When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go along with it?

NobodyP1 · 2019-10-18T15:47:56+00:00

When they ask say pick a number they pick one and that’s the amount of girls you’ve slept with

jjj2576 · 2019-10-18T14:17:21+00:00

There are two RP schools of thought. You have to decide who you are, and choose for yourself. We can’t tell you what to do, but can tell you the best RP options.

The first? Own your shit & embody a DNGAF mentality. Be honest— if she has an issue, she’s probably a cunt anyway.

The second? Rollo’s Iron Rules. This is the more popular school of thought, and the one I prefer— but you have to remember, Rollo wasn’t a virgin when he came up with this.

Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2

“NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.”

Iron Rule of Tomassi #8

“Always let a woman figure out why she wont ƒuck you, never do it for her.”

“An integral part of maintaining the feminine imperative as the societal imperative involves keeping women as the primary sexual selectors. As I’ve detailed in many prior comments and posts, this means that a woman’s sexual strategy necessitates that she be in as optimized a condition as her capacity (attractiveness) allows for her to choose from the best males available to satisfy that strategy.”

Also— You’re a fag for not reading the Sidebar books. The answers to this are in there.

Edit: The Iron Rules are copy pasta’d. Added quotes.

mabden · 2019-10-18T14:43:34+00:00

>When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with

Do you mean today?

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-10-18T14:20:27+00:00

Iron Rule of Thomassi #2.

longjeep2005 · 2019-10-18T17:07:34+00:00

Absolutely DON’T. I told the girl I lost my virginity to that she was my first when we had to break things off because of distance, and she was absolutely disgusted by it. She said, “Why would you tell me that?” Women want to be with a successful man. If you’ve convinced a woman you’re alpha, don’t give her a reason to think otherwise.

SeasonedRP · 2019-10-18T15:04:31+00:00

Don't answer. There's no law that says you have to disclose everything about yourself just because someone asks. Do you ask girls about the measurements of their labia before going out with them? Of course not, and them asking about your history is similarly inappropriate and invasive.

You can smirk and ignore, or say "a gentleman doesn't discuss such things" or "my what an impertinent question" or something similar with an amused smirk.

Girls aren't attracted to men whom other girls don't want, and that's how they view male virgins. Answering and hoping one feels sorry for you is foolish.

beginner_ · 2019-10-18T17:46:39+00:00

You can say it in a way it's clear your not (with your look and gestures). Then they say something "but really, say the truth". Then you count out with your finger 1,2,3...4-hundert 57.75. "Why .75?" you answer with some other dumb shit like one was a one-legged pirate. And so forth till they give it up.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-10-18T15:52:58+00:00

Never say you’re a virgin until after you slept with her.

Kurush559 · 2019-10-18T14:15:04+00:00

just say you can't remember or say you're gay as a joke or whatever

tspice1 · 2019-10-18T16:38:36+00:00

When asked if I am currently sleeping with someone I always say “No”. How can I be? I’m in a coffee shop talking to you.

Distractingyou · 2019-10-18T14:52:55+00:00

Also lying about your number of girls is good once they see you as chad its perfect

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-10-18T16:08:01+00:00

Dude you either deflect or you agree and amplify.

Woman: how many women have you slept with?

Possible replies: As in today or this week? Do you understand scientific notation? I'd have to give my accountant a call. I'm not so good with spreadsheets.

Keep frame brother.

When I first met my wife I had four or five plates and she could tell because I just was giving off that vibe. Early on one time right after we got done having sex she was cuddling and she said how many women are you sleeping with? now she said it in a really sexy voice like it turned her on right? yes it's true women do not mind sleeping with a man that's sleeping with multiple women. My response: Oh, you know. Like 40 or 50.

She laughed. She loved it.

Be vague. And if you're going to fudge your numbers fudge them up and not down

Mobrowncheeks · 2019-10-18T16:04:17+00:00

Idk I just always say 42, the question usually comes as like " you seem like a player/ smooth talker" and I say I'm a regular guy. Then they ask so it goes together lol

ProFriendZoner · 2019-10-18T16:40:08+00:00

Her: How many girls have you slept with?

You: You're the first (wait a second or two) today

FrozenTreeStump · 2019-10-18T15:00:43+00:00

Wrap it up, don’t be an idiot

Schhwing · 2019-10-18T15:50:18+00:00

"Less than a thousand"

"No seriously"

"Ok more than negative 27"

hotpossum · 2019-10-18T16:13:40+00:00

Follow-up question:

Recently, a girl asked me the same question. I played the recommended card and beat around the bush. But she kept pressing back every minute, asking 2, 3, hell 4 times, holding me tight while she did, and stared her fucking soul into mine.

How would you react?

jakethesnake5000 · 2019-10-18T14:12:08+00:00

How old are you? This is an important detail regarding your question

PolesWithGoals · 2019-10-18T16:27:43+00:00

Don’t ever say you’re a virgin...

leftajar · 2019-10-18T16:40:04+00:00

Be vague and change the subject.

"Somewhere between zero and eighty."

MisterRoid · 2019-10-18T15:14:32+00:00

I would just avoid giving a straight answer. Too few and you may be seen as a loser; too many and the girl may feel paranoid about STDs and want you to put on a condom.

nidham21 · 2019-10-18T15:49:35+00:00

I lost count.

light-----------dark · 2019-10-18T16:57:34+00:00

but are you f-closing ?

asdfvegas · 2019-10-18T17:39:11+00:00

When she asks for my ‘number’, it’s usually after we have already had sex at least once, probably more than once.

My answer is usually one of the following:

“I was a virgin before you, baby!”

“How dare you ask? I was a good innocent boy that you’ve corrupted with your wild ways.” I try to work in the word “succubus” somewhere, just because I like how it sounds.

“I don’t kiss and tell.” This is funnier when she has already told me her ‘number’, signaling that she does kiss and tell.

“I stopped counting at a hundred.” (sarcastic tone, eye roll).

And then I change the subject, slap her butt, pick her up and swing her around, or go pay attention to something else, maybe even walk away for a little bit.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-10-18T18:52:14+00:00

It's an okay angle to play but you don't want them to actually believe that you're a virgin. Pre-selection is a wonderful trait to have. It throws a lot of attraction your way for basically no effort.

If a girl actually thinks you're a virgin, she might wonder wtf is wrong with you. There must be a reason why no girl has slept with you. Maybe you have a micro penis or you have severe ED.

If you're trying to pass a shit test by saying you're a virgin, make sure you're saying it sarcastically, "How many girls have I had sex with? I haven't even kissed one yet!"

It's not my preferred angle. It's too goofy for me. I feel more comfortable with the cocky funny responses like, "This week? I'm currently at 66, but please don't let your mom know."

Hungboy6969420 · 2019-10-18T14:22:04+00:00

" a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell" Or tell them your a desperate virgin and be over the top about it in a funny way

sixtyearths · 2019-10-18T16:45:53+00:00

How do you actually feel when someone asks you this? Do you feel the same every time?

Are you irritated because you're needing closeness before someone you don't know very well asks you this very personal question?

Are you ashamed because you're needing self-respect and you're deriving that from the approval of women/society and you feel that the number of women you've had sex with is too low to be respected?

Are you apprehensive because you're needing security in the relationship and you don't know how they will react to hearing the number because you haven't known them long enough to know this about them?

Are you frustrated because you're needing freedom from the past and you believe that numbers don't matter but when people ask, they're forcing society's view that it does matter?

Are you fearful because you're needing stability in the frequency you have sexual intimacy and you think that could be jeopardized by saying something the other person doesn't want to hear?

Are you numb because you're needing honesty and you know this is where you typically begin telling lies and therefore disconnecting from the person you had been on the verge of having a close relationship with?

Are you distressed because you're needing independence and telling someone the total number of women you've had sex with is something you wouldn't want to do whatever the number?

whammyface · 2019-10-18T16:54:06+00:00

I used that shit until I was like 25. I always said I was virgin somewhat jokingly. And many times it opens the flood gates. Her response will tell you if she’s attracted to you or not.

Standgrounding · 2019-10-18T17:54:23+00:00

Read the sidebar

RaidenDark · 2019-10-18T18:25:13+00:00

My answer is always "a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell"

Helps them hamster later if they want it on the down low.

drakehfh · 2019-10-18T18:34:33+00:00

You can tell that the guys in the comments don't have frame when they mention some "laws" written by another guy and they live by those "laws".

When they ask me this, usually it is after sex and I say "what are you taking about? I'm a virgin" with a smirk while leaving the bed (ex going to the bathroom).

Bing_Bang_Bam · 2019-10-18T18:51:58+00:00

I've had hundreds of women. Some were actually sexy!

Nergaal · 2019-10-18T19:10:00+00:00

I found out that a great answer is to say "Enough". It gives them literally what they want to hear (a number that is neither to high nor too low, so enough is exactly that) and lets their hamster spin at mach 50

Lunchabel97 · 2019-10-18T20:01:08+00:00

“You mean today?”

frognads · 2019-10-18T20:05:17+00:00

If you're about to fuck anyway it doesn't really matter

MOSFETBJT · 2019-10-18T21:18:03+00:00

Hold your hand out and start counting

"one... Two... Three... Four..."

Look at her

"four hundred?"

anal_conundrum · 2019-10-18T21:28:08+00:00

I’ve always just gone with “none, I’m a good catholic boy” followed by a smirk or maybe a subtle wink

PiperBigBell · 2019-10-18T21:40:46+00:00

I give them all an exact number and it's never hurt or come back to hurt me with them. Players turn them on

Jugurthajones87 · 2019-10-18T21:48:46+00:00

“I don’t count that sort of thing.”

IXseed · 2019-10-18T21:56:28+00:00

Make the shit up.
Being honest about your ncount is only gonna make women not wanna fuck you regardless if you're a virgin or in the 00s.

FinallyRed · 2019-10-18T22:27:25+00:00

Ask her to guess. Play offended no matter what she says. Insinuate she must be attracted to whatever type of guy she characterized you as. Segue to next topic.

BornShook · 2019-10-18T22:36:24+00:00

If you want a community that will give you tips and tricks to magically get women in your bed, go talk to the PUAs.

But if you have a brain, you should realize that it doesn't matter what you say or do; As long as you own it, and it seems natural (otherwise known as maintaining frame).

MattyAnon · 2019-10-18T22:40:49+00:00

When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go with it?

"Less than 20" is sufficient.

Keep her guessing, because all answers are bad but mystery is good.

I haven’t ever received any bad reaction from it usually just excited for me to lose it to them.

if it works for you then go with it

Plus more likely to let me go in raw.

This is pretty bad as you're deceiving them
Girls lie about contraception and the courts don't care what she said anyway. Wrap it or answer to "daddy".

BurnYourFlag · 2019-10-18T23:07:16+00:00

A&A fam turn it into a joke. Your my first Teach me how to fuck

PutlockerAndChill · 2019-10-18T23:33:14+00:00

I just tell them I’m a virgin which they reply ‘you’re definitely not’ where I’ll amplify a little but if they ask what number I just count on my fingers but keep going up till they laugh and slap me.

Monitorul · 2019-10-19T00:53:53+00:00

If you're saying it as a joke, then yeah, whatever. Just make sure they understand it's a joke.

liquorbaron · 2019-10-19T01:18:23+00:00

"Over 1 billion served."

"All of them."

"Today?"

"Don't know. I lost count after a couple of thousand."

Btw it's a common shit test. Read the side bar.

FieldLine · 2019-10-19T01:35:25+00:00

Sure, that works. I've said it to many girls, and not a single one believed me. Even the first girl I "fucked" and could barely keep it up.

Girls have no idea how hard it is for men to get laid. Telling a girl you are a virgin in the 21st century is like telling her you never ate fast food. Totally foreign, a laughable suggestion.

Plus more likely to let me go in raw.

I know you don't have much experience, but educate yourself before you do something dumb.

FillySapper · 2019-10-19T02:09:53+00:00

If you are a liar, no not bad.

E9er · 2019-10-19T02:12:17+00:00

yeah most girls like a little experience. few will appreciate your innocence. so 1-2-3 is better than ZERO... that means there’s something wrong with you or no girls want you.. if so why? because no game! now if it’s for religious reason you can milk that but if it’s not. i wouldn’t admit it blantly to a random. so when she ask look at her and say “None but you can be my first” with a very cocky smirk! this will throw her off for 2 reasons! someone who is a virgin wont say anything like this; so to her you immediately seem to be experienced and second you called her bluff of why she cares who you’ve banged. it’s like she shit tested you by covertly asking “do you get pussy” so you replied to her shit test with “ are you gonna give me pussy?” yo essentially beat her at her game! and girls love a guy who can swing back and hang with them! that’s how you get the their pink lips! if she says no then tell her don’t worry about it! you still insinuated you get pussy because you never said zero you just said don’t worry about it which can be any number!

sebastianconcept · 2019-10-19T02:58:09+00:00

Holly sidebar lack of reading Batman.

Nooooooo. You never reveal that.

You never reveal your patrimony, right? then you also don’t do that with your sexual patrimony.

NoFapGrandmaster · 2019-10-19T11:03:46+00:00

Never, under any circumstances, say you're a virgin, only if you're being sarcastic. If you are indeed a virgin just fake it till you make it, don't tell many of your homies either, that secret will chase away any potential mate. I can't stress this enough, you being a virgin IS a deal breaker for almost any woman, you may get away with it only if your SMV is through the roof (not likely since you are a virgin) or she's already head over heels for oyu. Source: was a virgin until recently

I believe we should have a "don't give a shit" mentality, and it's the best for our well being, however in this case just fake it a little or avoid the question playfully, say "I don't kiss and tell" or make a stupid joke like "you mean how many I slept with today?", do it confidently and with a shit eating grin, don't go back on your word or hesitate and you're golden. Read this thread

LordFlakkko · 2019-10-19T19:34:42+00:00

It doesn't matter as long as you are attractive enough and can make a joke about it and use irony. Ive implied to several women that im a virgin but clearly they can tell that im not a virgin.

bumbuff · 2019-10-18T16:13:20+00:00

"I'm not a virgin, but there's always room to improve. I like to practice as often as I can."

[deleted] · 2019-10-18T17:30:56+00:00

The approach you're taking covers the essence of the Iron Rule Red Pill advice on this, as you're coming from a place of amusement and fun strategically than inadequacy. Stick with it until it doesn't work.

MindlessCalendar · 2019-10-18T14:59:34+00:00

Why does no one read the sidebar anymore? It's getting extremely annoying.

ToraChan23 · 2019-10-18T16:44:08+00:00

If a girl really wants to fuck you, she'd do it whether you've fucked 0 or 1,000.

The amount is inconsequential if there is pure desire.

Title	When a girl asks how many girls I’ve slept with is it bad to just say I’m a virgin and go along with it?
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Date	October 18, 2019 2:08 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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