you're needing stability in the frequency you have sexual intimacy and you think that could be jeopardized by saying something the other person doesn't want to hear?

Are you numb because you're needing honesty and you know this is where you typically begin telling lies and therefore disconnecting from the person you had been on the verge of having a close relationship with?

Are you distressed because you're needing independence and telling someone the total number of women you've had sex with is something you wouldn't want to do whatever the number?

[–]Chwestfi[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Are you ashamed because you're needing self-respect and you're deriving that from the approval of women/society and you feel that the number of women you've had sex with is too low to be respected?

I guess somewhat this. I don’t think my number is low for the average guy my age, it’s just low compared to most girls due to them having dick on demand. I feel that a girl having a higher count then myself makes me lower value. I guess I just pretend I’m a virgin for entertainment at that point.

[–]sixtyearths2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What is it about 0 that you think is better than saying a higher number than them?

[–]whammyface0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I used that shit until I was like 25. I always said I was virgin somewhat jokingly. And many times it opens the flood gates. Her response will tell you if she’s attracted to you or not.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar

[–]RaidenDark0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My answer is always "a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell"

Helps them hamster later if they want it on the down low.

[–]drakehfh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You can tell that the guys in the comments don't have frame when they mention some "laws" written by another guy and they live by those "laws".

When they ask me this, usually it is after sex and I say "what are you taking about? I'm a virgin" with a smirk while leaving the bed (ex going to the bathroom).

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've had hundreds of women. Some were actually sexy!

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I found out that a great answer is to say "Enough". It gives them literally what they want to hear (a number that is neither to high nor too low, so enough is exactly that) and lets their hamster spin at mach 50

[–]Lunchabel970 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“You mean today?”

[–]frognads0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you're about to fuck anyway it doesn't really matter

[–]MOSFETBJT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hold your hand out and start counting

"one... Two... Three... Four..."

Look at her

"four hundred?"

[–]anal_conundrum0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve always just gone with “none, I’m a good catholic boy” followed by a smirk or maybe a subtle wink

[–]PiperBigBell0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I give them all an exact number and it's never hurt or come back to hurt me with them. Players turn them on

[–]Jugurthajones870 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“I don’t count that sort of thing.”

[–]IXseed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Make the shit up.
Being honest about your ncount is only gonna make women not wanna fuck you regardless if you're a virgin or in the 00s.

[–]FinallyRed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ask her to guess. Play offended no matter what she says. Insinuate she must be attracted to whatever type of guy she characterized you as. Segue to next topic.

[–]BornShook0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you want a community that will give you tips and tricks to magically get women in your bed, go talk to the PUAs.

But if you have a brain, you should realize that it doesn't matter what you say or do; As long as you own it, and it seems natural (otherwise known as maintaining frame).

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go with it?

"Less than 20" is sufficient.

Keep her guessing, because all answers are bad but mystery is good.

I haven’t ever received any bad reaction from it usually just excited for me to lose it to them.

if it works for you then go with it

Plus more likely to let me go in raw.

  1. This is pretty bad as you're deceiving them

  2. Girls lie about contraception and the courts don't care what she said anyway. Wrap it or answer to "daddy".

[–]BurnYourFlag0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A&A fam turn it into a joke. Your my first Teach me how to fuck

[–]PutlockerAndChill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I just tell them I’m a virgin which they reply ‘you’re definitely not’ where I’ll amplify a little but if they ask what number I just count on my fingers but keep going up till they laugh and slap me.

[–]Monitorul0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If you're saying it as a joke, then yeah, whatever. Just make sure they understand it's a joke.

[–]Chwestfi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I think that’s the issue. I find it more entertaining to go along with it.

[–]liquorbaron0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Over 1 billion served."

"All of them."


"Don't know. I lost count after a couple of thousand."

Btw it's a common shit test. Read the side bar.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorFieldLine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sure, that works. I've said it to many girls, and not a single one believed me. Even the first girl I "fucked" and could barely keep it up.

Girls have no idea how hard it is for men to get laid. Telling a girl you are a virgin in the 21st century is like telling her you never ate fast food. Totally foreign, a laughable suggestion.

Plus more likely to let me go in raw.

I know you don't have much experience, but educate yourself before you do something dumb.

[–]FillySapper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you are a liar, no not bad.

[–]E9er0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yeah most girls like a little experience. few will appreciate your innocence. so 1-2-3 is better than ZERO... that means there’s something wrong with you or no girls want you.. if so why? because no game! now if it’s for religious reason you can milk that but if it’s not. i wouldn’t admit it blantly to a random. so when she ask look at her and say “None but you can be my first” with a very cocky smirk! this will throw her off for 2 reasons! someone who is a virgin wont say anything like this; so to her you immediately seem to be experienced and second you called her bluff of why she cares who you’ve banged. it’s like she shit tested you by covertly asking “do you get pussy” so you replied to her shit test with “ are you gonna give me pussy?” yo essentially beat her at her game! and girls love a guy who can swing back and hang with them! that’s how you get the their pink lips! if she says no then tell her don’t worry about it! you still insinuated you get pussy because you never said zero you just said don’t worry about it which can be any number!

[–]sebastianconcept0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Holly sidebar lack of reading Batman.

Nooooooo. You never reveal that.

You never reveal your patrimony, right? then you also don’t do that with your sexual patrimony.

[–]NoFapGrandmaster0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Never, under any circumstances, say you're a virgin, only if you're being sarcastic. If you are indeed a virgin just fake it till you make it, don't tell many of your homies either, that secret will chase away any potential mate. I can't stress this enough, you being a virgin IS a deal breaker for almost any woman, you may get away with it only if your SMV is through the roof (not likely since you are a virgin) or she's already head over heels for oyu. Source: was a virgin until recently

I believe we should have a "don't give a shit" mentality, and it's the best for our well being, however in this case just fake it a little or avoid the question playfully, say "I don't kiss and tell" or make a stupid joke like "you mean how many I slept with today?", do it confidently and with a shit eating grin, don't go back on your word or hesitate and you're golden. Read this thread

[–]Chwestfi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m not a virgin...

[–]LordFlakkko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It doesn't matter as long as you are attractive enough and can make a joke about it and use irony. Ive implied to several women that im a virgin but clearly they can tell that im not a virgin.

[–]bumbuff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"I'm not a virgin, but there's always room to improve. I like to practice as often as I can."

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The approach you're taking covers the essence of the Iron Rule Red Pill advice on this, as you're coming from a place of amusement and fun strategically than inadequacy. Stick with it until it doesn't work.

[–]MindlessCalendar-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why does no one read the sidebar anymore? It's getting extremely annoying.

[–]MindlessCalendar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To the idiot down voting this, write why my comment is wrong or fuck off. The answer to this question (that mind you has been asked a million times already) is literally in the sidebar. It's not even a slight variation on it or anything. Guys are way too lazy here.

[–]ToraChan23-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a girl really wants to fuck you, she'd do it whether you've fucked 0 or 1,000.

The amount is inconsequential if there is pure desire.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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