(Q4Men) who have had a much younger LTR: Where you Whipped?

Salty-Bastard · 2019-12-17T02:40:30+00:00

You ever visit a new city/country and just wander around neighborhoods checking things out, popping into bars and restaurants, feeling the vibe and enjoying new experiences?

That's what dating young women is like, have fun and enjoy the experience cuz the relationships not going to last more than a couple of years, at most.

reluctantly_red · 2019-12-16T21:25:32+00:00

Why would age make any difference?

toddfan420 · 2019-12-17T19:48:13+00:00

yes. i had to eat many many redpills like meatballs before i actually started digesting them and doing things, and even then couldn't do anything effectively until i rewired some MAJOR areas of my brain.

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Tyler_Gatsby · 2019-12-16T22:05:59+00:00

No, I've almost always been the one who leaves or breaks it off with her.

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-12-18T03:07:43+00:00

If anything it's the opposite. The younger the woman is the more evident her immaturity and lack of experience is. The mind games, if they exist, are very transparent and obvious.

You can't pedestalize someone that is kind of an idiot.

I would be much more likely to pedestalize a woman that was accomplished and highly intelligent. Which generally means older, though not necessarily.

NeedingAdvice86 · 2019-12-16T22:05:08+00:00

Nope.....that is all on you.

lonelinessmademecave · 2019-12-16T22:22:31+00:00

I was in an LTR a few years ago in my very early 20's. Didn't start out whipped at all, but as the relationship went south I think I became more that way. It was subconscious, but I guess I was just trying to keep her.

Ironically that strategy just managed to drive her further way. I knew this intellectually, but that knowledge didn't really stop my behavior.

Nonbinary1979 · 2019-12-16T23:36:38+00:00

I'm whipped regardless of if they're my age, younger, or in a couple cases older, just because I'm a progressive feminist guy who doesn't like being rough or dominant and I'm just really thankful to have the company and companionship if any woman especially romantically.

Answering the question about younger though then yes, probably even moreso because I knew I was blessed since any of them could've just as easily been with a younger guy their own age so I worked even harder to be a considerate sensitive boyfriend, although I think those days are over now that I'm officially middle-aged at 40. I could justify it in my 30s even like 37 or 38 but 40 just feels older so its crossed creepy territory in my eyes

couldbemage · 2019-12-17T05:11:45+00:00

No.

But. I've definitely put up with morr nonsense, bullshit, bad behavior, etc from really hot girls. And younger correlates with hotter.

I've ltred two that were young enough to be my children. The six foot anorexic one.... Just Google BPD. The five two chubby girl is devoted to me in a way that isn't borderline creepy. It's definitely over that line.

But it's the same with girls my age. Being pretty is definitely added value.

2019-12-17T09:16:52+00:00

I put her up a bit from start and later put her down once I realized she is dumb and she didn't like it. My mistake for even putting her up. Eventually it ended

ToraChan23 · 2019-12-17T15:56:57+00:00

I had the opposite: a much older LTR

Best relationship I've ever had. No domination, no manipulation, no posturing, no bullshit.

cxj · 2019-12-18T00:23:04+00:00

Who Tf was going to admit to “grooming” some young girl? I’ve seen a lot of shit on ppd but never that

cxj · 2019-12-18T00:24:01+00:00

Never been whipped in an LTR but I’ve spent a lot of time single

king_of_red_alphas · 2019-12-17T03:06:09+00:00

Welp,

Out of the 7 or so LTR's I've had in my long life, 4 have been with younger women.

Age differences have spanned from 7 years to 20 years.

Most of times, issues in each relationship were not related to age. Age came up more as teasing about what pop culture things we each would or would not be familiar with. I work in an industry that kind of forces me to pay attention to shit that younger people tend to be interested in, so I guess I'm not as bad as some guys my age.

One of the breakups with a younger woman (her 21 / me 32) absolutely crushed me, and led me on a path to TRP long before I ever got there. And no, the guy wasn't her age either. He was also significantly older than her.

The only girl that had me sort of whipped was the one that crushed me. I would do a lot of crazy shit to spend time with her. To be fair, she would do equally crazy shit. It was pretty balanced. She was super generous and sweet. We lived 90 minutes away from each other and had to get creative.

We had a short breakup, but then got back together and were trying to work things out. We were actually discussing marriage, etc when she started cheating on me with somebody else in my industry, which made it sting that much more.

In any case, I've always tried to cultivate a "if she decides to leave, I can't stop her" attitude, and not live in fear of the possibility.

If anything, that's been the problem for me. Not being responsive enough because I don't want to seem to clingy.

Oh well.

One interesting thing is that I've found zero correlation between the large age gap relationships and all the others in terms of base compatibility. Their success or failure was largely determined by things like emotional compatibility, sense of humor, attraction, sexual compatibility and general outlook on life.

If I have all of those elements in place with a girl, I could give a fuck what age she is.

thasixohfour · 2019-12-16T21:37:14+00:00

Not whipped when dating women who are 15+ years younger than me. If they had a shitty attitude or whatever, I'd be like "grab you shit, and get the fuck out of my house!" Those girls like me because (relative to men their own age) I have my shit together. I have my own place, a car, I can afford to go do things, I can take care of a dog, and am not into spending my time being a drunken idiot on the weekends with my friends.

I regularly get hit on by women who are between 18 and 25, so I know that I have some latitude to pick and choose, and never have to feel like I'm settling or taking any unnecessary bullshit.

Title	(Q4Men) who have had a much younger LTR: Where you Whipped?
Author	fuckGuilt
Upvotes	9
Comments	56
Date	December 16, 2019 8:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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