Me: 22 5’10” 195 lbs ~20% BF. Bench - 225, Squat - 350 Deadlift - 385. Salary - $50k. MBA student, studying for the CPA exam. Own my own house and car. I have read the sidebar of TRP (probably what got me into this situation in the first place) and then found this sub and was pleasantly surprised about a month ago.

The story goes: I met a girl a few months ago and took a fancy to her. I avoided all the nice guy crap and I quickly had her at my side. No LTR but we are working towards that. She’s Lutheran while I myself am Catholic. This is not a question regarding my Catholic Faith just rather how I handled it. As I have said, we have been seeing each other for a few months and did a piss poor job of establishing my boundaries with her. We quickly escalated from kissing into groping and then last night I had sex with her. I have never had sex with anyone before and quite frankly I was thinking with the wrong head. I have long held fast to Catholic Morality (again, not a discussion on this) but I clearly violated an integral part of me. I sat in Mass today and realized that. Now that I have swallowed the red pill, I am not an emotional wreck and I am content with many many things. I realized this and she texted me today asking me how I was feeling. I knew how I was feeling so I called her and told her.

She’s a good girl. She has LTR qualities and I am actively vetting this. I told her that I would like to continue seeing her and then set my boundaries with her. To provide terminology, I made sure she understand that my limit was 1st base and that I seek to actively avoid sin. I then said that it was up to her for whether or not she was okay with this and wanted to continue seeing me. She was very confused how I had sex with her one night, but then turned around and told her I don’t want to do it again and that I set boundaries at a much earlier point. Needless to say, she sounded upset. This, however, doesn’t bother me. I made a mistake and am doing my best to mitigate this to make sure it won’t happen again and to continue pleasing the Lord. Because that is what matters most.

Would love to hear feedback from you all.

Thank you and God Bless!