I feel knowing exactly what happened to me will help me overcome it fully instead of ignoring it. I can seek out others who have had similar experiences and start work on healing using methods directed at my trauma specifically.

So I was having sex with my (ex) boyfriend about half a year ago. I’d gotten comfortable having sex with him after a bad experience with a previous boyfriend. I told him to slow down as he had bruised my cervix from the previous day. He slowed down for a few strokes before speeding up again. I told him I was in pain and to stop doing that and he needed to slow down. He slowed down once more and sped up again almost immediately. I was in a lot of pain by this point, I shouted STOP!! And he just went really slowly and I had to lie there until he finished. I was in tears and as soon as he finished I climbed over the bed and went to sleep in tears. I don’t know how to label what happened to me. Maybe labelling isn’t the right thing to do. But it would enable me to find others who had a similar experience.