How do you deal with 'flirty with everyone' girls?

319Skew · 2019-12-20T01:38:46+00:00

Ask your self what would Jesus do.

justforgigs96 · 2019-12-20T01:27:27+00:00

Why are you overthinking this so much? You sound like you have oneitis over a chick you barely know.

Regardless, escalate once. If she plays you for an orbiter, you act like she doesn’t exist and move on.

fitness4393 · 2019-12-20T03:36:24+00:00

You really have to be careful to not validate her as that's what these types of girls want.

Might sound extreme but responding to her text or snapchat the same day she sent it, is validation to a degree.

Instead of push, pull, push, pull, you need to be more like: push, push, push, pull. Make her question if you're even interested in her.

No easy feat because these girls have a ton of dudes around them but she can easily prioritize you if you're at the top of your shit... nice physique, good social circle, high income, good lifestyle, etc

thrwy75479 · 2019-12-20T01:50:38+00:00

With these kind of girls, you have to out-flirt them. The way to do that is to make her uncertain of whether you're flirting with her, or not.

You do that by flirting with her but having an agenda other than sex. This is great in a work scenario. You can be charming, flirt with her, act like you're escalating, and then move to a work issue.

For instance, you're walking by her desk, you exchange hellos, she's being flirty, you're being charming, there are light touches, laughter, and as she's hooked, you pull back, "Can I borrow your stapler?", "Uh, oh, sure.", "Thanks." Walk away.

Of course, you don't always have a work agenda. Sometimes, you flirt just to have fun with her. Other times, you don't flirt, and directly ask for what you want: "Hey, so is the report done?", "Not quite. You're looking sha…", "Let me know, I need time to look it over before sending it out.", "Okay." This adds to the confusion: "Does he like me, or is he only friendly when he wants something? Is he always charming? Was he in a bad mood?"

Basically, treat her like a distant prospect. You're banging other chicks, so you're not invested in her. You're preempting her flirtation with your own, and simply keeping your social skills sharp. If you bang, great. If not, whatever.

WIA20XX · 2019-12-20T01:40:05+00:00

Isolate, run your game, bang. She never gets past FB status.

If she tries to upgrade the relationship, tell her the truth about her personality and behavior.

How could I be serious about you, when you aren't serious about you?

alphakari · 2019-12-20T02:44:53+00:00

Girls like this are easiest to game by gaming their friends. The less directly you raise your SMV in her eyes the better. Alternatively, playing it really risky with some aggressive push pull might work if you happen to do it at a time she's receptive.

Not to say it can't be done another way, but personally seems too much work any other way unless she percieves your SMV to be much higher than her's from the jump.

dadfrombrad · 2019-12-20T06:42:22+00:00

Use this lmao. Start a convo with them and isolate and shit. She’ll flirt with you 1 on 1 then you’ll eventually fuck

_ozunu · 2019-12-20T10:39:44+00:00

Approach her like any other girl. You should never play her game but impose yours.

A girl being flirty or more 'outgoing' is a game trap. She blurs the frontier between being outgoing and flirtation so any man struggles to know where he stands with her at any time. "Is she interested or just herself ?".
By imposing your frame and not caring about her being flirty or not, you break the spell.

XXXMersenne · 2019-12-20T14:02:11+00:00

by sharing similar 'masculine' interests

I don't give a fuck about her WWE action figures as long as she's a sweet kitten & worksout; round ass strong curves type shit.

How do you guys deal with women like this

There's nothing to do. You know she's a flirt.

Kinda like the guy who's always letting you know all the "cool" shit he's done. Smile nod & bounce at first opp. You remain steadfast to yourself; neither agreeing with nor refuting his communication. He's an unskippable ad about to end— Well, that is unless you can hack the nuclear option of "Fuck off Stan I don't wanna hear it" without a flinch. A modicum of guilt when doing this is interpersonal nitroglycerine which is 99% gonna blow since most have 0 self awareness let alone self control.

Or play along ironically with deviously hyperbolic expressions of infatuation

"Your hair always looks so nice! Do you have extensions!" Close but no Cigar

"You look different, have u been hittin the gym?" No she hasn't

"I found this Model on instagram ~~that looks like~~ who reminded me of you!" Model is hero you are villain.

Of course the ultimate goal is have them refrain from prolonged drugerous engagement alltogether to if you maintain a patiently bored disposition with em they'll get the message... acutally thats unless they're narcisssits in their own world sucking energy off your open ears, in which case break glass & go Nuclear.

btrpb · 2019-12-20T10:04:46+00:00

You answered your own question. You escalate. If she blows you out you move on. Simple. It's better that than the not knowing and letting your own little "what-if" hamster spin.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-12-20T15:09:39+00:00

" My approach so far has been to be the opposite of the betas she normally deals with by being aloof and indifferent to her while still teasing "

keep doing this. do not give her the attention she craves.

I worked with a few women like this, fawned over by every man, single or married, in the joint. I ran into 2 them a year or 3 later, on separate occaisions. bagged them both. and both commented, out of the blue, pillow talk, how "I was the only guy who didn't flirt with them" and it made them both (separately) want me.

let her enjoy her CC attention. you wanting her to want you is your Ego. If you want her for conquest or challenge, go for it. But don't expect her to give up her Gold. She is in her PRIME now, she'll start sliding towards the wall soon enough.

Domebeers · 2019-12-20T16:25:06+00:00

withdraw all your attention and see what she does. Don't give her your attention back unless she wants to suck your dick. That's how you deal with it.

(You withdraw. She'll send some stupid text or something to get you talking again. Do not. Respond with "lets grab a drink". If her answer isn't yes, end the convo, no 'flirting'.)

And game other girls.

2019-12-20T18:33:01+00:00

How do you deal with these girls? You don’t. Find someone better.

downvotesanimals · 2019-12-20T19:03:32+00:00

Pump & Dump

Snowboard18 · 2019-12-20T04:15:57+00:00

Ask her out and then you’ll get your answer if she’s interested or not

NexusReflexX · 2019-12-20T04:16:55+00:00

So i believe all of these comments are wrong. They are all telling you to act or behave a certain way because of the "type" of girl she is.

Why not be a fucking man and talk to her. Walk up to her, say hello and hold unrelenting eye contact. Invade her personal space, but dont come off as creepy. Make her want you.

Watch how the betas talk to her. With a big stupid grin, looking down, with their hands in their pocket.

Isolate her away, not phisiccally but mentally.

Be the wolf among sheep.

Title	How do you deal with 'flirty with everyone' girls?
Author	YallmindifIhitthat
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Date	December 20, 2019 1:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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There's nothing to do. You know she's a flirt.

Or play along ironically with deviously hyperbolic expressions of infatuation