Hi all, I'm not too familiar with the redpill, however, I have been reading it for the past week or so and have found myself changing from the person I was before I started reading. I'm not sure I like the change so I'd like to get some information from people not on the redpill. For reference I have not been in a relationship before and I am a 20 year old male in varsity.

I have browsed the site and it seems that a lot of males have been hurt/betrayed by women who they have truly loved or been in a good relationship with - and subsequently have turned to the redpill to "protect themselves" (my interpretation). In response, they are changing the way they approach dealing with women.

My queries are as follows:

  1. When a man is in a relationship and changes from "alpha" to "beta" behaviour (I'm going to assume this means less headstrong/IDGAF behaviour) the woman is often no longer attracted to the man, and often wants to leave. I know everyone is different but is this a phenomenon that has been noticed by people outside redpill. I.e. is it correct. Lets assume his ability to provide has not changed, if this matters.

  2. Is it true that men who continue to exhibit "alpha" behaviour even when he is with someone who he finds really special...remains more attractive to the woman they are with at the moment.

  3. Although this is likely to prove unanswerable, is it likely that the people who sub to the redpill philosophy would tend to get hurt or betrayed less.

  4. What is this subreddits opinion on the composition of a healthy longterm relationship? Not even a hint of redpill? Some aspects of redpill?

Thank you for considering my post. I know I am not experienced at this sort of thing however I would like to hear from experienced people not on the redpill to get another point of view. I am happy to be blown out of the water if necessary - I'm happy to learn.